BA'T PARANG KASALANAN KO? | Byahe Sender (January 25, 2023) | Love Radio Manila
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So ito, my love, ang biyahe ng buhay ni Kay.
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Hi DJ Lala, itago nyo na lang po ko sa pangalang Kay,
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21 years old from Cebu City.
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Mayroon na lang po ako sa pangalang Kay,
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21 years old from Cebu City.
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At mayroon na lang po ako sa pangalang Kay,
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21 years old from Cebu City.
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DJ, I'm the eldest among our siblings.
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Masaya naman po ang pagsasama namin ng pamilya ko.
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My parents are both supported.
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We used to have a family not until namatay
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ang pang-anim naming kapatid,
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ang nag-iisang lalakin namin.
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nagbago na po yung pagtrato sa akin ng parents ko,
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Kung baga ako po yung sinisisin niya
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sa pagkawala ng kapatid ko.
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Pabaya daw kasi akong ate,
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makasarili daw kasi,
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mas pinili kong iligtas ang sarili ko
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kesa sa kapatid ko.
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DJ, I don't know what to do.
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Di ko po alam kung mapapatawad pa ako ni Papa.
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I tried to talk to him but ayaw niya po.
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DJ, sobrang miss ko na po yung Papa ko.
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Miss ko na yung dating siya.
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Mag-iisang taon na po
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simula nung nawala ang kapatid ko
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pero hanggang ngayon,
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hindi pa din kami nagkakaayos ni Papa.
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Sobrang sakit lang po
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kasi hindi ko din naman ginusto
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ang nangyari sa kapatid ko.
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Pero di ko po talaga maintindihan
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kung bakit ayaw ni Papa makinig man lang sa akin.
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DJ, sana po matulungan niyo ako.
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Thank you and more power to your show.
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Kay, I'm so sorry na kailangan mo yung pagdaanan.
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I know na hindi lang naman Papa mo ang hurting
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sa pagkawala ng kapatid mo.
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I know that you are too.
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At hindi mo magawa na mag-cope.
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Hindi mo man lang magawa
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magkaroon ng ample time para mag-grieve
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sa pagkawala niya.
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Because for the past year,
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instead of coping, instead of grieving,
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what you've been doing
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is trying to mend
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your broken relationship with your father.
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that you have to be in that situation.
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Pero ito yung mga moments, my love,
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na you cannot do this alone.
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People around you should help you.
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People around you should mediate.
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This is not just a concern between you and your father.
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This is a family affair.
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So kung hindi mo makausap
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ang Papa mo directly,
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kung ayaw niya pa makipag-usap sa'yo,
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kung nakikipag-usap man siya,
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pero ayaw ka niyang pakinggan,
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your siblings, mga kapatid mo, should help.
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Your mother should help.
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Kasi they are the only people
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that can put clarity
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over your father's head.
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Sila lang yung makakaget-through
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Kung sinisisi ka man niya
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sa pagkawala ng kapatid mo,
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please do not blame yourself.
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In behalf of him,
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do not blame yourself.
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What happened to your sibling,
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what happened to your brother
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is something na hindi mo ginusto.
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Alam mo yan sa puso mo.
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Alam yan na mga kapatid mo.
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Alam yan ng mama mo.
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despite ng sabihin na natin
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cloud over his head,
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despite ng darkness
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sa mga mata niya,
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he knows deep within
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it was not your fault.
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Hindi mo yun kasalanan.
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He just needed someone to blame.
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He just needed someone to take the hit.
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Kasi nasasaktan siya.
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At hindi niya alam kung paano niya
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or ilalabas yung sakit na yun.
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That's why naghahanap siya ng someone
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to blame and I'm so sorry that
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you have to be the person
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that has to take the impact
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ng paghahanap niya ng paraan
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I don't want you to develop any anger
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towards your father.
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I want you to remember just
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how you remember him before.
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I want you to remember him
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as a loving father.
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I want you to remember your family
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na wala kayong problema,
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na alam mo yun, nagkakaintindihan kayo,
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masaya kayo sa piling ng isa't isa.
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Yun yung gusto kong tandaan mo.
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Yun yung gusto kong memory mo
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I don't want you to
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as your representation
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The reason why I'm asking you to do this
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because I know na
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kung sila mag-a-ask nito sa'yo,
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kung sila yung hihiling nito sa'yo,
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it will be a lot for them to ask of you.
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The reason why I'm doing this
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because I want you to
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still open your doors
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that everything will be okay
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Na in time, ma-realize din
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na kung anuman yung ginagawa niya sa'yo,
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Kung anuman yung ipinaparamdam niya sa'yo,
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Blaming you for something na everybody
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doesn't want to happen,
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And I want you to wait for
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that time to happen.
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Nang wala kang galit,
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nang wala kang tampo,
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nang hindi mo sinisisi yung sarili mo,
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nang hindi mo kinekwestiyon
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nang hindi mo kinekwestiyon bakit ikaw pa yung nabuhay
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at di na lang yung kapatid mo.
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I don't want you to do that
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to yourself, and I don't want you
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to burden yourself
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papunta sa tatay mo.
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Naintindihan mo ko, my love.
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I know you are in pain as well.
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I know you're hurting as well.
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So I want you to listen to my voice.
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with every strength
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you have in your body,
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don't think about
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Alalahanin mo lang na hindi mo to
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With every strength
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you have in your body, I want you to
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continuously understand,
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your father is in pain.
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Kung anuman yung sinasabi niya ngayon,
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kung anuman yung sinasabi niya ngayon,
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kung anuman yung pinakikita niya yun,
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it's not him. It's not his voice.
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It's not his act.
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It's the pain talking.
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It's the pain doing things.
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Naintindihan mo ko,
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my love? And if ever
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may mga times you feel like it's too much
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for you to handle, you can talk
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to your siblings.
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Have an open communication with
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them. Huwag mong sarilinin
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yan. Yang sama ng loob yung
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sakit, huwag mong sarilinin.
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Makipag-usap ka sa kanila constantly.
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that you understand and you are trying
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Na hinahabaan mo yung pasensya mo
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sa pinagdadaanan ng pamilya nyo.
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You talk to your mom as well.
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What happened is something
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na hindi mo ginusto.
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It was an accident.
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Naintindihan mo ko, my love?
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I want you to be strong.
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it's a lot to ask
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a young person like
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you, from someone like
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you na may pinagdaanan din, na nasaktan
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din, na may trauma
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din. I know it's a lot to ask
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Pero at this point in your life,
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there's nothing really much you can do
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but be strong. Magpakatatak.
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Maging mapagpasensya.
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Maging maunawain.
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Maging maintindihin.
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One day, this storm will pass.
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Lilipas tung bagyong
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And the people involved
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will realize how strong you've
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At yung realization
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will make your family even stronger
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Kasi sa lahat naman ng trahedya
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ng buhay, lalo na trahedya
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sa pamilya, after
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after lumipas ng bagyo,
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pinapaigting lang
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naman yan yung pagsasama ng
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pamilya. You just have to wait
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till the storm pass.
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Kailangan mo lang maghintay
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Lumipas yung dilubyo.
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miembro ng pamilya mo, kung paano
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mo sila natandaan before,
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kung paano mo inaalala
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yung pagsasama nyo before,
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it will be just like that.
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better. But for now,
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do not accommodate any
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negative thoughts.
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udyok ng kun sino mga poncho
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pelato na mapagsasabihan mo
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at alam mo yun, nasusulsulan ka
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na dapat hindi ganyan.
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Bakit ganyan yung ano mo?
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Dapat hindi naman siya ganyan.
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Huwag ka magpadala dyan.
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mo away yung thoughts, negative
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sa tatay mo or kung sino man,
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sa mga kapatid mo yung may masasabing
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hindi maganda tungkol dun
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sa traumatic event na yun in your
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yung ganong klaseng comment, do not
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Katulad ng sinabi ko,
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it's just a pain talking.
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I'm sorry na ikaw yung tumatanggap ng blow.
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Pero sabi ko nga sa lahat ng mga taong
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dinadalaw ng unos ng buhay,
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maybe the reason why
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binabagsak yung bigat,
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sa atin binabagsak yung
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lahat ng suntok ng hamon ng
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is because somehow,
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the universe know
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malakas kasi tayo,
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Di tayo mabubual.
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So take it all in.
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Reassure yourself
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everything will be okay.
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And if ever you want to talk
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to someone, talk to
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your family about it,
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siblings mo, mommy mo,
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your closest friends,
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send me a message
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Para lang hindi magkaroon ng
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negative thoughts in your head.
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Your family is grieving, my love.
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Hindi pa sila makakope.
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Hindi pa kayo makakope lahat.
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Dito ako maniniwala
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na minsan ang kailangan lang natin
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maghilom yung sukat.
