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It is found, meron kasing study, ito.
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Kinundak ang Michigan State University na in I think 700 na families
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saying na yung mga bata na...
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merong tatay or may active role yung tatay nila sa buhay nila
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tends to be smarter and more empathetic.
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Ibig sabihin, mas emotionally giving sila.
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Kung may tatay sila na active part ng kanilang buhay than those fatherless children.
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Ibig lang sabihin nun, kung tatay ka ng anak mo,
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baka naman pwede kang mag-spend ng more than 6 minutes sa anak mo.
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It's that simple.
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Siguro gawin mong isa.
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Isang oras or tapos bumalik ka ulit sa trabaho mo or dalawang oras, ganyan.
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Or kung off mo, spend more time with your child.
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Kasi nga, it is always better to have a two-income household.
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Ibig sabihin, yung nanay yung tatay, nakatrabaho.
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And then, kung hindi naman kaya, may isang may iwan.
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Pero, hindi pa rin absent.
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Yung tatay sa buhay ng anak.
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Isipin nyo na lang, kung siguro, yun yung naging kabataan ni Koy-Koy.
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Nire-reflect nga lang sa mga salita niya na wala siyang tatay nung lumaki siya.
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So, pinaproject niya yung sarili niya as if siya yung kaya siya iniwanan ng tatay niya
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or walang tatay yung anak niya.
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Wala siyang tatay nung lumalaki siya kasi alpha yung tatay niya.
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When in fact, siguro, batugan lang, diba?
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Kasi, kanyang siya magsalita eh.
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Titimpla ng mga gatas niya.
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Hindi ko trabaho yun eh.
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Para sa akin, tol.
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Kunyari, napagtimpla.
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Traditional gender roles kasi talaga na ang tatay ang nagpoprovide sa pamilya.
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Pero, in today's time and age, kung kaya naman magtrabaho ng babae,
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tapos yung babae, kunyari, has a good career.
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Halimbawa, accountant.
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Halimbawa, doktor.
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Halimbawa, abogado.
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Would you not let her use yung kanyang pagiging abogado, accountant, or lawyer, or doctor?
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Just because, para mag-feeling alpha ka sa bahay nyo.
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It's stupid pagka gano'n yung ginawa mo.
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Ito kasi mga tao na to.
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Yung mga kausap ni Bugoy.
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They can only see the world in their perspective.
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Hindi pwede yung...
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Current research, hindi pwede yung mga objective answers.
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Si John Pia Jay, isang psychologist siya.
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Yung mga bata, sabi niya merong egocentrism.
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Eh, sila kasi para sila mga bata mag-isip eh.
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Kasi may egocentrism sila.
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They suffer from great egocentrism.
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All they think of is to spread their toxic masculinity sa mga...
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And, kawawa din yung mga nakikinig sa kanila.
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Baka kasi isipin na gospel to.
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When in fact, it's just, you know,
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spreading toxicity sa internet.
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O, sige, tuloy na natin.
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Nag-fail yung nanay niya.
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Parang gano'n sa akin yun eh.
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May point, may point.
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Hindi, walang point yun actually.
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Ano lang, sila-sila lang yan.
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Parang ano to eh.
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Kilala niyo si Lil Wayne.
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Yung, yeah, yeah, okay.
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Ganon-ganon yan eh.
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Yung mga ganyan eh.
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Pag nagpa-pad ka sila,
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kailangan may yes man.
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Para ma-validate agad yung bullshit na point.
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Walang nagcha-challenge.
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So, hindi nagpa-foster ng critical thinking.
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Kasi hindi tina-challenge yung positions mo eh.
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Hindi ko trabaho to ah.
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Secure yung future niyo eh.
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Pag titimplahin mo ko ng gatas dito.
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Iisipin ng iba, sabihin nila sa akin,
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sa mama naman tatay.
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Para sa akin, yun.
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Di lang tatay, tol.
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Nag-u-waste ka nga ng time
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pag nagtitimpla ka ng gatas.
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Yun lang ba pwedeng gawin ng tatay
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kasama ng anak niya?
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Child-rearing is not only
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sa pagpapatimpla ng gatas.
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Yung pagpalit ng diapers.
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Yung playtime with your kids.
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Kasi that is an important role.
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Yung bond with your kids.
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Para maging credit sila sa society.
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either magiging parang si Bugoy na Kuy-Kuy
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Pag sinunod mo yung mga sinasabi nila,
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o magiging asawa nito.
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Would you want that?
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Piga ka ng calamansi
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or nag-i-spread ka ng toxic...
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toxic fake masculinity.
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Toxic fake masculinity dito sa internet.
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Make money ka dapat.
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Gumagawa ka ng pera doon
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para ma-secure yung pamilya mo.
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Nagtitimpla ka ng gata.
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Paano ba gumawa ng pera sa perception nyo?
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Ganun lang ba kadali yun?
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Kunyari nga may karir yung babae,
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kasi kailangan siya yung nagtitimpla ng gatas
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or magiging practical ka
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that you would find a middle ground
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para alagaan yung anak nyo.
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Pero you would still play an active role
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sa child rearing.
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kung limang araw yung pasok yung dalawa,
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pagka uwi nyo sa bahay,
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family bonding time na.
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Pag Saturday, Sunday,
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you spend time with the kids.
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Isn't that not the way
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a modern family should play
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their parts in rearing their children?
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I'm backing my shit up with science.
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Itong study na ito is saying
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that if a father has an active role
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sa pagpapalaki sa anak nila,
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the child has more potential
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and to have more emotional control.
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Maging empathetic sila sa paligid nila.
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kung iniwanan ka ng tatay mo,
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wag mo namang ipahid na
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dapat yan din yung gawin.
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Dapat yan din yung gawin
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ng tatay ng ibang tao.
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Parang mali naman yun.
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Be an active part ng anak mo
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so that your kids become
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productive member of society.
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Iwasan nyo maging si Bugoy na kuy-kuy
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or maging si Manet.
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Diba, yan yung dalawang pupuntahan mo
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pag sinusunod mo yung sinasabi niya.
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Either magiging asawa ka ni Tor
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Hindi ako naniniwala
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na walang taste yung mga anak nyo.
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Ano bang empire yun?
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Business empire agad.
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See, this is sign na naman to
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ng egocentrism eh.
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Hindi naman lahat na kami po ay may
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nagbebenta ng damit.
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napakaganda na nakabaludbod
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sa katawan ni Josh Mojica.
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ginawa niyang ano eh,
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pag nakita mong pumorma si Josh Mojica,
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alam mong binihisa ni Frank eh.
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Yun ba ay mali na
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kasi usually kasi ang usual roles
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ng babae't lalaki in today's society,
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they both have jobs.
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So, yung perspective mo
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is only applicable sa'yo.
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Kasi may negosyo ka eh.
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See? Egocentrism.
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Tingin nila ngayon sa leader mo.
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Halimbawa nakakita ka ng hari,
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dalawang daan ang anak niya
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pinagtitimpla niya ng gata sa araw.
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Hindi naman kayo si Genghis Khan eh.
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tsaka hindi naman din dalawang daan
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Ilan ba bubuntisin niyo?
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Dalawang daan din.
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that's a lot of women.
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Ngayon kasi pinoprotectahan na yung
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may mga karapatan na tayong pambabae.
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may relationship kayo
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and they feel abused.
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dami mong dinojowa eh.
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May relationship kang ganyan.
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They can always file for that.
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So, ingat lang din.
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ah, kung mabubuntis ka ng maraming babae,
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make sure na they are aware of your situation.
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Hindi lang yung ganyan.
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Araw, tas hinihele niya pa.
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Ang trabaho ni Genghis yan mang conquer eh.
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Ang trabaho ni...
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mga Genghis Khan ba kayo?
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Si Genghis Khan kasi,
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commits war crimes nung panahon niya.
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Do you commit war crimes?
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You are people trying to make money off,
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Yung isa nagbibenta ng damit,
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walang kwentang rap.
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Yung iisa yung tono,
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Pero hindi kayo ano,
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nagko-conquer ng mga bansa.
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200 na babae na kinanaat
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para magkaanak ng dalawandaan.
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So hindi na applicable sa inyo yung sitwasyon ni Genghis Khan.
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What you have is probably multiple partners
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and yung multiple partners na yun
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kada magkakaanak yun,
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requires your attention at the very least.
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Ano ba naman yung,
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hindi lang kasi sperm donor ang,
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ang active role ng lalaki.
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They can be part of the child's,
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as I've mentioned,
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yung active role na yun,
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mas matalino yung anak mo,
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has more empathy towards humanity.
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Anong mas pipiliin n'yo?
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parang maging bugoy na koy-koy,
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someone na credit sa society.
