TONI Episode 100 | Why Mica Javier Never Believed The Rumors About RnB King JayR
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Mika, siljona na!
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Mika, siljona na!
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Oh, may Siljona na!
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Grabe, JR! Ngayon ko lang nalaman, Siljona!
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Oh, my! Kasi for the longest time, JR ka lang!
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Hindi, kasi si JR, ang history namin is we worked together
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Oo, naging love team kami sa Love to Love.
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In GMA. Oo, it was a Sunday afternoon show.
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Tapos bagong uwi pa lang siya sa Pilipinas nun.
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Si Mika, probably.
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Yes, nasa States ako, nag-aaral.
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Hindi, pero nag-aaral ka sa Philippines din, diba?
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You studied in IS.
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Kailan ka nag-transfer sa US?
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Oh, nandun pa siya nun.
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Baka nang panood mo pa yung episode namin dito.
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Or hindi siya nanonood sa TV.
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Kasi si Mika come from a family na talagang entrepreneurs.
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For the entertainment.
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And entertainment.
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Kasi tito niya si the great Danny Javier, member ng Ako.
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Paano kayo nag-meet?
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By accident, actually.
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Kasi nagkumunta ako sa isang charity event.
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Tapos nandan si Mika na nanonood.
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Artisan na siya nun?
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Wala ba sa showbiz?
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Pero si Mika, um...
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Gumapit siya sa akin.
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ay, sorry, kala ko kilala kita.
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Tapos umalis, sabi ko,
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wow, ang ganda nito eh.
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Single ka ba nun, JR?
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Single ako nun, sakto.
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Charity event yun ni Apple The App.
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Hindi, pero akala mo talaga kilala mo siya?
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na-invite ako ni Apple,
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na kilala ko siya sa New York pa.
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Tapos lagi siyang may maraming kasama, maraming friends.
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So, inisa-isa ko yung nasa table niya.
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Ang nasa huli, si JR.
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Eh, yung table nila, katabi na ng stage.
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Yun pala, mag-perform na siya.
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Hindi siya kasama dun sa...
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Hindi mo alam na siya si JR na performer?
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Hindi, hindi ko talaga alam.
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Hindi niya alam kung yan.
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Uy, may era na talagang nagkakaloka-loka
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Talagang naabutan ko yan.
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JR, the bakit pa ba days?
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Wala ako dito ng time na yun.
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Hindi mo alam yung era na...
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Yung craze ng JR na lahat ng billboards sa kanya daw.
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Hindi ko nakita yun.
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na-appreciate ko na hindi niya alam.
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Kasi, diba minsan, you know, in showbiz,
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pag may konting fame ka...
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May notion na sila pre-conception?
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Exactly, exactly.
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Kaya hindi mo din malalaman kung gusto ka nila
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dahil may konting fame
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or diba, parang may song ka sa radyo or something.
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Diba, so, na-appreciate ko na parang
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she got to know me for me talaga.
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So, after that charity event,
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pero sinabi niya sa'yo eh.
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Nagandaan siya sa'yo eh.
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Nakipag-usap pa siya.
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Ang pinag-usapan namin, music.
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Kasi kakabalik ko lang galing sa New York that time.
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Siguro, one or two months pa lang ako sa Manila.
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And sa New York kasi nag-record ako ng maraming original songs
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na gusto ko sanang i-release as my solo project.
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Eh, pag-uwi ko dito, parang walang...
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walang label na gets kung ano yung ginagawa ko.
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Kasi unang-una, English yung mga kanta ko
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and American pop sounding.
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Nung kuinento ko sa kanya,
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gets na gets niya agad.
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Nasabi ko, bakit, ba't parang
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parang nabavibe mo ko.
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Gets mo yung ginagawa ko.
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Tapos sabi niya, let's go to the studio.
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Let's listen to your music.
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Tapos baka pwede tayong gumawa ng song.
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Parang natatawa si JR.
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Parang dumahilan lang to si JR na parang
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let's go to the studio.
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Pero talagang parang sumimplika na do'n.
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Oo, syempre. Sabi ko, jackpot. Yes.
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You wanna get to know her more.
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Pero ang tagal kaya.
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Tagal niya mag sumagot ng mga texts.
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Talagang ang tagal mag first meeting
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para makapasok sa studio.
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Talagang pinagligawan.
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Hindi naman on purpose.
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Eh, ba't nga hindi ka ma-reply noon?
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Eh, kasi kaka-uwi ko lang.
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So, tumira ako mag-isa sa States.
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Pag-uwi ko dito, nasa family house na naman kami.
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Tinanong mo ba sa mga family members or kahit sa mga friends mo?
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There's this guy, JR.
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Ba't let me say, yung mga kaibigan niya ayaw sa akin kasi
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nang bubog-bog daw ako.
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Yun ang image mo ba noon?
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Yeah, parang ganun yung nangyari lumabas na parang
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nun ang bubog-bog si JR.
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Eh, yung mga friends yun na rin eh,
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kaya sinasabi sa kanya na parang
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huwag dyan, huwag dyan.
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Noong time na yun...
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Ah, sinabihan mo talaga sa friends mo?
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Yeah, nag-hang out na kami ilang beses
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with other people.
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Dance with Greenbelt, mga mcafe ganyan.
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Um, tapos mahilig kami mag-jamming biglaan sa mga
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sa mga bar or resto bar.
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Open mic or something.
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Tapos yung mga kaibigan ko at that time,
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naririnig nila na may balita nga na
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wife beater daw si JR.
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Oh, so sabi nila...
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Ano ba namang balita yan?
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Sabi nila, pag-isipan mo muna baka kasi
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bad yan, whatever.
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Pero, parang nakilala ko na siya.
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Parang na-vibe ko na na mabuting tao si JR.
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So, sabi ko wala naman,
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wala akong nafifeel na may ganun.
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So, paano mo hinahandle yung bad publicity na yun?
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Okay lang, okay lang naman sa akin.
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Kasi sa akin naman, pag hindi totoo,
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hindi ko naman...
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Okay lang naman kung may sinasabas sa akin.
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You know, I'm R&B. I'll just keep going.
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Hindi, pero diba, that's a bad image for a guy.
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That you're beating up women.
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Pero siyempre, ayoko naman parang
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mag-gumawa ng statement na,
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ay, sorry na ganito lumalabas na...
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Kasi wala naman talaga akong ginawa.
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I don't wanna parang feed fuel to the fire
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for something na hindi naman totoo.
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So, hindi mo nalang siya, pinalipas mo nalang?
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Pinalipas ko nalang.
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Oh, pag alam mo minsan kasi yung totoo,
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you don't have to even defend yourself.
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The truth will defend itself.
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Tsaka kung mabuti kang tao,
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lahat ng nakakasama mo,
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alam naman yun eh.
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You don't have to, I mean, right?
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Depends talaga sa breathing, sa character mo.
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Tinanong mo siya about that issue.
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Kasi yung mga friends mo, lahat ganon.
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Uy, huwag siya, huwag siya.
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Alam mo, hindi ko siya kinonfront.
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Kuinento ko lang.
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Pero parang wala lang.
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Kasi hindi ako naniwala din eh.
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May gut feeling lang ako na mabuting tao siya.
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Yung pamilya ko kasi iba yung upbringing sa amin.
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Si Papa sobrang strict.
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And then, you know,
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we grew up with sina Tito Danny also.
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So, parang nakikita mo din yung in and out nila sa showbiz.
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Kung paano sila makipag-deal with press and media.
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So, parang hindi siya surprising sa akin na may mga ganyang nangyayari.
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And toon ko, parang may shield ako ng konti.
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Hindi ako masyadong gullible sa mga chismes.
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Good job, good job.
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Kasi, ibig sabihin na hindi siya judgmental na tao.
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E baka kasi type mo na rin siya nung time na yun.
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Mabait ka siya eh.
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Baka attracted ka na rin.
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Kaya parang hindi mo na nakita yung mga sinasabi nila.
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Tapos, gets niya pa ako.
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Wala akong ibang kaibigan dito na naiintindihan kung anong gusto ko gawin.
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Kailan lumabas yung attraction?
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Maraming instances na parang napapaisip ako na,
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Consistent talaga mabait siya.
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It's small things.
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Like, opening the door.
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Ganyan. Tapos making sure na pag kakain,
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ikaw munang isa serve.
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Kasi diba sikat siya?
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Medyo naiilang ako doon kasi hindi ko alam kung
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iba ba yung personality niya sa harap ng fans
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at kung walang fans.
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Napansin ko agad kay J-Ark.
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Pag may fans, parehas siya pag walang fans.
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Same personality, same humility.
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Same. Same person.
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Dito, sa Pilipinas at sa States din.
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Kasi nagpunta din kami sa L.A.
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para mag-shoot ng music video sa song na ginawa namin.
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And he was exactly the same person.
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Ito na yung new moves ko, Toni.
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kailan na nagkaroon ng aminan ng feelings?
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Ako, amin ko, love at first sight, you know?
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Right when I saw her talaga.
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Thank you sa akin.
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May time na lagi ko siyang pinupost.
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E meron akong tita sa States.
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Umahawag siya bigla.
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Sabi niya, hey Mika,
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when are you going to allow yourself to fall in love?
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What do you mean? Bakit?
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Sabi niya, I think when you allow yourself to do that,
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everything will fall into place.
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Wala lang. Wala lang.
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Just saying. Parang ganun.
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Ano yung nakikita niya sa mga posts ko?
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Bakit niya sasabihin yun?
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Pero yung mga posts mo, ano lang yan?
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Friendly posts, like...
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Posts, or we're in the studio.
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Walang mga sweet caption na ganun.
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May puntong nga nung medyo na-frustrated na ako kasi
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ilang months na talaga talagang
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ang taray niya, super taray sa akin.
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So parang, pero at the same time,
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napifeel ko na parang
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close din siya sa akin, na parang gusto niya din,
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Pero honest ako ah.
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Honest ako, sabi ko talaga sa kanya,
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don't fall in love with me.
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Awok to remember naman pala ang atake ba dyan?
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Diba sinabi ni Mandy Moore yan kay Shana?
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In one condition, don't fall in love with me.
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Sinabi ko talaga kasi
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parang feeling ko gustong-gusto na niya ako
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ng time na yun, and hindi pa ako ready.
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At least alam niya,
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wait lang, hindi pa ako ready.
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So sabi niya ito, do you like me or not?
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Do you love me or not?
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First time ko mag-sabi, sabi ko,
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do you love me or not?
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May story nga ako eh.
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Kausap ko yung ate ko,
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ate Jinko. Hi ate!
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And then, sabi ko,
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ate, this new girl, sabi ko,
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ewan ko, ayaw niya talaga sa akin eh.
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Parang feeling ko,
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parang ito na. So sabi ko sa kanya,
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help me na, help me na parang
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take my mind off of her.
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Kasi from now on,
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I'm not gonna think of her.
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pag mag-text siya,
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ano lang, cordial lang,
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hindi yung masweet na anymore.
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And then one hour later,
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tumawag si Mika sa akin,
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nasa hotel siya sa LA.
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JR, may mga tao dito,
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may mga lalaki nakasama ng friends ko.
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Okay lang ba pumunta ka dito
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para tulungan mo ako?
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pause mo na yan ha.
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Punta mo na ako doon sana.
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Gusto mo talaga siya?
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Gusto mo talaga siya?
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don't fall in love with me,
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Pag sinabi mo sa lalaki yun,
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lalong may in love siya yung lalaki.
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Noon pala yung style mo ha.
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don't fall in love with me,
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baka may feelings ka na noon.
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meron din akong konting takot.
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Kasi diba lahat naman tayo,
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meron tayong exes
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relationships na hindi maganda.
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So takot din ako sa ganoon,
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Parang focus muna ako,
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gusto kong maging matino
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kung anong ginagawa ko,
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where I will put my energy.
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blinock ko talaga yun,
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magkaroon ng boyfriend agad.
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Kailan ka nag-open up kay JR?
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ginawa namin yung anniversary date namin.
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After kaming bumalik from that LA trip,
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that was February,
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ginawa namin March 1
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yung anniversary namin.
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So walang formal na parang titanong ko siya,
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will you be my girlfriend?
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O ganun, o ganun, o ganun.
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Parang nangyari lang.
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Organic lang yung
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yung naging kami.
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When did you know in your heart
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that kayo yung the ones that I set my sights on?
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Nag-snowboarding kami.
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Hindi ko matandaan kung Big Bear
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Siya yung nagturo sa akin
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kung paano mag-snowboard.
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So, paulit-ulit na hulog ako
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sa tarik ng bundok.
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Tapos may isang try
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Humampas yung ulo ko sa snow.
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Tapos siya parang
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parang 10 meters down na siya from me.
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Tapos nakita niya gumano na ako.
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Tapos nakahiga lang ako.
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Tapos nag-nosebleed pa nga ako nung time na yun.
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I swear, yung 10 meters niya,
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dalawang hakbang,
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nandito na siya sa harap ko.
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Naging Iron Man si J.R.
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Tapos na yung mahal ko.
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Yung concern niya,
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yung concern sa mata niya,
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na kung okay lang ba ako.
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parang nagbagok ka sa ulo.
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And then you're like,
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My knight in shining armor.
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Yung nag-blurred,
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tapos biglang luminaw.
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Yung sa mga romcom.
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Di ba yung nuntog siya,
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So si J.R. yung nakita ko.
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May ganon akong memory.
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Na parang never akong,
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never akong naka-experience na
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natignan ng ganong klaseng
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So, after that I was like,
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Oh, he's gonna take care of me.
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With the nosebleed and all.
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Pwede na itong for life.
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Ang layo kaya nun.
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Paano mo nga natalon?
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Hindi ganon talaga pag-love, no?
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Siyempre nakita mo yung love mo
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Sobra yung concern niya.
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kailan mo nalaman na she's the one?
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Ako slowly na ano,
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na ayaw niya talaga sa akin na
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telling me to slow down.
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I gained so much respect sa kanya
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wala siya talagang yung nahanap sa akin
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na gusto niya lang
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na with her family,
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She doesn't need a man in her life.
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Talagang na in-love ako,
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sabi ko, wow, independent.
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parang okay siya sa akin
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kasi I'm looking for a woman
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elevate me also as a person,
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as everything, diba?
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And nakita ko kay Mika na parang
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and dami ko din matututunan sa kanya
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and good advice na laging binibigay sa akin.
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slowly na nafigure out na parang
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ito na talaga siya na
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papalagpasin itong opportunity
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to be with this woman.
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nilabas ko para sa kanya.
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Alam mo kung single ka,
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at nanunood ka ngayon,
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narinig mo yung sinabi ni J.R.
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Men are attracted to women
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who don't need a man.
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Ang ganda nung sinabi mo.
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Kasi, diba, parang
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pagpatay na patay sa inyo,
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natitake for granted nyo eh.
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nagpa-in-love sa kanya.
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You're a strong, independent woman.
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That's all thanks to my dad.
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Kasi laging sinasabi ng dad ko,
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like, always make sure you're whole.
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You can share your life with
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and your love with other people,
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but don't ever lose that
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So finally, in-ask mo siya to marry you.
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Paano yung proposal?
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nag-make sure muna ako.
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if we're gonna get married,
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will you say yes?
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Parang, sabi ko, hypothetically,
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if we're gonna get married,
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Sabi niya, you know,
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parang genuine naman yung oo nga naman.
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Yeah, parang okay naman.
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Ilang years from the relation?
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Kasi ten years kayo together.
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Yeah, like five years after na
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in the relationship.
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Nag-hint ka na na
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Nakabili na kami ng bahay.
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May bahay na kami.
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parang okay na mag-ask kasi,
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we built this whole thing up
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na we have our own house together na.
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ginawa ko sa music video.
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If you wanna check it out,
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it's called Habang Buhay.
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Kasama ko si Chris Lawrence
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and Billy Crawford.
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nag-gumagawa ng music,
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kahit anong idea.
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So nung bringing up niya yung idea
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ng music video para sa song niya,
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sa akin, automatic yun,
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Kahit anong kailangan mo,
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I'll support you.
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So yung plano ko dun,
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may part sa video na
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nandun sa dance floor,
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nag-slow dance lahat.
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E maraming couple yun.
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Siguro mga 20 na couples.
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Tapos kami nandun sa gitna.
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off, parang while she wasn't there,
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nag-billie na ako sa lahat.
16:53.0
Pag nandun na kami,
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lahat sila parang
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mag-create ng circle,
17:00.0
they're gonna back away from us,
17:02.0
tapos matitira dun sa gitna,
17:06.0
kali nga cut na or something,
17:07.0
pero tuloy-tuloy pa rin.
17:10.0
nag-one-in na ako,
17:12.0
tapos sinabi ko yung spill ko.
17:16.0
Hindi ko na-gets.
17:17.0
Akala mo dating pa rin?
17:18.0
Kaya nga na-bash ako nung video na yun,
17:20.0
lahat ng comments,
17:21.0
hindi pa ready si girl,
17:24.0
Hindi ako na-brief,
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anong gagawin ko?
17:27.0
Like, do I go along with it?
17:28.0
Tapos tumingin ako,
17:29.0
lahat sila naka-phone,
17:32.0
Yeah, may iba umiiyak,
17:33.0
may iba so excited.
17:35.0
Tapos tumingin ako kay JR,
17:37.0
nag-aantay pa rin siya,
17:40.0
tapos tunog-tunog na yun.
17:49.0
So nung nakita ko yun,
17:51.0
sabi ko ay hindi siya ganyan.
17:53.0
Hindi siya basta-basta
17:57.0
ang narinig ko na lang something,
17:58.0
will you marry me?
17:59.0
Or something na gano'n.
18:01.0
And then, of course,
18:04.0
And I was so confused.
18:08.0
lutang ako the whole time.
18:10.0
Hindi ko na maintindihan,
18:12.0
Magagalit mo si Papa?
18:14.0
Parang gano'n yung bias.
18:16.0
Alam ko yan, mixed emotions.
18:18.0
But I was so happy,
18:19.0
kasi I wanted that too.
18:21.0
Pero hindi ko lang talaga
18:23.0
makontrol yung mukha ko.
18:29.0
seryoso na, ewan.
18:30.0
If you watch the music video,
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It's like a clip na parang
18:34.0
naka gano'n lang ako.
18:36.0
So that's what happened.
18:38.0
So may explanation.
18:39.0
Yun po ang explanation ngayon.
18:40.0
Kaya pala gano'n ang reaction niya.
18:43.0
may difference ba
18:45.0
ngayon na you're married?
18:47.0
I think yung na-enjoy ko the most
18:49.0
sa relationship namin ni Mika.
18:50.0
Parang feeling ko fresh pa rin eh.
18:52.0
Parang ever since na
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boyfriend and girlfriend kami,
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till we're married.
18:57.0
There's not so much pressure.
18:58.0
Lagi kaming happy.
18:59.0
We're always having fun.
19:01.0
Siguro the biggest difference lang talaga
19:03.0
is thinking about the future
19:05.0
for a family na talaga.
19:06.0
I think that's the biggest difference.
19:08.0
career talaga ang nasa
19:11.0
Career, traveling,
19:15.0
Having fun, exactly.
19:17.0
doing the same thing, enjoying,
19:19.0
but with little ones na.
19:21.0
So I think yun ang difference.
19:24.0
Tsaka kasi yung buhay namin ni JR,
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sanay talaga kami sa
19:28.0
random yung schedule.
19:29.0
Hindi siya set in stone.
19:31.0
I think nakatulong din yun
19:32.0
from transitioning
19:34.0
between girlfriend-boyfriend na
19:36.0
magdadrive ka pa papunta sa bahay
19:39.0
tas hindi masyadong
19:41.0
magsisleep over, gano'n.
19:42.0
Pag nasa isang bahay na kayo,
19:44.0
kayo lang at kayo magkasama.
19:46.0
So yung communication style namin
19:50.0
Yung mga needs ng isa't isa,
19:52.0
we are aware of it.
19:54.0
So nag-a-adjust na din kami.
19:56.0
At saka, parang yung bond namin
20:02.0
Hindi kami masyadong nag-aaway.
20:03.0
Pag nag-aaway naman,
20:05.0
parang saglit lang,
20:07.0
tapos pag-iusapan namin,
20:09.0
May time ba na nagka-clash kayo?
20:12.0
Well, sa personality differences.
20:14.0
Ako masyadong laid back minsan
20:16.0
na ano, may kailangan gawin,
20:19.0
okay lang yan, chill lang yan.
20:21.0
Sabi niya sa akin,
20:22.0
ano ko ba, kailangan magtabusan na to, ganito.
20:24.0
Or siya naman yung
20:34.0
Kung aring yung chaneles nga,
20:35.0
ang dami ng chaneles dun sa baba
20:37.0
na parang nag-accumulate sa baba.
20:39.0
Di ba pwedeng ilagay to sa closet or something?
20:41.0
Yung mga ganun lang,
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Not even a big deal yung mga namin.
20:46.0
Ako, pag hindi ako nakakasagot
20:49.0
nahihirapan kasi ako mag-multitask minsan.
20:52.0
And he doesn't like it
20:54.0
if he feels ignored.
20:59.0
Pag may tinanong siya,
21:01.0
parang hindi ko masyadong narinig.
21:03.0
Delayed yung answer ko na yung initial dun.
21:05.0
So kailangan mag-adjust.
21:07.0
Pero siyempre, maganda din yun,
21:09.0
nag-adjust yung partner.
21:12.0
pag nakikita ko na siya na sa phone niya,
21:14.0
bago ako magtatanong,
21:16.0
hintayin ko muna bago siya matapos.
21:18.0
Para hindi na ako mag-alit na parang
21:19.0
she's ignoring me.
21:20.0
So there's adjustments also.
21:23.0
I read this kasi na,
21:25.0
it was so beautiful.
21:26.0
Yung the reason why
21:28.0
there are spaces in between our fingers
21:30.0
is that so somebody can fill in the gaps.
21:32.0
Aww, that's sweet.
21:40.0
And when you finally found that person
21:42.0
who can fill in the gaps,
21:44.0
you are one of the blessed people.
21:47.0
So what are you grateful for
21:49.0
in finding each other?
21:51.0
I'm so grateful for him.
21:54.0
parang lahat ng kakulangan ko
21:56.0
sa personality ko,
21:58.0
yung mga hindi ako magaling gawin,
22:00.0
kaya niya, kaya kaya niya gawin.
22:02.0
Lalo na sa patience.
22:08.0
nagiging mas mabuting tao ako
22:11.0
So tinuturuan niya ako kung paano
22:13.0
hindi masyado ma-stress
22:15.0
or maging patient sa mga things
22:17.0
that don't go the right way.
22:19.0
He leads by example.
22:20.0
Hindi yung kailangan mabait ka,
22:22.0
kailangan patient ka.
22:23.0
He's really like that.
22:25.0
So ma-absorb mo din yun.
22:29.0
on the flip side,
22:30.0
ako mas matapang,
22:35.0
Sa sobrang bait ni JR,
22:37.0
siguro nakukuha din niya
22:38.0
yung ibang traits na gano'n
22:40.0
to, you know, stand up for yourself
22:46.0
No, it's always good to be kind,
22:52.0
I get that a lot.
22:53.0
Sa sobrang bait ko,
22:55.0
parang minsan yung ibang tao,
22:57.0
they want to take advantage.
22:58.0
They step on the boundaries.
23:01.0
pag nakikita ko, parang
23:04.0
I'll just won't talk anymore
23:06.0
or parang cut ko lang yung relationship.
23:09.0
showed me na parang,
23:13.0
put your foot down,
23:15.0
talagang i-communicate mo
23:16.0
na parang dapat ganito the right way.
23:18.0
So, yun ang itututok,
23:20.0
it's balance talaga,
23:22.0
tulad ng sanabi niya,
23:23.0
yung lahat ng mga kulang namin,
23:28.0
Tsaka that didn't come instantly.
23:30.0
Parang it came over time na na
23:32.0
na didiscover namin yung ibang parts
23:34.0
ng personalities namin na
23:38.0
ikaw magaling ka dyan.
23:39.0
I think that's important.
23:42.0
di ba 50-50 sa relationship?
23:46.0
70 yung partner mo.
23:51.0
Kasi pag sinabayan mo,
23:54.0
mas lalo kayong magkaklash.
23:55.0
Nakuha namin sa relationship nyo
23:57.0
na it's very important also
23:59.0
to find a partner
24:00.0
who can complement you.
24:02.0
It's a relationship na
24:03.0
you can stand on your own,
24:05.0
he can stand on his own.
24:07.0
Yeah, that's so important
24:08.0
kasi kailangan alam mo din kung sino ka.
24:10.0
Minsan nawawala na yung
24:12.0
kung sino ka sa relationship
24:14.0
dun nagkakaroon ng problema.
24:16.0
Para yung self-worth
24:18.0
tsaka yung identity mo,
24:20.0
kailangan solid ka dun.
