The One Question You Should Never Ask Women According To Access Travel CEO Angely Dub
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Ngayonggabi, samahan niyo akong maskilalanin pa siya.
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Masayang gabi, Pilipinas!
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Ang kasama po natin ngayon, isang entrepreneur, traveler and influencer!
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Grabe yung influencer.
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But I first met her because she is out travel agent.
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She is still our travel agent, Anjelie Dove.
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Ang dami mo ng aspects, gabi.
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Pinaghirapan natin yan.
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Motivational speaker, businesswoman, entrepreneur…
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Siya ang honeymoon namin!
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Paano ka na in love sa traveling? Saan nagsimula yun?
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So nung bata ako parang 6 or 7, tinatanong ako lagi.
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What do you want to be? Parang ako, I want to travel the world but I don't know how.
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Bakit? Bakit gusto mo mag-travel? Ano napapanood?
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Siguro kasi nakikita ko yung mga parents ko ang hiling mag-travel.
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Pero sila nag-travel siya nun for work.
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Pero nasa isip ko, traveling is work.
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So nung masaya ko, lagi wala yung mom ko at yung dad ko.
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So nasa isip ko na siya, traveling is a job.
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So siguro parang nang-manifest siya sa life ko, yun na yung mentality ko na I should travel to work.
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I was raised by a single mom. My dad died nung 13.
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So di ko alam paano ako napaalis ni mama. Kasi for kayong magkabated eh.
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I was 16. Basta na napaalis niya ako.
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Up to now, san ko mama, paano mo ako napapunta ng Paris, ng US?
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Anong ginawa mo sa Paris and sa US?
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Paris was my parang final exam sa school.
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So may option kami, Paris field trip or mag-exam.
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Kasaya ko, ma, you know how much I want to travel. Can you just send me to Paris?
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So yun yung unang taste mo ng outside world?
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In love ka kagad?
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Yes. I was like, oh my God, nasa right path talaga ako. This is really what I want.
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Sabi ko, I don't know how, but I will make it happen.
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So after noon, sabi ko ma, I want to go to the US.
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Sabi niya, are you sure? Are you gonna make it? I was like, yes. I'll always make it.
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So nagpunta ko ng US, nag-internship ako doon.
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Ang super funny, kasi internship student ako sa front desk.
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Sobrang love ako ng mga guests kasi ang daldal ko.
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Tapos talaga nai-entertain ko sila, ganyan.
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They started to give me like super big tip.
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Kasi mga clients namin, sobrang mayayaman eh.
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So inaabutan nila ko na 200 dollars.
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Pagali sila mga ting.
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Girl, ang laki nun. Every day may 200 dollars ka.
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So I was 16. Sabi ko, shucks, ang dami kong pera.
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So after noon, meron pa. So nasa front desk ako.
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Meron kami washing machine, pero walang soap.
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So yung mga guests nagagalit na bakit walang soap.
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So ito yun yung ginawa ko nang start ako magbenta ng soap sa front desk.
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Diniscarte hamana.
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Kumita ka na naman.
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Sabi ko, wala naman lagi general manager namin yung magbibenta ako dito.
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So kumita na naman ako.
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Buti matalino ka sa pera.
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Yes, yes. I was like, ano gagawin ko sa pera?
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Nag-travel ako around the US.
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Nag-Disneyland ako.
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So yun, I feel like I've been like this.
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Ganon pa rin ako hanggang ngayon.
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Travel ka pa rin ang travel mo?
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I travel, pero ngayon medyo parang habang tumatanda ako,
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iba na yung purpose behind.
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Ano na yung purpose?
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Ngayon, let's say ngayon moving forward na 17 years ko na ginagawa,
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now I wanna travel to make sure people get the best experience out of it
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through our knowledge.
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Kasi syempre ikaw, sabi ko, Toni, let's go to Greenland.
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Syempre wala kang alam.
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But if I tell you I've been there,
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magkukuha ko agad yung trust mo.
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So alam mo yun, parang I think yung new strength ng business ko,
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people see ako mismo yung pumunta.
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To experience the city before they visit the city.
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Yes. So parang when they ask me,
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hindi ako yung, ay, Google po namin, balikan namin kayo.
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No. I can answer you right away, right now.
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Ah, kung ano yung nandun sa city niya.
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Yes. It's very important kasi as a business owner,
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alam mo ano yung binibenta mo.
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Ilan taong kanong tinayo mo yung...
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19 years old. Paano mo nakuha yung trust ng clients?
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Ang story kasi niyan, going back, when I was 19,
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I used to have this parang necklace na bigyan yung dad ko
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when I was a kid. Sinangla ko yun.
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Parang lang mapatakbo ko yung business ko.
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Tapos sabi nung kuya na pinuntahan ko,
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sabi niya, ma'am, malaking halaga po nito.
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Wala kami ganun kalaki dito sa pawn shop.
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Sabi ko, like, magkano?
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Sabi niya, ma'am, yung kwintas po, maraming diamonds.
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3 million mo ito.
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Susot ko ito sa neck ko rin.
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Magpunta ko kung saan-saan.
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So alam mo yun, like, my parents saved me unintentionally.
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So parang last, ano ko na yun na parang
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how I need to sustain this.
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Habang maghaharap ako ng clients,
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way how to make it work, office expenses, ganyan.
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Before pa nun, may mga online shop ako.
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Nagpapadala ko na Lorine uwi.
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I'm gonna drop her name because I'm very thankful to her.
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So parang sabi ko, why not?
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We do travel. Bigyan natin ng free to.
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Since last, pera ko rin naman to.
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E di gamitin ko na sa marketing.
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Oh my God, Toni, that one experiment changed my whole life.
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After no, never na nag-stop si Access.
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Kasi iba yung era ng mga bloggers nun eh.
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When they post about you.
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Like may bibili at bibili talaga.
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Ngayon kasi ang dami na nangyayari.
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Iba na yung generation.
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It changed everything.
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Doon na nag-start si Access.
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So bumuhos na yung mga clients.
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As in, hindi ko na alam ano nangyari since that day.
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Hanggang nag-pandemic.
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Tapos lahat tumatawag na sa'yo?
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Lahat tumatawag na sa office.
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Lahat nag-e-mail na.
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Kilalang taong na nagsimula yun?
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Tapos nag-hire ako dalawag.
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I only had my office and my computer.
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So pag may client ka, ikaw ang nagbubuk mismo.
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Ikaw ang nagahanap.
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Ikaw ang gagawa ng itinerary.
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Yung time na yun, at 19.
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I think that's the charm of your business.
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Doon sa Access Travel.
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You're personally involved and you are personally the one
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in charge of your clients.
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Paano ka nag-pivot nung pandemic?
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Stop ang traveling.
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So, we started a business called Bulilit Kitchen.
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Alam mo what we were selling?
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From traveling to isaw?
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Kaming na-sister ko, nakaupo kami.
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Sabi ko, three months na.
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Parang di pa matatapos.
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So ano gagawin natin dalawa?
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Ate, alam mo ba lahat ng tao na gusto kumain
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ng mga barbecue tsaka isaw kahit mayayaman?
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Sige nga, gumawa ka ng Facebook account,
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gumawa siya ng Facebook account,
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tsaka Instagram account.
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In one week, di na namin alam ang nangyayari.
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Ang dami ng murder?
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In one week, parang bigla sa bahay,
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Kailan na-sister ko to?
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Actually, sinara na namin siya eh.
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sobrang grabe kumita ng pera yung business na yun.
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So, yun ang nagtawid sa'yo nung pandemic?
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Nung walang traveling?
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Yes, nabayaran ko lahat ng loans ko,
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lahat-lahat because of that business.
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Sinara na namin siya because of two reasons.
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One, it was very harmful sa health ng employees.
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Kasi nag-iihaw ka eh.
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Eh ako, very mindful ako sa ganyan,
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na parang ayoko kumikita ako ng pera,
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tapos may ibang napaparuhisyo.
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Tapos, next was yun parang house yun ng mom ko,
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ayoko long-term magkasakit yung mama ko.
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So sabi ko, let's just close it down.
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I'll find naman other ways.
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Nags-nag-open naman kami ng isa pa.
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Nag-open kami ng kombucha business.
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I don't know if familiar ka sa kombucha.
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Yung kombucha, yung nakikita mo,
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yung parang gamot na parang vitamins
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na iinumin mo araw-araw.
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So, na-explore ko siya.
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Nag-Australia ako.
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Sobrang big culture yung kombucha.
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Sabi ko, wala na gaganyan dito ha.
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Sige nga, try natin.
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So, yun na yung pinalit namin kay Bolilit.
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So, technically, hindi rin na walan ng work
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yung mga nag-work sa Bolilit.
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Lumipat lang sila sa Happy Lab sa kombucha.
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Ah, Happy Lab naman siya ngayon.
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Andyan pa rin siya.
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So, parang hindi ka tumitigil sa paggawa ng business.
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Hindi, pero narealize ko yun.
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Sabi ko, yun pala yung reaction ko
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when I'm under a lot of anxiety.
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Overproductive ako.
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Ano ang anxiety ka?
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Saan ka na-anxiety?
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Sa lahat na nangyayari nun.
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Alam mo yun, parang you're so depressed.
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You are just trying to hide it from everything.
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Saan ka na-depressed?
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Na sa bahay lang ako.
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Yung mga tao mo sa access, walang work.
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Alam mo yun, so nagpatong-patong na.
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Kaya parang, ina-avoid ko lang pala siya.
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So, naramdaman ko yung lahat.
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Tapos sinabay ko pa yung masters ko
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kalagitnaan ng COVID.
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Oo, ba't ka nag-masters?
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Kalagitnaan ng COVID.
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Sabi ko, tumatakbo na lahat ng business.
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And mo, hindi na babalik yung access.
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I need to start doing something for myself.
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Maybe it's time for me to change my career.
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Kaya ako nag-masters.
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Kasi kala ko, hindi na babalik ngayon yung access.
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I have to do something else.
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Customer experience and innovation.
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Full-time, full-time masters.
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Ay, tapos to, di kalagitnaan ng masters ko,
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bumalik yung access.
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Kasi bumalik na yung traveling.
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Ngayon, parang lahat ngayon,
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paano mo itong gagawin, Lor?
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Pero nasurvive ko naman siya.
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Tapos nung pandemic,
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naggawa din ako ng book,
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Tapos nag-TED Talk ako.
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Oo nga, ang dami mo akong ginawa.
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Bakit nga ang ganun ka?
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Ang dami mong ginawa.
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Feeling ko ngayon,
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nakita ko na yung response ko
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when I'm not okay.
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Parang hinahide ko yung
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that I'm not okay.
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You're sobrang sad
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ka sa nangyayari.
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You just wanna keep on working
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and working and working.
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Parang I lost everything
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Yung boyfriend ko,
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Tapos mama ko nagkasakit.
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Parang hindi COVID.
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Tapos yung mga brother and sister ko,
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parang nag-aral sila.
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Tapos hindi nila na-pursue
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yung pagbipiloto.
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E paano mawawala yung pain
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kung di mo i-acknowledge?
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Because sometimes you have to
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Actually, alam mo feeling ko,
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Like yung heartbreak.
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22 years bago ako nakamove on
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sa ex-boyfriend ko.
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Ang tagal nun ah!
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I never went on a date.
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Wala, wala, wala.
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So what makes you happy now?
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My life in Madrid makes me happy.
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I am building my life na
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for my 40s in Madrid.
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I am building na my next.
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Anong meron sa Madrid?
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Bakit Madrid yung...
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Europe mismo has been
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very fascinating for me.
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Like, people are totally equal.
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Alam mo yun, mayaman ka,
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So how would you describe your life?
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Kasi iba-iba yun eh.
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Iba-iba ang season ng buhay natin eh.
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My 20s, I sacrificed my youth.
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And I didn't care.
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Like yung ginagawa ng mga
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classmates ko, party.
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Hindi ko yung nagawa.
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To build your dream.
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And because I was really in rush,
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sabi ko, I really wanna do it.
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I wanna experience na all the hardships.
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So pagdating later on,
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I will live a good life.
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So the 20s is the hustling period.
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I took everything.
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I went everywhere.
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I showed up everywhere.
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And then in your 30s?
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the only bucket list meron ako
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When I say live my life,
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I wanna be with my mom,
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May small moments
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that I wasn't able to do
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So ngayon, parang
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bring my cousins to Disneyland
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for the first time.
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Yung mga ganung moments.
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Parang I deserve it.
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Like to live my life
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na binild ko with confidence.
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Kasi I built it on my own.
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Hindi siya parang
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I never had a father
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giving me the money.
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What's one thing that you learned
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Until I don't find someone
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I'm willing to compromise with,
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it's not worth it.
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In-explain ko to sa friend ko eh.
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We don't love our parents everyday.
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I mean, we love them
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but sometimes they're very annoying.
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We have conflicts with them.
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if something happens to our parent,
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I'm gonna compromise everything
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So if hindi ko mahanap
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na I can compromise,
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love is not enough.
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You have to give up so much
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for you to make a relationship.
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No, it's a sacrifice.
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It's a sacrifice.
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It's a choice every single day.
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It's a full-time job.
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Naku, pag nariting ng mga lalaki yun,
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parang nakaka-intimidate si Angelie.
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When a woman is too secure of herself,
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pag masyado na niyang kilala yung sarili niya,
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naku, hindi mo na maloloko to.
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Medyo ang thirties to forties.
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Hindi na tayo magkakalokohan
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sa punto na to ng buhay ko.
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In your twenties,
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pwede ka huwag mong malokoloko eh.
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Pwede ka pang mabola-bola.
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Thirties, hindi na.
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At saka, alam mo,
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kaagad ang mga hirit
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kapag binobola ka na.
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I was telling people earlier
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na parang may nakatext ako for eight months.
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Super patient niya sa akin.
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Then biglang sabi ko,
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Sabi ko, where are you this weekend?
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Sabi niya, I'm in Rome.
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it's my time to give back
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kasi eight months is a long time.
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Sabi ko, ako naman mag-give back ngayon.
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Kasi one date lang kami.
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per eight months na ako tinext.
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Nagkita kami noong weekend,
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hindi niya na ako tinext sa Monday,
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Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday,
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Saturday, Sunday.
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Sabi niya tinext ko siya.
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Bilang na bilang mo, ha?
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Bilang na bilang mo.
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Bilang na bilang mo Monday.
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ten days lang ako mag-aantay eh.
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May deadline pa tayo.
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So seventh date tinext ko siya.
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I was like, I'm not okay.
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I want to say something.
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Sabi ko, be ready because...
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Ano yung foreigner yan?
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I did not appreciate you not texting me
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when I left Rome.
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Talagang dareto na to.
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I gave you my time,
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my effort, my energy and that was a lot of money, you know?
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I could have been just at home,
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prepared my food,
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but I gave you my time.
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Anong sagot niya?
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you did not appreciate it,
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you just changed.
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All your plans went to trash.
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Straightforward talaga.
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Pero di ba tama naman?
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Talagang nakaderektahan na.
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dami niya sinasabi,
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I can't wait to see you.
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I will cook a dinner for us.
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Baka na-intimidate.
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Ang strong kasi ng personality mo.
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Nasa Madrid na tayong parehas.
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Alam mo, sabi niya sakin,
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I don't know where the issue is.
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I told you we're gonna make time.
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I don't need time.
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I need effort and actions.
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Hindi, pero alam mo talaga,
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Pero tama naman, di ba?
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You have to demand what you want
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and what you need.
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Text-text na lang?
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Yung pagka-text pangalag,
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parang ano ba't to?
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na-intimidate ka na ako,
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nakikita namin anong sinabi.
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Actually, di na siya nag-reply.
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Siguro wala na siya masabi.
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Pero tinapos ko naman ng positive views.
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nothing against you.
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I had really amazing time.
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I'm not for this anymore.
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I've been through this
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in my last relationship.
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The playing game.
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I don't tolerate bare minimum anymore.
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Challenging mag-date
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ang mga successful women.
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Challenging, ano?
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I'm not surprised
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of being a successful woman.
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I'm very true to myself.
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When I feel something,
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what do you need right now
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love life and dating men?
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I want security, you know?
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Very important to,
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parehas kami financially capable.
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pag may gusto kaming gawin,
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nag-adjust din siya sa akin,
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nag-adjust ako sa kanya.
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makakahanap ka rin ng guy na,
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magko-compromise ka na,
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it has to be the right guy.
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when you feel it.
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what is one thing
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that you want people to learn
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about your life story?
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I think for women,
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a lot of opportunities.
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to take these opportunities
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sometimes you feel
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sa external voices.
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ignore all these external voices.
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where I wanted to be.
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every time in the Philippines,
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ang tanong sa akin ng mga tao
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is alang isang bagay
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Kailangan mag-asawa?
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Kailangan mag-aanak?
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how's your masters?
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are you taking your PhD?
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about my success.
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pag nakasurround ka gano'n,
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even sa family mo,
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it's a normal practice.
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you're making the wrong choices.
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to embrace your journey.
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you will encounter
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The path will cross.
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when you force it.
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It applies sa work,
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parang yung energy
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nagiging negative.
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and you keep on trying,
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there is something for us.
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one thing I've learned
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from living in Europe
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having kids is also
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not for everyone.
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it was an obligation
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na kailangan may nangka.
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Noong dumilan na ako sa Europe,
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I talked to a lot of women
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sa mga coffee shop,
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it's also not for everyone.
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because being a mother
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It's a full-time,
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will never be ready
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for that responsibility.
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that doesn't make you
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but it doesn't mean
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I am less than her.
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na-overwhelm tayo
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na nagiging misarable tayo.
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Compare ka nang compare,
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yung ganto mo may anak,
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may ganto mo akong anak.
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if you focus all that energy
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how blessed you are.
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You also have things
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na wala yung ibang tao.
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I think that's something
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people need to learn
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from my life story
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into your own life,
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and it's beautiful.
