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Gaano kaaga natin dapat turuan ng gawaing bahay ang ating mga anak?
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Mukhang napakagandang way na magturo ng responsibilities, diba, ng chores sa ating mga anak, ang pets.
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Pero kayo, kamusta ba ang rules ninyo sa inyong bahay? Pag-uusapan natin ng lahat ng yan.
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Diretso na tayo, ipapakilala ko ng ating TALK ED Expert for today.
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She's a family life and child development specialist with over 20 years of experience as an early childhood teacher.
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She's currently a professor at Wesleyan University and Mission Ministries, Philippines.
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Siya din ang director ng programs Homeschool Global Roses at advisor sa homeschooling families.
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Let us all welcome Teacher Elizabeth King-Santos. Hello Teacher Beth!
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Hello everybody! Thank you for having me here at TALK ED.
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Nakakatuwa to have you here with us.
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Teacher Beth, diretso na tayo sa ating topic dahil siyempre we've been talking about routines.
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Yan ang keyword I guess for this episode.
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So I'll get straight to the point. Bakit importante, bakit kailangan may routine for adults and especially for children?
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That's a very good question Bianca. Actually, akala nga ng iba ang routines para lang sa mga preschool teachers like me na sa classroom.
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Pero actually hindi. Ang routines kailangan natin pati sa bahay.
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And it's very important kasi ang dami niyang benefits na nabibigay hindi lang sa bata, hindi lang sa parents kung hindi sa buong pamilya.
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So ano ba itong mga benefits na ito?
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So for children, kunwari nakakatulong ang mga routines para makabigyan ang mga bata ng sense of safety and security.
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Kasi alam nila kung anong mangyayari na sunod.
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Diba nakakaano sa bata pag hindi nila alam ano na bang gagawin ko, ano na bang mangyayari sunod.
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Nakakatarantayon and it gives them a little bit of sense of stress.
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But when they know and it's very predictable kung anong mangyayari, anong kailangan gawin,
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then mas nagiging nagkakaroon sila ng sense of security.
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And then also it is part of their developmental tasks.
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As children grow older, dumadami ang kanilang responsibilities and dumadami ang mga kaya nilang gawin.
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And kadalasan nakatoon din yan dun sa mga routines na lumalabas sa mga pamilya.
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And then natuturoan silang magkaroon ng sense of responsibility which is very important.
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And it helps build in them good habits and character development.
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Nakakailangan nila in the future.
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And then also the routines help children feel empowered.
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Yung bang alam nila na may nagagawa sila, may naa-accomplish sila.
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Na kahit hindi sila paalalahanan, parang,
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Uy, nagawa ko to. Kaya minsan maririnig mo, Mommy, I fixed my bed.
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Kasi proud sila eh. So magkakaroon sila ng feeling of empowerment.
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Pero ano naman yun para sa ating mga magulang?
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Ang number one na naisip ko, less stress for all.
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Diba, Bianca? I'm sure you have little kids now, diba?
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Me, I have a 14-year-old turning 15.
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And a 10-year-old.
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So, na-experience ko yan lalo na yung smaller, yung maliit pa talaga sila,
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na parang feeling ko malalagas na yung buhok ko kakapanala, diba?
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You remember that time na paulit-ulit, you have to remember yung ganyan.
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But, if the routine is set already, then that diminishes.
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Parang nawawala na. Hindi mo na kailangan paalalahanan.
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And then magulit ka ginagawa na nila.
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Sa amin kasi sa family, we have what we call the five B's and a V.
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Ano yung five B's and a V?
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Five, sorry, nakakatong twister.
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Five B's and a V.
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Okay, okay, okay. Five B's and a V. Okay, ano yun, Teacher Beth?
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Bed. That means they need to fix their bed as soon as they wake up.
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Brush, of course, the teeth.
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And then breakfast.
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So yun yung five B's namin.
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And then the V is vitamins. COVID kasi.
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Panahon ng COVID na dagdagan natin.
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Because of the COVID season.
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So at the start, it was a little bit more difficult.
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Kasi kailangan paalalahanan, you have to follow through.
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But then nung nasanay na sila, I would notice that they didn't need me to remind them anymore.
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Ma-charts pa, nanakasulat, para may vishworking yung bata.
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But then pag nasasanay na sila, when it becomes a habit, I don't need to remind them.
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Pate when they need to pack away, kasi atleta yung dalawa kong anak,
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Friday night pa lang, ayos na yung gamit nila for the next day.
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They don't check their bags.
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So, kumpleto na yun hanggang pandigo nila for after training.
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And they started since my son was seven, my eldest.
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So that one, less stress, diba?
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Pag di natin kailangan magpaalala.
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But of course, my boys aren't perfect.
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There are still days that, you know, minsan na ano ng ginagawa, ganun.
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But generally, they have their habits and their routines set already.
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But it wasn't easy at the start.
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But the routines will help your family run smoothly.
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Kasi, diba, when everybody's doing what they're supposed to be doing,
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So you have more time to spend enjoyable time together.
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Kaya paaalala nagnanag.
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And ayokong magnag.
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Diba, nakakabawas ng kagandahan ang pagnanag.
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Mommy Bianca, I'm sure yun.
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Sobrang kompleto nun ang sinabi mo.
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I have zero follow-up questions sa totoo lang.
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But I wanted to point to what you said earlier, Teacher Beth,
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na parang hindi naging madali papunta dun.
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Kasi sabi mo ngayon, pinaprepare yung sariling bagay,
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di mo natin nacheck.
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Parang for any parent listening, that's like, that's a dream.
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But that's what we're going to break down, I guess, sa episode na to.
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Anong edad ba dapat nagsisimula?
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Paano kung mag-resist yung bata?
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We will talk about that later, mga parents.
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Teacher Beth here on TalkEd.
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Nagsishare talaga tayo ng real-life stories
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ng parents na similar yung pinagdadaanan.
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So right now, we will share to everyone the kwento of Mommy Jill.
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Siya ngayon currently building routines for their son, Sam.
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So everyone, let's watch this.
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Sa amin kasi very important ang routine.
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But since our son is still very young,
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the routine that we're trying to build for him
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and for us also as a family,
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it's something na maintindihan niya up to his understanding.
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So my son, Sam, is just two years old.
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Pero hindi ko siya in-enroll in any online schooling yet.
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Kasi parang ganun din.
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Since I was a preschool teacher,
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kami yung nag-study together.
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After eating breakfast and playtime in the morning,
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magla-launch na kami together as a family.
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And then kapag may mga orders kami,
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usually lunch and dinner kasi yung orders.
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Sometimes sa ngayon, since he's big enough,
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he actually helps out.
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Kaya nahilig siya din sa kitchen toys.
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So nagsisuot din siya ng apron,
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like what we're wearing.
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Tapos nakikiluto din siya.
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So minsan sinasama na namin sa routine namin yun.
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Actually, na kapag meron kaming orders,
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ini-involve namin siya.
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Because we believe na
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he actually learns from hands-on experiences.
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Sam is very verbal already
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and he's very comprehensive.
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Nadediscuss na namin sa kanya yung
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there's a time for everything.
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So alam niya na pag playtime, playtime.
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Tapos may eating time, may eating time.
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So hindi isasabayin with play.
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And then sleeping time also.
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Before sleeping time.
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Magta-transition kami from playing
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to a quiet activity.
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Para mag-die down na energy niya.
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Ang kwento ni Mommy Jill
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with their son Sam.
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Okay. Actually, Teacher Beth,
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si Sam dun sa video looked very, very young.
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So I guess yun nga.
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Pabalikan ko yung na-mention ko kanina.
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At what age ba pwedeng magsimulang
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mag-establish ng routines?
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Para sa mga anak natin.
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Actually, you can start the day they are born.
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So the longer that you start, the better.
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Kasi di ba ang babies when they're born,
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they still have routines.
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May sleeping time yung
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matalas yung sleeping time.
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And then there's also feeding time.
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So maikli lang yung kanilang routine.
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But they still have a routine.
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So you can start as young as they are
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and then just grow kumbaga
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and develop as they develop as well.
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So you can start as young.
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Yeah. So parang I guess
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ang understanding ko as a mom,
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ang routine is more of like
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hindi naman siya na parang
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7 o'clock, kailangan ganito.
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Tapos 5 o'clock, kailangan ganito.
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It's more parang a flow of the day.
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Alam nila kung anong susunod na mangyayari.
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Exactly. Kasi we're not naman
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Hindi naman tayo nagpapalakay
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ng mga robots, di ba?
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Ang routine na kailangan natin
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is i-adjust din natin sa ating mga anak
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sya ka sa ating pamilya.
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Kasi we also have, di ba,
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our own tasks and all of that.
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So we take all of those
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into consideration.
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But then you still set that
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parang bastong pagkakasunod-sunod.
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Kunwari, after feeding,
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tapos sleeping time ng baby.
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Then alam nila na downtime na.
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So I heard nga, di ba, na
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I heard you I think earlier
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when you said na after kumain
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aakyat na magda-downtime na.
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So hindi na playtime pag aakyat nila.
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So yan lang yung ibig sabihin ng routine.
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Yung meron lang siyang pagkakasunod-sunod
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na ginagawa nyo on a daily basis
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So tama eh. That starts nga pag baby
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even if technically hindi pa nila
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naiintindihan ang ibig sabihin ng routine.
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Habang teacher Beth, kapag medyo
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tumanda na, medyo may
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some sort of independence na yung mga bata
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nakakalakad na on their own,
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nakakagawa na ng basic things
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rules for our kids
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at paano ginagawa yun
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sa tamang paraan?
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Parang the rules kasama yun eh
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dun sa routines, di ba?
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Kasi kunwari, you cannot go to
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the next part of your routine
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if hindi ka mag-pack away.
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Kunwari, after playtime
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may gagawin kayo yung susunod.
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Before you go to the next one,
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kasama sa part ng routine ang packing away.
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So may mga rules kayo na subsundan
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din sa bahay nyo. For example,
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kailan lang playtime?
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Kasi pag sleeping time, hindi. And I remember
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dun sa video na nakita natin si Mommy Jill
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sabi niya, when it's eating time
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it's not playtime.
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Parang there's always a season for everything.
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Di ba? May tamang panahon
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para sa lahat. So we can set rules
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simple rules lang
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muna at the start. And then
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pag very young kids kasi hindi mo pa naman sila mahihingan
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do you want or do you think
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are okay? Kasi di pa nga
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nagkita yung iba, di ba?
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But as they grow older, you can
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ask for their opinions
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also and their input.
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Anong rules ba? Bakit ba
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yung rule na yan? Why do we need to pack away?
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routines and rules to be
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kailangan well-planned din siya.
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So hindi lang siya yung, pukin ko kaya
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ito today, tapos bukas iba naman.
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It has to be well-planned.
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And everybody in the whole household
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parang kailangan nagtutulungan kayo.
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You know the roles of each other.
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Tapos may sinasabi nga na
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if I may share, four C's
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I love this. I love these acronyms.
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Madaling, kanina, five
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B's and one V. Ngayon, four
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C's. Okay, four C's.
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Four C's for you to remember how
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to set up your routines
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and your rules at home. So number one,
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you have to have first a compelling
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idea or rationale
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for it. Kasi kailangan,
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may dahilan, hindi kayong
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humugot lang ng rule. Ay, gusto ko to.
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Medyo sadista ko. Gagawa ko ng
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ganitong rule. Hindi siya ganon.
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It has to come from a compelling idea
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rationale. Kunwari,
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pag hindi mo nilipit, masisira yung mga laroan.
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It has to come from that. That's one.
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The second is you have to have clear
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expectations. Most of the time,
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when children misbehave or they
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don't do something expected
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of them, it's because
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kunwari, nagpunta sa church
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tas magulo sila sa church
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kasi hindi pala nila alam
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before going na kailangan
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ito yung mga set of behaviors
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na ine-expect. So we have to have
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clear expectations. So compelling idea,
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clear expectations, and then the
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third one is consistency.
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It has to be consistent.
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Hindi yung pagpagod ka na,
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hahayaan mo na. Kasi minsan ganon.
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Pag masama ko ng pakiramdam, parang ayoko
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na mag-follow up. Ayoko na mag
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kasi I'm tired or I'm sick.
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But you have to power through.
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Kumbaga, kasi you have to be consistent.
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And hindi pwede iba yung rules
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kay mommy, iba yung rules kay daddy.
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Lalo na kay lolo at
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kay lola. So nang tulong-tulong
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tayong lahat, hindi pwede
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iba-iba kasi hindi pwedeng may kaaway
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pagdating sa rules.
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And then the fourth is composure
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of the parents. That's the fourth C.
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it's gonna be more difficult to set
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a routine or set a rule if you
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are always angry.
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lagi kang naiinis, lagi kang
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nagsasabi ng hindi maganda,
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negative yung dating nung routine
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at nung rule dun sa bata.
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So yung composure natin as a parent
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So itong four Cs nato galing to sa isang
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sikat na homeschooling
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philosopher na nagaano
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ng home education, si Charlotte Mason.
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So yan yung apat na Cs na sinasabi niya.
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Four Cs yung tinawag ko
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pero yan yung apat kasi nanabasa ko
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So yung composure of the parent is very important
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kasi malaki daw yung
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influence ng atmosphere sa bahay.
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Yung positive atmosphere sa
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bahay sa pag-set ng habits
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and routines ng mga bata.
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Makes so much sense.
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reason, is that correct? And then clear,
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kailangan klaro sa bata, sa lahat.
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O, nag-take notes ba kayo parents?
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Ang gandang reminder,
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kailangan lahat alam kasi minsan
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hindi naman sa default, but more
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often than not, tayo talaga nagsaset
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tempo, ng routines sa house.
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Pero minsan, masyadong natin
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sinasolo, hindi naman natin nasashare
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sa iba. So you're right in that
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dapat yung buong bahay alam
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ang routines para
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wala man tayo doon.
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na routines at rules for the kids.
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In an ideal world talaga
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kapag nagset tayo ng routines,
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susunod ang lahat. Pero in real
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life, hindi talaga nangyayari.
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Madaming beses na
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gusto lang nila gawin yung gusto
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nilang gawin. So,
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yeah, is there a way that we can
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encourage kids to follow
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our rules and routines?
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At paano kung hindi sila
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encourage them to follow the rules?
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Ang number one, siguro na,
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from Josh McDowell when he said,
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rules without relationship will only
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lead to rebellion.
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Sabihin, we need to prioritize our
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relationship with our children.
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That's our main, main,
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main target. Before we set all
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the rules in the world, we have to
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make sure that our relationship
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is positive and that maganda
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yung attachment ng ating mga
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adduct sa atin. Pag positive
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yung relationship sa kanilang
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primary caregiver or sa parent,
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development ng brains ng mga bata.
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Okay. Teacher Beth
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here on Talk Ed, nagsishare talaga tayo ng
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real life stories ng parents
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na similar yung pinagdadaanan.
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Let's watch this.
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As early as now, nabibigyan na namin
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ng chores si Sam. Although hindi pa yung
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hardboard ng mga chores at home, pero
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sa mga toys niya,
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parang chore niya yun
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as a family member
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at home. So, walang
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magpa-pack away yung mga toys niya for him.
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Siguro, tutulungan namin siya, we do it
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siya pa rin yung gagawa. So, isa yun
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sa mga chores niya. And then,
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ngayon, si Sam kasi
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he wants to be very involved
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sa kahit anong mga ginagawa.
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small home kitchen. It's called Jojo and Jill's
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Home Kitchen. Nagusto niya kasama
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daw siya. We offer food
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to raise. Tapos, most of
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those, favorite ni Sam.
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Tapos, nakikisama siya
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sa pag-prepare. Gusto niya kasing
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mag-slice. Although, syempre medyo
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nakakatakot pa for him to
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handle a knife ganyan. Pero we found
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ng mga kitchen tools
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na tinitry niya. So,
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minsan nakikihate siya, o kaya
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yung paglagay ng ingredients, ganyan.
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O kaya magsusot siya ng pot holder.
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Although, di naman niya ilagay sa oven.
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Yung mere fact lang
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na he's trying to
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to copy yung ginagawa
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namin. Actually, wala naman kaming
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gusto i-push sa kanya. Kasi, syempre
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he'll have his own choices when he goes.
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Pero, since nakikita namin
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interest niya. And
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nakikita namin na kaya naman niya.
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So, yun. Nakikisama siya.
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So, minsan, pukuha pa siya ng
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sarili niyang chair. Dadali niya sa kitchen.
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Sasabihin niya sa daddy niya na,
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Daddy, I want to cook also. Ganyan.
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Thank you so much, Mommy Jill.
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Si Sam ay napaka-responsible
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na little boy. But you know what, Teacher Beth?
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parang makakonect natin to what you said earlier.
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Sabi niya kasi, and nakikita ko
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din to sa mga anak ko. Minsan, sila yung
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talagang curious. Gusto nilang
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tumulong kasi gusto
20:40.0
sa ginagawa natin. And you
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mentioned this kanina kasi, modeling.
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anak ko, alala ko dati, ang hilig-hilig
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magwalis. Kasi nga, nakikita niya lahat ng adults
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dito sa bahay, nagwawalis. So,
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yeah, is there an age na
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turuan ng mga anak natin ng chores?
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Or I guess, how can you
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how can we incorporate chores
21:06.0
ating daily routines at home?
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totoo yun. Lahat ng ginagawa
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natin, gustong-gustong gayahin ng mga
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Sana lang nagko-continue hanggang
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yeah, that's a good question.
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Ilang taon ba talaga nagsastart?
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Well, for me, there's
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always something that they can do.
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a toddler, a baby, like
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si Sam, I think, is two years old,
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yung anak ni Mommy Jill. So, two years
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old, pero nalilinis na niya yung
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kanyang mga toys,
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ganyan. So, you can start with very simple
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chores, like packing away.
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That's number one.
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Yung packing away nga ng babies,
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I remember, nung maliliit pa yung babies ko, or nung
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nag-handle ako ng mga toddlers
21:56.0
Ang packing away nila, sinushoot lang
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naman nila talaga sa basket.
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But that's already packing away, and that's
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the start of it. Siyempre, hindi
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natin ma-e-expect na gagawin nila yung
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maglinis ng toilet,
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medyo matanda pa yun.
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So, you can always check out naman
22:12.0
the list of appropriate chores
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Per age, may nakasulat na dyan ng mga
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chores na pwedeng
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gawin. I'll talk lang,
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I have a question lang, a bit about chores
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and a bit about the rules, I guess
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on a normal day, like you said, yung
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mga anak mo parang sanay na, hindi na kailangan
22:36.0
paalalahanan, but meron talagang
22:38.0
minsan mga days na hindi mo alam.
22:42.0
ayaw mag-toothbrush,
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or ayaw kumain, or ayaw
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yung parang ginagawa naman nila every
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months, pero may mga araw
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lang talaga na ayaw nila.
22:54.0
Minsan may crying pa.
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What can we do pag gano'n,
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earlier, we need to find out why.
23:08.0
really need time, or talagang
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hindi nila kaya gawin today,
23:12.0
dahil masama yung
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pinagdadaanan sila,
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or hindi okay, then we have to
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respect that and say, okay, but you have to
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Pero gagawin pa rin niya.
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important. Gagawin pa rin
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niya, pero when you're ready na.
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Kasi baka pagod lang talaga.
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So we have to also consider
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to settle down muna,
23:40.0
but do it pa rin.
23:42.0
And then for others naman,
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na talagang trying to test
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your limits, kasi
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meron din yung point na
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Kasi baka makalusot ako.
23:54.0
Then, mapag pinalusot natin,
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then gagawin na yan,
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at gagawin ulit-ulit.
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So kung feeling mo, kasi we know naman eh,
24:02.0
deep down inside, we as parents,
24:04.0
since we know our
24:06.0
children the most, we know
24:10.0
why they are doing something.
24:12.0
So minsan they just really wanna test
24:14.0
you. Then we need to be firm.
24:18.0
but yet firm. So you're still
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there, I'll wait for you.
24:22.0
I'll stay here, I'll help you when you're ready.
24:24.0
Pero inaanom muna,
24:26.0
gagawin pa rin natin
24:30.0
choice. Hindi ka pa rin pwede mag-play sa
24:32.0
labas kasi hindi mo pa tinatapos yung
24:34.0
hindi mo pa nililigpit yung
24:36.0
pagkain. So hintay natin
24:40.0
we have to be gentle yet
24:42.0
firm. And then the kids,
24:44.0
when they see that hindi sila nakakalusot,
24:48.0
parang madaling, parang eventually
24:50.0
they get to understand na kahit
24:52.0
magwala ako dito.
24:56.0
hindi ka naman. Tapos diba minsan nakakatulong
24:58.0
din when they see that you're just
25:00.0
there, allowing them
25:02.0
to express their emotions. Kasi legitimate
25:04.0
naman yung nararamdaman nila. When they're frustrated,
25:08.0
kailangan lang nila ilapas.
25:10.0
But then when they settle down,
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ready na rin pala after.
25:14.0
So it just needs so much patience
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all of you, kasi hanggang ngayon nararamdaman
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ko pa rin yan. Yung parang
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kulang pa rin yung patience ko.
25:26.0
But we just have to
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just push through
25:30.0
with it. We need to commit
25:34.0
naman. It's for their benefiting.
25:36.0
At the end of the day, we're doing
25:38.0
this for them. Kasi
25:40.0
if we end up doing everything
25:46.0
disservice instead of
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Parang magsasuffer pa sila
25:52.0
lalo if we don't help them and prepare
25:54.0
them by teaching them chores
25:56.0
early on. Kasi dati
25:58.0
naman, they still need to do it.
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And you won't be there when you need to help them.
26:02.0
So it's something
26:04.0
that they need to do. And then you can
26:06.0
pair it with something that they enjoy.
26:08.0
Kunwari, pag mahilig
26:10.0
sa kanta yung anak mo, then you can
26:12.0
blast the music while you're
26:14.0
packing away and dance
26:16.0
together while doing it.
26:18.0
So pair it with something that they enjoy
26:20.0
and then celebrate the small
26:22.0
the small changes.
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Yung pag may ginawa sila na hindi mo
26:28.0
first time nila ginawa na hindi ka nag-alala.
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say thank you talaga.
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thank you for doing that.
26:38.0
You helped mom so much just by doing that.
26:40.0
So they get to see
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yun pala yung epekto
26:44.0
when I do something.
26:46.0
So always be encouraging. Hindi yung
26:48.0
pag may ginawa sila, pinapalitan
26:50.0
natin. Kasi sa totoo lang, minsan like
26:52.0
when they mop, mas dumudume.
26:58.0
Pag nagwawalis sila, parang mas kumakalat
27:02.0
What we want is their
27:04.0
attitude of helping.
27:08.0
nip that. Hindi yun yung dapat
27:10.0
inaano natin. Just encourage them to do it. Kahit
27:12.0
baliktad yung pagkakasuot ng damit nila.
27:16.0
They're still learning. So just allow
27:18.0
them and then if wala
27:20.0
na sila, then sakamulinisin ulit yung
27:22.0
bahay if kailangan.
27:24.0
Just be encouraging and power
27:26.0
through it even when
27:30.0
difficult behaviors.
27:32.0
While you're talking teacher Beth,
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nod lang ako ng nod kasi
27:36.0
parang nararamdaman ko talaga yung
27:38.0
20 years of experience as a
27:40.0
as an educator and being
27:42.0
a mom of two. A teen
27:46.0
All your examples are so
27:48.0
spot on and parang
27:50.0
lived experience talaga.
27:52.0
So ako personally, I'll
27:54.0
most likely rewatch this episode
27:56.0
para mas manamnam ko talaga
27:58.0
everything that you said and of course
28:00.0
sa lahat ng parents na nanunood dito
28:02.0
ngayon. Sobrang dami kong natutunan
28:04.0
from you, teacher
28:06.0
Beth. Maraming maraming salamat.
28:10.0
rules, sense of responsibility.
28:12.0
I love what you said na
28:14.0
sa totoo lang, it's preparing
28:18.0
the future. Na parang
28:20.0
kumbaga kung hindi nilang matutunan
28:22.0
tong mga ito ngayon, mas mahihirapan
28:24.0
sila in the future.
28:26.0
Age appropriateness
28:28.0
ng chores, ng routines, natutunan
28:30.0
din natin from teacher Beth.
28:32.0
And with that, we would like to thank you
28:34.0
so much, our talk and expert
28:36.0
of the day, teacher Elizabeth King
28:38.0
Santos. Thank you for sharing your
28:40.0
expertise, your very
28:42.0
specific examples.
28:44.0
I would love to ask for any
28:46.0
final words you have for all
28:48.0
our parents trying to establish
28:50.0
these routines at home
28:52.0
and yeah, would you like to promote
28:54.0
anything to everyone watching now?
28:58.0
Bianca for having me
29:00.0
here. It's a joy to always
29:02.0
share but don't get me
29:06.0
the perfect mom, I'm not an expert
29:08.0
mom. Actually, I'm still
29:10.0
learning so it's really a learning
29:12.0
it's a learning journey
29:16.0
and it's not easy. I know moms
29:18.0
and dads, parenting
29:20.0
can be overwhelming
29:22.0
most of the time but
29:24.0
when you really look into it
29:28.0
outweigh all those
29:30.0
pagod, lahat ng iyak natin
29:32.0
at times, nababawi
29:34.0
naman yun but always remember
29:36.0
that you as parents, you
29:38.0
are the best teacher of your children.
29:40.0
Your home environment should
29:42.0
be the safe space for your children
29:44.0
nagugustuhin nila laging
29:52.0
even if you feel like
29:54.0
naghihirapan sila because of all your
29:56.0
rules and all of the things
29:58.0
the routines, the chores that
30:00.0
you give, think of why
30:02.0
you are doing it. Always go back
30:04.0
to your reason, to your
30:06.0
vision, bakit mo pa?
30:08.0
You are doing this because you love your children
30:14.0
good citizens of the
30:18.0
ang kanilang responsibilities
30:20.0
when they grow up. So,
30:24.0
gets easier. As they
30:26.0
get older, I think, I hope
30:30.0
yung panahon, you will
30:36.0
you will know that what
30:38.0
you did was worth it.
30:40.0
All the pagod, all the iyak
30:42.0
promise mommies, and then, and daddies
30:44.0
and last but not the least
30:46.0
when all else fails, always
30:52.0
your children do not belong to you
30:54.0
They are actually the lords, and
30:56.0
he will always take care of
31:00.0
fill in all of your
31:02.0
gaps. Lahat ng pagkakamali
31:04.0
natin, siya ang bahala
31:06.0
to take care of your children
31:08.0
because he loves them
31:10.0
more than we can ever love them
31:14.0
And I hope you enjoyed this session
31:16.0
also as much as I did
31:18.0
Aww, thank you so much
31:20.0
Teacher Beth. Such a beautiful, beautiful
31:22.0
reminder sa lahat ng parents. May
31:24.0
mga a-tear fell yata na
31:26.0
nanonood ngayon. Thank you so much
31:28.0
Teacher Beth for joining us
31:30.0
and for all the super mega
31:32.0
valuable advice that
31:34.0
you shared with us. Imagine free resource
31:36.0
tong TalkEd. Natutuwa ako kasi usually
31:38.0
di ba, you have to pay for these parenting
31:40.0
seminars, pero dito sa Knowledge Channel
31:42.0
sa TalkEd, our experts
31:44.0
graciously lend their time
31:46.0
and wisdom to us. Maraming salamat
31:48.0
Teacher Beth. Thank you
31:50.0
Alright, sa lahat ng ating mga
31:52.0
mommies and daddies, a bit of a recap
31:54.0
and a few learnings lang that we'd like to share
31:58.0
from TalkEd, our expert
32:00.0
tips. Tip number one is to create a
32:04.0
right? Pwede siyang
32:06.0
mixture ng mas tahimik na
32:08.0
activities, ng mas loud na activities
32:10.0
mas active, mas passive, mas
32:14.0
sa brain, mas cognitive
32:16.0
So for example, pwede tayo mag
32:18.0
set ng schedule na sa umaga
32:20.0
after breakfast, school
32:22.0
work, after lunch
32:24.0
nap time naman, pagkagising
32:28.0
homework habang nagmi-merienda
32:30.0
ng paborito natin of course. Siyempre para
32:32.0
may energy din for playtime after
32:34.0
school work. Tapos siyempre
32:36.0
siguro bath time, dinner,
32:38.0
bed time. So whatever flow
32:42.0
yan na ilan lang sa ating mga suggestions
32:44.0
Second, nagbigay ng 4C
32:46.0
si Teacher Beth pero isa sa mga
32:48.0
pinaka-key I guess talaga is yung
32:50.0
C for consistency
32:52.0
diba? Dapat consistent, whether dun sa
32:54.0
pag follow ng routine
32:56.0
follow ng rules, consistent
32:58.0
lahat ng tao sa bahay
33:00.0
kayong mag-asaw, mag-partner with lolo
33:02.0
lola, nako, crucial din yun
33:04.0
dapat sinusunod natin
33:06.0
kung ano yung napag-usapan natin
33:10.0
and the third tip
33:12.0
and this one I loved what Teacher Beth said
33:14.0
yung mga visual reminders, sabi niya
33:16.0
charts or like pictures
33:18.0
na merong checklists
33:20.0
helpful for tactile
33:22.0
and visual learners ang paggawa ng ating
33:24.0
mga routine charts or rule charts
33:26.0
short charts, sa amin meron din kami
33:28.0
parang sticker kapag nagagawa
33:30.0
nila, they'll put a sticker on their chart
33:32.0
tulad ng sa aming
33:34.0
may sense of ownership
33:36.0
may sense na parang uy
33:38.0
nagawa ko to, may gano'n
33:40.0
dahil syempre kasama sila sa decision making process
33:48.0
you can even gamify it, how it looks
33:50.0
para ma-encourage sila how to
33:52.0
follow through, for example
33:54.0
kitchen, one of their tasks could be
33:56.0
learning to identify the ingredients
33:58.0
yan, based on smell and taste
34:00.0
for mga older kids na to, siguro mga
34:02.0
six or seven, ganyan
34:04.0
maraming maraming salamat
34:06.0
sa lahat ng mga sumama sa ating kwentuhan
34:08.0
ngayong araw, I am your host
34:10.0
Bianca Gonzalez and we'll see you again
34:12.0
in our next talk-in
