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Napaka-importanting matutunan yan ng mga bata.
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Dito sa TalkEd, we want our children to feel na lagi silang may karamay, ano man ang pinagdadaanan nila.
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And syempre, as parents, napaka-importante na mapakita natin sa ating mga anak that we are always there for them, diba?
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Through the ups and downs, ika nga.
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Pag-uusapan natin lahat yun yan from Christmas traditions to good values.
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At bago ko ipakilala ang ating TalkEd expert to discuss all of this with us, eto na.
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Dito sa TalkEd, lagi tayong nagtatanong sa mga experts.
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Important yan sa atin ang mga verified information, mga credible sources, diba?
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Kaya nga tayo may TalkEd.
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So, our TalkEd expert for today is an accomplished center director with over 17 years of experience in curriculum development,
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director-level program management, and classroom instruction para sa early childhood to K-12 programs.
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So, meron siyang MA or Master's on Education and Human Development
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at ang specialization niya ay Early Childhood Special Education from the George Washington University.
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She is currently Knowledge Channel's Early Childhood Expert and is one of the brains behind TalkEd.
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So, we are so happy to have with us today, Teacher Michelle Manalastas Malon.
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Hello! Hi, Teacher Michelle!
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I'm so excited to be here. Thank you for having me.
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I'm so excited to have you, Teacher Michelle.
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Para sa kaalaman po ng lahat, si Teacher Michelle sa lahat na naging TalkEd episodes natin,
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nandito siya, kasama natin siya, pero backstage, sa ating virtual backstage.
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At now, they will get to know you and what you do.
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Okay, I know that you are based abroad. You are not based in the Philippines currently.
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So, anong family traditions pa rin ang dalandalan niyo diyan pag Pasko?
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Napakadami naming family traditions, pero yung nagsa-standout talaga sa akin,
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yung pag-decorate ng Christmas tree.
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Kasi maliit pa lang ako, pumunta kami sa bahay ng lola ko,
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tapos with my cousins, we would decorate a Christmas tree.
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And then, both sides yan, Bianca, na mahili kami mag-decorate
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and pumunta kami sa iba-ibang lugar para lang tumingin ng mga decorations,
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kunya sa mall or sa park, ganyan.
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Tapos hanggang paglaki, as an adult, favorite ko pa rin yung tumingin ng Christmas decorations.
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Pinipicturean ko tapos sinishare ko pa nga sa family.
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Tapos as a teacher naman, favorite ko magturo paggawa ng ornaments.
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So, gumagawa kami ng ornaments made out of recycled materials or gumagawa kami ng gift wrapper.
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So, yun yung mga favorite kong ituro as a teacher.
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I love it. Diba ang daming values kagad.
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Hindi random ang pagtanong natin kay Teacher Michelle ng Christmas traditions
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kasi sa totoo lang, ang ating mga ginagawa towing Pasko,
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talagang kakabit yan ng pagturo ng values sa ating mga anak.
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So, I'm sure marami ring tanong ang ating mga parents na kasama natin dito today.
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Yeah, let's jump right in.
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So, Teacher Michelle, meron tayo dito as you know.
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As you know, meron tayo mga kasamang kakwentuhan dito sa TalkEd.
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It's not just us.
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So, before we jump into our topic, papakingin natin ang kwento ni Daddy Marlon from Rizal.
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So, siya naman ang mag-share ng kanyang family traditions at kung paano ito konektado
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para magturo ng good values sa kanyang anak.
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So, let's watch this.
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Usually, ang ginagawa namin every Christmas Eve,
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ginagather namin yung family at yun, nagsisimba.
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Excited yung mga kids especially kapag ganitong season,
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sinasama namin silang mamiliin ng kanilang mga susuotin sa Christmas morning.
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So, and then yung ano namin, yung panganay namin is excited siya ngayon.
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Lalo na first time niyang makakatend ng Christmas party niya.
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Doon din sa mga gifts na matatanggap nila.
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So, medyo nai-excite sila doon sa part na yun.
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Sa amin kasing mag-asawa,
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in-install namin sa kanila yung values ng,
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hindi lang yung Christmas is puro pagtanggap sa atin
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or kung ano yung marireceive natin this Christmas or every Christmas.
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So, inaano namin sa kanila na yung values ng Pasko is more on pagbibigay din sa kapwa.
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So, especially kapag ganitong mga season,
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nagbabalot kami ng mga food packs,
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then yun, sinasama namin sila doon para at least makita nila yung diwa talaga ng Pasko
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na hindi lang puro pagtanggap ng mga regalo yung pinakaminging noon.
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So, more on give love to others din.
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Especially yung panganay namin kasi medyo,
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siya is 8 years old na so naiintindihan niya na yung mga bagay na sa palitid niya.
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So, kapag ka sobrang dami naman na meron siya,
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sinishare niya rin at nakikita din namin.
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And masaya kami sa part na yun kasi na-adapt niya yung ganun.
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There, mukhang sharing at giving ang mga important values dito kay Daddy Marlon.
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Okay, let's jump right in Teacher Michelle.
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Good values, parang kausipin mo,
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hindi mo kaagad siya matatie up dito sa mga Christmas traditions.
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But, I'll jump back lang to what you said earlier.
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As a teacher, you said you like teaching DIY ornaments and DIY gift wrapper.
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How is that connected to good values?
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Well, values as you know, yun yung nagsha-shape ng buhay natin.
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So, in order to teach values,
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kinokonnect natin yun sa kung anong finofocus mo.
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Kasi whatever you focus on, it magnifies.
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So, ang focus ko in teaching making ornaments and gift wrapping paper
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is the art of giving more than receiving.
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Kasi ang finofocus ko hindi yung pagsulat ng letter kay Santa.
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Ano bang gusto mo? Hindi yun eh.
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Ang finofocus natin is ano bang pwede natin gawin para to make things special
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or make people and ourselves feel special.
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Like we'll make our own ornaments
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and we'll make gift wrapping paper to focus on the giving part.
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Ang galing no? Because that's right.
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Kasi yung ornament, ang ilalagay mo din sa tree.
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Yung ginawa mong gift wrapper,
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ang ipapambalat mo sa bibigay mo kay Ninong or kay Nina.
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Kasi there's this saying na parang values are caught, not taught.
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Do you believe that?
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At paki-explain, ano magsabihin ng values are caught, not taught?
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Kasi yung experiences natin, yun yung magiging inner voice natin.
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So, yung experiences natin as a child,
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yun ang magiging inner voice natin when we grow older.
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So, yung experiences natin, yun yung naghuhubog
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at nagsh-shape ng who we will be in the future.
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So, that's why it's really, really important.
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I have a friend, Tammy,
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and her whole family is involved from pagluto ng food
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up to pag-share ng food to the community.
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And it's not something that they just do,
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oh, during the holiday season.
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They do it throughout the year.
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And you can see in her children that sharing and giving
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is a big part of their culture, their family culture.
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Yeah, parang nanonormalize na this is something that we really do as people.
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Napaka-tricky for me kasi teacher Michelle ng values
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kasi it's not like you can teach a kid ABC or 1 plus 1 equals 2.
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Hindi mo sinasabi lang na you learn how to share
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or you share with your sister
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or hindi mo sasabi na you be kind to others.
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Kasi ano yun? Ano yung kind? Ano yung share?
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Parang ibang-iba siya.
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At what age should we start teaching values to our kids
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or ano ba dapat mauna?
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How is it supposed to go?
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So, let's take your example, yung sharing.
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Ang una dyan ay emotional literacy.
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So, una dapat matutunan ng bata yung pag-identify ng feelings niya.
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So, sariling feelings and feelings of others.
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So, kailangan matutunan niya yung cue na,
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Oh, nagka-smile siya, so happy siya, so okay or good.
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Or naka-frown na siya,
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Ay, parang hindi okay kung ano man yung ginagawa ko.
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So, yun yung emotional literacy.
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After nun, pag alam niya na at na-identify niya na yung feelings niya,
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mayroon naman tayong self-regulation
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or kung paano niya minamanage yung feelings niya.
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Yun yung magiging foundation for caring, for empathy, and for kindness.
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Tapos, kung kailan nagsastart, once pinanganak yung baby,
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walang off button yan pagdating sa learning.
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So, as early as two years old,
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kaya na nila maintindihan yung concept ng values and morals.
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That's why I find it tricky because like I said nga,
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parang you can say all these big words, di ba, values.
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Kunyari, we want our kids to be obedient, generous, responsible.
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Ang big word, parang how do you explain obedient, generous, responsible
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to a two, three, four-year-old?
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Through your actions.
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Kasi gaya nga sabi ni Daddy Marlon, they copy what you do.
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So, you as the adult, as the grown-up, you set the tone.
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So, hindi nila maintindihan talaga kung anong tawag doon in the beginning.
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They just know it because they do it, because they copy you.
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So, kunyari, respect.
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Pag ikaw lagi kang nagsasabi ng please and thank you,
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alam na nila na it's almost like breathing, right?
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You say thank you, you say please.
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So, that's how children learn.
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Kailangan talaga all natural.
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You can't share what you don't have.
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So, it all starts with the grown-ups.
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Oh my gosh, napaka-crucial.
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So, ang sagot, parents, kailangan tayo muna.
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Tayo muna ang maging responsible, obedient, at generous para sumunod sila.
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I guess let's dig into that more.
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And for me, super interesting, Michelle, what you said na yung respect,
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the way we can teach it to kids is to respect them too.
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So, yeah, I guess talk us through more examples of teaching respect.
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Yeah, if you want them to listen to you,
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you have to show that what is listening?
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So, I have to listen to my child.
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And I have to listen.
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Baka kasi, oh, you're always interrupting mommy when I'm talking.
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Wala, di nakailag yung mga magulang doon, Michelle.
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Wala, parang, woo, natamaan kaming lahat.
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Okay, so important.
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Yes, go on, please.
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Children are little individuals.
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They are not just extensions of us.
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I know like parents, you made the child.
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But they are their own little being.
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So, we have to respect their interests.
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So, kunyari, lahat tayo magmamatching, di ba?
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Kung ayaw nung bata magwear ng matching outfit,
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bakit galit na galit siya?
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Baka hindi kasi siya part.
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Pinili mo red, eh green na green pala yung nasa mind niya.
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Gusto niya maggreen sa Pasko.
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Di natin inincorporate yung interests nila.
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So, paano natin i-showcase yung respect?
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By involving them, by asking them,
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So, itong holiday na ito, ito yung pupuntahan natin.
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What makes you excited about it?
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How can it be exciting for you?
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So, pag magtanong ka, matututo rin siya na,
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ay, important pala yung opinion ko.
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So, ganito pala yung feeling nang nire-respeto ka.
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Ang ganda pala ng feeling pag nire-respeto ka,
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I have to make sure I do the same.
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Kasi alam ko yung feeling na when I'm respected,
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when nire-respect nila na important sa akin yung tulog,
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important sa akin na kumain on time, ganyan.
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So, ang gandang pagkakalatag
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of how we really can show kids what respect is.
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And alam ko may mga nanonood na yun
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na hindi lang parents kundi educators as well.
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Like Sir D. D. Dumrique.
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Hello! Thank you for watching.
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So, Sir D. is a teacher.
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So, actually, itong talk is talaga free resource din
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for educators, teachers, guidance counselors.
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And in fact, parang your tip nga Michelle,
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hindi lang pang early childhood,
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parang kahit hanggang teenager at adult,
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What you said about listening,
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asking people what they think or what they want,
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super, super useful pa rin.
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Let's go to activities.
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Do you have any recommended activities
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na makaka-encourage to,
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for kids to learn good values?
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With anything, children,
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you have to start with their interest
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and incorporating their interest.
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So, kunyari, mahilig siya yan sa Pokemon
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or iba-ibang mga characters.
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Mahilig siya, yung anak mo mahilig,
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Then you have to incorporate anything you teach,
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whether it's values or even academics,
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to what is the child interested in
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you have to learn how they want to learn.
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And it's usually through play.
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Everything through play, right?
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di ba lumaki tayo may golden rule?
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You know, do unto others what you want others.
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Mayroon na ngayong platinum rule.
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Platinum? What is platinum rule?
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Upgrade tayo, Bianca.
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You have to do unto others
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how you want them to be treated.
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It's not treat them how you want to be treated.
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Actually, that's not right.
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You should treat them how they want to be treated.
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Kasi hindi naman tayo pareho ng likes.
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Hindi naman tayo pareho in the way we learn.
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So, you have to treat them
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how they want to be treated.
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That is so interesting.
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It depends on what your child likes.
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Kasi hindi siya one size fits all.
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And nag-iiba talaga yung interest ng bata every day.
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Minsan-minsan nga, every minute.
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Nag-change yung interest nila.
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So, you have to go with the flow.
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Let us have another guest speaker
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dito sa ating episode.
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And we're still talking about values.
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So, I would like to share with you a message
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from Love Education Philippines.
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So, let's watch this.
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What we inject with values
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is also depending on what was the climate.
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So, for example, during election season,
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we focus on what makes a good leader.
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We wanted also kids to reflect.
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So, values of a good leader, characteristics.
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We want the children to as well
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define what makes a good leader
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based on their own reflections
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and based on story.
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Then yung sa Peace Education namin,
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we focused on emotions.
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So, the value there is feeling emotions
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and how do we give it back.
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What does it mean to be sad or happy?
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So, even ano to self-regulation
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or learning about your emotions
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is still connected to values
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because that is one thing that you want
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children at the youngest age to give.
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First, they need to experience it
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before we give it to others.
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So, for us, it's very reflective na
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when we are teaching values to kids,
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we show the values to the kids.
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Or kahit kapit-bahay,
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says please and thank you.
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It would make sense for the kid.
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So, when nakikita ng bata,
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Oh, nag-please and thank you yun
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yung mga grown-ups ko.
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I think that's a normal thing to do.
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I should also do it.
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I think the second one would be
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it's more of let's do our part
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in the community.
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Trying to make the kids' environment
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the safest place.
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If school is like this,
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but home is a little bit different,
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children will keep it separate.
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They don't see that everything pala
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And I think, for me,
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that a kid needs to see that
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everything's connected
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and we're doing all our parts
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to make the home and the world
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or the community a better place.
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Thank you to Juano of Love Education Philippines.
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Ang dami niyong sinabi na super parallel,
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Teacher Michelle.
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And I wanted to go back to that.
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Kasi hindi mo kaagading isipin na
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paano konektado yung pagiging sad
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or happy ng isang bata
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sa pagkatuto niya ng good values?
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Ang emotions ay ang foundation
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ang kadalasan ng values,
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you require empathy.
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So paano ka mag-empathize
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or put yourself in someone's shoes
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kung hindi mo nga alam yung emotions
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or yung feelings?
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Kaya talaga yun yung basis,
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kaya maganda talaga
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kung hindi nila ma-experience themselves
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is through storytelling,
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Kahit na kwentohan mo,
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kahit kung wala kang books,
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pwede mong kwentohan
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yung anak mo ng experiences
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ng iba-ibang emotions.
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Para hindi kasi lahat ng bata
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makaka-feel ng fear
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kasi never sila natakot.
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May gano'n naman,
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hindi naman sila talaga malungkutin
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pero makaka-empathize pa rin sila
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That makes so much sense.
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And minensyon din ni Juano
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something very interesting
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ang pagturo ng values
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or good values sa mga bata
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pwedeng ikabit or itie in sa nangyayari.
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Hindi siya out of thin air obedience.
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Parang pwede mo siyang itahe
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sa kung ano man nangyayari
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at a particular time.
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Ang kanyang example was eleksyon.
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We're talking about now Christmas.
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Can you talk about that more?
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Tying in values sa nangyayari sa paligid.
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Yung experiences,
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kasi yun yung makaka-relate ka talaga
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kasi it's real to them.
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It's happening right now.
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Ngayong holiday season,
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important sa poll natin,
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big deal, presents.
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So paano mo ipapa-show sa kanila
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na yung presents is not the everything.
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You can say presents, not presents.
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You can involve children and be together.
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So one of my fondest memory with presents
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is actually not getting the presents,
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although that's always fun,
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is yung pag-gift wrap.
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Ako yung tiga-bigay ng tape.
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Tapos may tape na sa buong katawan ko.
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Alam mo yun yung parang,
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Yung marami kasing ibabalot na presents.
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So ini-involve ako ng mom ko
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na sige, ikaw in charge sa tape
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or ikaw tiga-hawak ka ng tape
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para ma-close yung pag-wrap ng presents.
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Tapos pwedeng as early as a baby,
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involve mo sila sa pag-shopping.
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Pwede mo sila dalhin sa grocery.
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So tinuturo mo yung values.
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Di nila alam na nagtuturo ka na pala ng values
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kasi everyday experience lang siya.
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Nakatie-in siya sa being together.
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Si baby Solly, inaanak ko.
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Baby pa lang talaga siya.
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Dinalagay na siya dyan sa cart.
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Gusto ko yung cart na kasha yung baby
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kasi involved na siya.
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Baby pa lang siya.
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Involved na siya sa everyday traditions na
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family traditions na ginagawa.
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Kunyari, pag-prepare ng meal.
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Pero what makes it special na yung Pasko?
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Mas madami kang niluluto
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So sama-sama sa pag-prepare.
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Mayroon na rin akong example na
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three generations
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nagbe-bake sila together.
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Yung friend ko si Angelica,
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yung anak niya si Sophie,
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at saka yung mommy niya
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magkasama sila, nagbe-bake,
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So nagiging mas important yung pag-prepare
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for the holiday instead of just the holiday.
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So doon natin patatayin.
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And enjoying yung journey
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kesa yung mismong araw ng Pasko lang.
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Let kids be kids.
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Respect their routines.
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Can you talk about this one?
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With this, we have to make sure
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paggawa natin ng schedule.
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Yung mga pupunta sa bahay ni Ninong,
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pupunta sa in-laws,
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ang daming bibisitahin.
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Kailangan may merienda.
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Let's not veer away from that
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kasi yun yung unang respect.
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Teaching the value of respect
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starts by respecting your children as well
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So kunyari may pupuntahan ka
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baka ma-overwhelm yung anak ko
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sa sobrang daming handa.
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na alam ko na magugustuhan nila
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Tapos kung kailangan malate ka
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dahil nagnanap pa yung anak mo,
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you have to just tell your husband,
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sorry malilate kami in advance, di ba?
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Para hindi naman mag-meltdown yung anak mo
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kasi hindi siya nakanap
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kasi gusto kang pakita.
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May gusto kang gawin.
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so anong value yung tinuturo mo?
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kasi hindi mo binavalue yung
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importance sa anak mo.
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So important talaga yung routines
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as much as possible.
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We have to pick our battles, di ba?
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Ang gandang reminder
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because you're right,
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parang lalo na tuwing holiday season
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ang dami nating gustong isiksik
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at kailangan gawin.
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At ang naalala ko dito
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with your example
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if you respect yung routine nila
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matututunan din nila yung
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matututunan din nila yung
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pero boundaries, di ba?
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They will learn what it means
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to have boundaries
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at dadalhin nila yun
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hanggang pagtanda.
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Is it correct for me to say
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because I'm also a parent
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to early childhood kids
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kasi when I talk about values
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or when I think about values
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I don't necessarily
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think na alam nila yung word
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kung paano yun gawin.
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I don't think my kids
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understand the word obedience
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maybe my 7 year old a bit
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if they understand
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what mommy or daddy say
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that's more important than actually
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knowing yung salita
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am I correct to say that?
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you're gonna help them identify
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that what they're doing is obedience
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by narrating when you're
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obeying something
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like oh, the traffic light is
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and you know, this is
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we have to stop the car
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and that's the rule of traffic
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and I'm obeying the traffic rule
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so that's an example
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so then it will stick in their head
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like oh, that's what it is
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so when mommy follows the rules too
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and I have to follow the rules
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because we're doing the same thing
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and then you can explain
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when they can understand better
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that rules are there
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and that's why I like to follow rules
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because they were made to keep us safe
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and so mommy and daddy
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we have rules in our house
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and every house has different rules
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it's to keep you safe
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or because I want to do this
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like you have to share with them your goals
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Hindi lang siya rule dahil
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sinabi ko. Rule siya
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because blank blank
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that explaining. Okay
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I think we have a bit more time and I wanted to ask you this
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because sobrang enlightening
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the whole discussion about respect
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which is honestly
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so can you give us a few
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about teaching honesty
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when you experience
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yourself na parang
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like you admit things
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like I'm sorry mommy said that
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we're gonna do this and I'm sorry
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but we're not gonna be able to do this
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because this is what happened
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you have to show them that
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you parents make mistakes
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you learn from your mistakes
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you can share with them
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what happened parang cause and effect
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na parang because I did this
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this is what happened
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and you explain it to them that sometimes I do things
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and I wish I didn't
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like oh no I shouted at you
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I'm so sorry I shouted
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I really felt bad that I shouted
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at you because I was like hungry
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something happened to me, I'm late
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but that's not respectful to shout
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at people and I shouldn't have shouted
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like true emotions
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is honesty, showing your true emotions
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there's nothing to be embarrassed
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about when you make mistakes
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it happens and we're gonna learn
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from it and that's what's important
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to modeling parang kung ano yung
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ginagawa natin yun din yung
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can we teach values during the time
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when the kids are misbehaving
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kunyari having tantrums
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tantrums a teachable moment
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I guess ang gustong
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usually your brain
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when you're having tantrums I mean as an
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adult when you're having your own
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meltdown do you really want to hear
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the first thing you need to
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so first pag nagtantrum
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connect what is going on
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do they even know what's going on in their
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bodies kasi that's a big emotion
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right back to emotional literacy
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when you identify it you name it
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and then you can tame it
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so once you name it I see that you're kasi
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first thing we do okay ka lang
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but obviously they're not okay
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because they're crying or stop crying
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eh paano kung hindi niya kaya
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kaya nga siya umiiyak kasi something's
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wrong right behavior is
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a form of communication so
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they're communicating something
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kailangan pakiramdaman mo eh na parang
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okay ready ka na settled ka na
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so ano ba nangyari
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so then you can like
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okay turo na ganyan
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and then later on it's better
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to reflect remember
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and remember nung ano
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kasi gusto mo yung toy tapos hindi
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natin mabili ano nangyari
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dun then you can walk through and then
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relatable pa rin sya kasi
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na experience niya yun eh
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minsan baka umayaw yung bata na
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ayokong mapag-usapan yan
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kasi nahiya sya diba
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alam ko yan minsan ayoko
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talaga pag-usapan yung mga bagay
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na nakakahiya pero
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from there dun tayo
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matututo so pwede ka
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magshare ng nakakahiyang story mo rin
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you know like really connect
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first before you teach
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answer is no not during a meltdown
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kasi yung brain mo wala
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ano you're gonna be talking to
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a wall diba emotions emotions
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emotions pero once you connect
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then mapapakiramdaman mo na
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I just think that
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we have to remember that us grownups
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anything that we want to teach
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and it always starts with us
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think about what's important
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to us and know that whatever
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na finafocus natin
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that's what magnifies
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pag magfocus tayo on us
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yun rin yung makikita ng bata
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walang off button
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so lahat ng talagang makikita
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nila yun yung magiging
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important sa kanila and that will be
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their inner voice when they get older
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thank you so much teacher
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Michelle maraming maraming salamat
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because that's about
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the time we have this is the
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end of talk it early childhood series
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of course we are your parenting companion
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pagdating sa paglalaga ng mga batang edad
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thank you so much teacher Michelle
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for your time let's review
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let's do a bit of review of our talk
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ed expert tips of the day
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mas importante yung
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giving kesa receiving
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and hindi rin kailangan material things
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ang laging ibinabahagi ha
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presents can show love and
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appreciation through hugs
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diba through written letters
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so madaming iba't ibang ways that we can
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give without it necessarily
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having to be things na binili
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sinabi din yan ni teacher Michelle
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part sila ng process
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ang mga bata they're really good
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madaling nilang gayahin yung nakikita nila
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naririnig sa mga matatanda
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so we can also try
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giving them little tasks
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magandang bonding to make the celebration
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even more meaningful
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third, nako importante reminder
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for our kids tulad ng
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playtime, nap time, snack time
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di ba? may mga bata kasi
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na talaga hirap mag adjust
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kapag nagbabago yung routines at maraming
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pagbabago ng routines during Christmas time
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talaga pero syempre kung di
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maiwasan we can use this as an
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opportunity to introduce
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the concept of patience
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di ba? Hindi nila laging
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makukuha yung gusto nila
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that's why kahit pa paano pagbata pa lang
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let's slowly prepare them
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and last of course
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and such an important reminder as well from teacher
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Michelle earlier is to remember
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that kids are kids
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pwedeng mainip yan
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or mahirapan sa pagkain lalo na
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dun sa mga picky eaters so you can help
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ease this by diverting attention to
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yung celebration di ba? Yung value
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ng celebration, the reason for this season
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so that's it! Maraming salamat sa
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lahat ng mga sumama sa ating kwentuhan ngayong
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araw. Ako pa rin po ang inyong
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host Bianca Gonzalez and see you in our
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next Talk Ed. Bye!
