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Sa episode na ito, isishare po sa inyo yung perfect method.
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Para tayo maka-break free sa tinatawag nating perfectionism and self-criticism.
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Okay, lahat po naman tayo gusto natin umadlad ng ating buhay.
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Siyempre, ideal life, ideal spouse, ideal house, ideal car, di ba?
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Pero, importante, ito yung pinaka-importante.
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Lahat tayo, meron tayong gusto sa buhay.
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Pero, kailangan i-gauge po natin yung tinatawag nating expectations from realities.
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May ginawa po ako ng word called perfect.
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Ano pong gagawin natin ito?
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Break free from perfectionism and criticism.
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Number one, letter P po tayo.
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Prioritize your values.
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Ano ibig sabihin?
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Ano ba ang mahalaga po sa iyong buhay right now?
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I-identify mo kung ano ang mahalaga sa iyo sa buhay mo,
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at yun na i-prioritize mo.
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Like for example,
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ang mahalaga para sa akin, ha?
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Siyempre, gusto kong kumita ng pera.
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Pero, kailangang gusto ko habang kumikita ako ng pera,
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nagkakaroon pa rin ako ng oras para sa aking pamilya.
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Para sa akin, yan ang aking priority.
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What if there's an opportunity that can help me make a lot of money,
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but it will take away time from my family?
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Hindi ko na kukunin yan.
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I would rather have a less opportunity, less income,
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but I would have time with my family.
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Again, nagigets mo yan.
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So, it's very important,
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bago mo pa ipicture yung ideal life mo na perfect,
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kailangang alamin mo muna,
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ano bang mahalaga sa iyo?
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If you do not prioritize what is valuable to you,
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instead na ikaw ay ma-attract sa gusto mo talaga,
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madi-distract ka.
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Do you agree or disagree?
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Pakit-type lang sa comment section.
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Let's go to letter A.
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Letter E, ano gagawin na?
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Embrace your imperfection.
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Alam mo, have no fear of perfection,
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because no one is perfect.
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So, why be perfect?
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Lahat po tayo nagkakamali,
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Ako nagkakamali ako,
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ikaw nagkakamali ka.
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pag tayo nagkamali,
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tayo ba ay natututo sa ating pagkakamali?
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Kasi may mga taong nagkamali na patuloy pa rin ang pagkakamali,
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at nabubuhay pa rin sa pagkakamali.
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Kaya gamitin po natin ang ating mga pagkakamali sa buhay
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bilang mga vitamins,
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bilang mga life lessons,
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so that we will not repeat the same mistake.
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Agree or disagree?
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Letter R of perfect,
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so that we can break free from perfectionism.
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When you say reframe,
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reframe your way of thinking.
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Bakit ka ganun mag-isip na kailangan perfect ka parati?
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Baka feeling mo parati.
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kahit anong gawin mo,
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parang feeling mo,
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you're never good enough.
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Naalala ko tuloy.
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Di naman ako nagkaroon ng perfectionism na idea
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or tinatawag na self-criticism.
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Naalala ko tuloy noong bata ako,
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na parati akong baksak, di ba?
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pag pinapasok na yung card ko,
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talagang birthday na birthday,
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yung birthday card,
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di ba, red na red.
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Tapos, 69 ang grade ko,
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sabi ng father ko.
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Tapos, nag-aaral ako, di ba?
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Tuwan-tuan na ako.
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Ako, mapupuri na ako ng tatay ko dahil pumasa na ako.
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Ay, daw nakita ng tatay ko.
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O, 75, pasang awa.
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Hindi ka tumulin sa kapatid mo, 85.
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kaya ako parang feeling ko,
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I will never be good enough,
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no matter how hard I try.
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Kung kayong nakaka-relate sa kinento ko,
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na parang feeling mo,
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you will never live up to the expectation of your parents,
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please type it in.
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Kaya hanggang ngayon,
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you're still striving.
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Kahit wala na ang parents mo,
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wala na yung father mo,
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pero yung way of ano mo,
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you feel that you're never good enough.
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Stop thinking like that,
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Huwag ka magpadala.
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Kasi, tapos na yan eh.
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Wala kang dapat patunayan.
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Alam mo, ito lang ah,
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ito yung na-realize ko sa buhay.
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The goal in life is not to achieve perfection,
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but the goal in life is to achieve progression.
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Compared to last year to this year,
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nag-improve ka ba?
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Kung nag-improve, good job.
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69 to 75, good job.
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kahit di ka mag-85,
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Last year may utang ka,
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ngayon nakakabayad ka na sa utang,
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Ngayon nagbabayad ka sa utang,
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next year bayad ka na sa utang,
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wala ka ng utang,
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Kahit wala ka pang bahay.
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ang ibig ko sabihin,
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Hindi aksidente na pinapanood mo itong video na ito.
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Alam mo the reason why,
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ganun ka mag-isip,
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negative ka mag-isip,
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You're not kind to yourself
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because you forget to do the next step.
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Ano yung next step sa,
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Nelter F na tayo ah.
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Gusto mo ba talaga
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mabreak ang iyong perfectionism
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na parang spirit within you
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na talagang kinikritisize mo na yung sarili mo?
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Ito yung dapat manggawin.
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Forgive yourself.
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Ang ganda ng quote
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ni Luis S. Medes,
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to forgive is to set a prisoner free
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and discover the prisoner is actually you.
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you are too hard to yourself,
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you can easily forgive others,
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but it's so hard to forgive yourself.
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yun ang topic na pinag-usapan ko
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sa Breaking Free from Guilt and Shame.
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Kung na-miss yung episode na yan,
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panoorin nyo lang sa Breaking Free series ko.
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kung ikaw ay nagkamali,
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friendship sa mga financial decisions mo,
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and hanggang ngayon,
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pinagbabayaran mo pa rin yung mga utang,
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yung mga relationships na nasira,
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humingi ka ng tawad sa mga tao,
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at pinakaimportante,
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dapat matuto ka rin magpatawad sa sarili mo.
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Kung hindi mo pinatawad ang iyong sarili
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sa iyong mga pagkakamali,
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you will live a life of shame,
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and perfectionism.
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You will criticize yourself.
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Kung sino naman sa inyo ang guilty niyan,
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paki-type na lang sa comment section na guilty
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na hindi mo pa napapatawad ng sarili.
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Kaya ang gusto kong tanungin,
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si Marjorie Sundiam,
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and Ana Jean Lebios,
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nakaka-relate ba kayo sa episode natin na ito?
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Last three steps in order for us to break free
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from our spirit of perfectionism,
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letter E na po tayo ulit,
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educate and empower yourself.
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Mag-infest ka sa financial education.
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Kasi sa totoo lang,
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the more you are empowered,
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the more you're educated,
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you are empowered,
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you feel more confident.
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Like for example ako,
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bago ako mag-invest,
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alam ko na yung gagawin ko,
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alam ko na yung tatanungin ko.
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as I am educated,
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ang goal ko sa buhay ulit,
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hindi perfection.
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Ang goal ko sa buhay,
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hindi to compare myself with others.
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Ang goal ko is to achieve my personal goals in life.
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So what kung mas marami silang mga collections?
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So what kung mas marami silang pera?
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So what kung mas marami silang achievement?
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Kasi hindi naman yan ang buhay na gusto ko.
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And the reason why I learn,
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because I get educated and I get empowered.
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E paano naman yung mga tao na hindi alam?
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So anong mangyayari niyan?
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You will always become a prisoner
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of perfectionism and self-criticism.
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And let's go to step number six.
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Para masustain mo itong bagong mindset
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na sinishare ko po sa inyo,
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create a support system.
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Surround yourself with people
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who are going to push you up.
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Not people who's going to pull you down.
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Kaya nga, surround mong sarili mo
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yung mga taong kontento na sa buhay.
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Hindi yung parang nagpapataasan kayo ng ihihit.
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Pahabaan ng iihit.
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Pardon me for the term.
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Ang sarap kasi ng pakiramdam.
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Pagkinakwento nyo yung pinagkakwentohan nyo,
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paano kayo nakakatulong sa kapwa.
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Yung mga personal fulfillment ninyo,
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hindi tungkol sa pera,
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kundi sa mission mo sa buhay,
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sa purpose mo sa buhay.
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Hindi pa kayo napapagod
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na parating kausap nyo parating
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yung mga nagkukumpara.
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Yung parating mga mayabang.
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Dahil hindi ito nakakabuti sa iyong mental health.
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And last but not the least,
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letter T on perfect.
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Para talagang matigil na natin
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yung self-criticism po natin.
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Letter T is transform.
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Transform your habits.
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Tanungin mo sarili mo,
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ano yung mga bad habits
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that triggers you to compare yourself with others?
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Ano yung mga bad habits mo
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na sinasabi mo kailangan maging perfect ka?
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Nagiging competitive ka ba?
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Ayaw mo magpatalo?
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Pag nakikita mo yung ibang tao,
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Less superior ka?
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Ano yung mga habits na yun?
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And one thing that I've learned in life,
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again, my goal is not compare myself with others.
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My goal is not to beat others,
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but my goal is to beat myself.
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Kaya nga pag nagbago yung habits mo,
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like yung sense of comparison mo,
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alam mo magbabago talagang pananaw mo sa buhay.
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Kaya nga ang mga friendship,
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To stop our spirit of perfectionism
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to the max na hindi na nakakatulong sa atin,
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again, let's go to letter P.
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Ano bang values mo?
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Ano mahalaga sa'yo?
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Number two, embrace your imperfection.
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And then letter R,
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reframe your way of thinking
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from negative to positive.
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Letter F, powerful to forgive yourself.
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So that you can move on.
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E, educate and empower yourself.
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C, create a support system.
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And D, transform your habits.
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Pag ikaw, inaplay mo to,
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it allows you to embrace a new form of mindset.
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It allows you to easier to adapt
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to mga challenges and financial difficulties.
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And it can help you to let go
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yung mga unrealistic expectations in your life
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and to be able to celebrate
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and be contented with what God has given you today.
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Ikaw, tanongin kita.
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Alam ko medyo mahaba-haba na.
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Ano ang natutunan mo sa episode natin na ito?
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Anong narealize mo sa episode natin na ito?
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pakicomment na lang sa comment section
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so that we can learn from each other.
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Tatandaan, ang tamang karunungan,
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ang tamang disiplina,
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ang susi sa pagyaman.
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Thank you for watching.
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If you want to suggest a topic or review
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that you would like me to discuss on the next video,
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please do comment below
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para mabasa po namin.
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Thank you very much
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and I'll see you on our next video.
