LUIS LISTENS TO GRACE MONDINA a.k.a. MARITES | Luis Manzano
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Dahil naniniwala ako, marami tayong matutunan sa kanya.
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In fact, kamakilan sila yung laman ng internet talaga na pag-uusapan.
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And aminin naman natin na pagpipiestahan ang mga nangyayari sa kanila mga personal na buhay.
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Kaya naman kasama natin ngayon walang iba, si Ms. Grace, also known as Malithis.
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Hello po and welcome po sa Louise Listens sa Lucky TV.
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At gusto ko lang i-confirm, dalala natin si Ms. Grace yan, ang galing pang United States.
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Kamusta po? Why are you here in the Philippines?
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Just vacation and just have fun, make content.
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Isipin nyo, bakasyon yung tao pero pumunta pa rin sa Louise Listens.
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Turist spot ang dating ko.
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Talagang kahit mga foreigner, hinahanap to it.
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Pero wag yun pong hanapin, may asawat, anak na ako.
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So Ms. Grace, kamusta kayo?
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The year is fairly new, 2023 po tayo.
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But how was your 2022?
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Everyone knows exactly what happened.
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But you know, I'm getting through it.
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You know, slowly, slowly healing with the help of my family and friends.
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How's the family to begin with?
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Yung mga chikiting, kamusta po sila?
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They're slowly healing also.
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Two of them mayroon silang autism so they don't really understand.
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Pero yung youngest namin, yung si CJ, yung kasama namin sa vlog,
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he's trying to adjust kasi you know, it's a shock.
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Of course, syempre pinag-uusapan din natin si Sir Pambansang Kolokoy.
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Para sa mga nakakatutok lang, yung pinag-uusapan natin.
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Now let me ask you po.
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You know, my parents also chose to go different paths when I was younger.
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And ano po yung ginawa ninyo when you came to that point
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na you guys thought that it's time for us to say, inupunyo ba sila?
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Or na parang this is what's gonna happen with mama and papa?
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Like how did they understand that concept na kailangan nyo pong maghiwalay?
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Ginawa po, sabi ko, you guys need to come here.
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So sabi ko, your dad needs to tell you guys something.
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In the beginning, ayaw niya.
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Ayaw niyang sabihin sa mga kids.
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But I had to because they need to know.
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They need to know what's going on.
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Hindi yung wala na siya.
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It's like, nasan si dad?
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So we have to explain it to them as a respect to my kids
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and especially CJ, he's close to us.
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So we had to tell them.
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And how did they take it po?
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Baka akala nila prank.
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Baka akala nila joke.
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No, totoo naman diba?
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Kasi akala mo lang bigla, then all of a sudden na you're talking about a separation.
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So for them, initially ba, were they thinking na it was a prank lang or part of a skit?
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Parang nashock si CJ.
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Yung dalawa, parang hindi nila maintindihan.
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Kasi yung isa, it's like first grade level.
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Yung isa, fourth grade level.
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So parang, I think at that time, hindi sila nakikinig.
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Or parang wala lang.
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Hindi nila maintindihan.
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Ako yung sasayay ko lang din.
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Currently, naghiwalay ang magulang ko when I was maybe five or six years old.
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Pakisipan yung punchline to.
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Naikwento sa akin ng mommy ko na sila ni daddy, binala ako.
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Seryoso yung kwento ko.
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Na dinala ako sa sementeryo.
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Parang ako, hindi ako nagkakamali.
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I could be wrong.
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Parang sa libingan ng mga bayani.
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Because they wanted to have a quiet time with me.
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Wala na mas tatahimik pa sa sementeryo.
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So kapag, that's where they explained.
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Na parang anak, mommy and I, we know we have to go our separate ways.
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And for some reason, I fully understood.
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And I believe, do you agree?
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It's something that as a parent,
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That's why you put in that effort.
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They need to know.
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They need to know so that they can understand what's going on.
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Bagong taon para sa inyo, para sa pamilyo.
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How has your 2023 been so far?
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Better than last year.
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we're still slowly healing.
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And I'm more active now.
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I'm in Wonder Z's vlogs and Choose One.
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So I'm keeping myself busy.
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Working, taking care of the family.
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At the same time, I'm trying to be active in social media.
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And I see that you're smiling.
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And it's a process.
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Hindi naman pwede mo sabihing na isang araw, okay ka lang.
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Ano yung biggest learnings mo sa 2022 na medyo maraming nangyari, Ms. Grace?
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Magbigay ka ng 84 learnings.
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Magbigay kami ng papel.
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Pakisulat na ng 84.
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Babalik ako in 2 hours.
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Pinatest po ng 2 hours.
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Biggest learnings po of 2022?
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I think that love isn't enough when you're in a relationship.
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Okay, okay, okay.
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Kasi you need trust.
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You need to be transparent.
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You need to communicate.
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And you need to value your partner.
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You need to understand.
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That's the key to have a good relationship.
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Healthy, open, honest communication.
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Actually, ang ganda.
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Actually, sinabi ni mami ko rin yan.
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Na it's not simply about love.
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It's also about respect.
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Kasi pwede mo mahalin yung tao,
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pero pwede mo hindi mo talaga nire-respeto yung pagkatao ng isang tao.
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So yan maganda rin yung transparency, yung trust, and everything.
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For example, pag-usapan na natin na what really happened,
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if you don't mind,
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kay Pangbansang Kolokoy o si Sir Joel, tawagin natin.
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How did you get to that point na parang kailangan na natin maghiwalay?
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No, it never got to that point.
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It never got to that point where we talked about it.
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Nag-break up na kami because he didn't have time for me.
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Parang napifeel ko na there's something going on,
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pero I don't have the evidence.
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When you say, just to be sure,
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when you say going on,
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parang there might be someone else involved, ganoon mo ba?
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But I couldn't confirm it.
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Wala na yung relationship namin.
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Parang we're just friends with kids.
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Wala na yung feeling.
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There's no more spark.
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Yung sabi kasi na sa isang relasyon,
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it will always evolve.
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It will not always be romantic love.
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Magiging parang companionship na lang yan.
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Pero maganday nandiyan pa rin yung paligaw-ligaw.
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Noong nandiyan yung feeling, sabi mo nga Ms. Grace,
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na parang there was someone else in the scenario,
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did you ever ask man lang?
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Because I always get like emails,
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like random emails.
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So I'm like, is this true?
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Of course, he's gonna deny, di ba?
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So, okay, I believe you.
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Because you told me before na hindi mo gagawin yun.
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So I trusted him.
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So parang bali wala lang.
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But every time, I always get that message.
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If you know what I'm asking,
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kung sakasakali man,
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like your past relationships or experiences,
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Very trusting kang individual?
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O nagkataon lang na kay Sir Joel?
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Because I guess you have the family setup talaga.
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Or you've always been a puwedeng martir?
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Or a trusting individual?
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Yes, I've always been trusting.
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And plus, we've been together for 25 years.
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I wouldn't think that he would do that
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because ang tagal na namin.
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We talked about growing old together.
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When we see old couples, they're holding hands.
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We say, we're gonna be like that, right?
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Yun ang pinag-usapan namin.
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So I never thought that he would do something like that.
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And I guess everyone watching you guys,
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kahit ako may mga ibang clips kayo
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na I shared before on my social media pages,
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parang you can see that it's an ideal family.
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But we all know it's different
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whatever's on social media
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compared to how it is in real life.
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So up to this day,
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kung ano man yung hinala niyo po,
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whatever your suspicions were,
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it's still never confirmed.
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Or finally, at one point,
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you were able to get a sort of confirmation
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about whatever your suspicion was.
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Yes, it was confirmed.
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How was that moment po?
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Kasi sabi mo, before, you could brush it aside.
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O, may nag-email sa akin,
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nag-ganito-ganito.
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Sabi namin, o, totoo ba to?
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Ang daling kausap.
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Eto, may pictures kayo.
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Nagkahalikan kayo.
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Ang daling kausap.
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nung nagkaroon na ng konti nga confirmation,
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how did you take it?
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And what did you do about it?
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I was like, what?
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Ba't kinawa mo yun?
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I mean, confirmation.
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If you don't mind me asking,
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anong klaseng confirmation?
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Was it a picture?
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Tumawag yung babae sa akin.
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Isa ba siya sa mga napaghinalaan mo na dati?
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Or completely new?
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The night before,
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someone kept calling me.
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So I kept ignoring it.
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it's still an unknown caller.
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So hindi ko sinagot.
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So then there's a text.
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I need to talk to you about his name.
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So I said, what is it?
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Parang si Voldemort na reporter.
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He who shall not be named.
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Sinasabi ko yung name.
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So finally, when you replied?
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So at the same time,
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and the girl called.
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At the same time,
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nandiyan si Joel sa tabi ko.
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And yun, sinabi niya na
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they've been together for a long time.
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And this is March 2022.
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we've been together for a long time
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and we're gonna have a baby in July 2022.
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nagkinawa mo yun?
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nag-sorry naman siya.
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he regretted it, I think.
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He was sorry for what he did.
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Were you very confrontational
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pagdating sa ganon?
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Or you simply shut down,
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and you were just asking
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how that happened?
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I thought we were okay.
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like I was really shocked.
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Blindsided talaga?
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Because we broke up.
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I thought that was just a breakup.
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I never thought that
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he would have another girlfriend.
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there was a, you know,
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a few things going on.
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so the next few days
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after that revelation po,
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ano mga ginawa niyo?
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We decided to get back together.
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Kasi I was willing to take him back.
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That's how much I loved him.
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Medyo matinding dating na yun ha?
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Nagka-confrontation,
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but you decided to get back together pa rin?
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I still accepted him.
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Parang feeling ko
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pagkatapos ni Mother Teresa,
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kayo na po ang susunod.
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Parang ang lupit.
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I'm sure marami sa mga nanonood
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was already in front of you,
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lahat ng kailangan mo,
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yung evidence na hindi mo niyo makuha,
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nagkausap na kayo.
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Because I loved him
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and I wanted our family
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So kailan yung point talaga na,
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it's about time na
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we really have to go our separate ways?
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Ano yung naging mitsa
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for that decision?
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Kasi ibang feeling e,
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it's like maybe later on
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you can't undo the baby.
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we went on dates,
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we were together,
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but iba na talaga.
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But we kindled a romance.
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iba na ang feeling.
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you either have to stay with us
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I wanna be with her
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because she's carrying my baby.
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How did you take that po?
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Kasi nag-effort ka rin naman e.
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After learning all that,
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mag-dedate pa kayo.
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di ko lang ma-imagine.
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So habang nandedate kayo,
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kamusta na pala yung baby mo?
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yung wala kayong mapag-usapan,
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habang nag-antay.
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Can I get a glass of wine, please?
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nagpo-ultrasound na?
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di ko ma-imagine.
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I was trying to accept,
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but iba na talaga ang feeling.
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I can't believe you did that.
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It will always be
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at the back of your mind.
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marami kayong followers.
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show this happy family.
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Did they ever notice ba?
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when things were getting
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Parang napapansin ba nila
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iba yung dating ngayon
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tsaka ni Ms. Grace.
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everything is okay.
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Everything is okay
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Like what I said,
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is it harder for you
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na parang you had to put up
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na kailangan natin tayo?
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baka mawalan tayo
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baka mawawasan tayo.
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Did you ever think about that?
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because I don't care
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about social media.
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if we have followers
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So ano yung naging
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final conversation niya,
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Paano po yung napunta
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na usapan niyo po?
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If you chose her,
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ano pang ginagawa mo
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He just started packing.
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Kamusta kayo ngayon?
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because we have kids,
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but there's times when
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parang off and on
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friends and not friends.
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before I came here,
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nag-usap naman kami
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for the first time
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we're just friends.
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Just like before,
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yung naglulukuhan kami,
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nagkabali ka na naman yan.
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Nag-usap na naman tayo.
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establish that relationship
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it kind of felt good na
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I'm trying to be like
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maswing it to him
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I can tell from his voice
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na he's kind of having fun too
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linoloko niya rin ako.
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he's making jokes of me.
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Yung effort niyong dalawa
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I mean, especially CJ.
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You know, he always says,
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were back together.
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mag-aayos niyo pa?
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yun ang gusto ni CJ.
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Gusto ko lang i-share ah.
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Ako, dun naghiwalay din
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Best of my knowledge,
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memory ko talaga,
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Hindi ko alam bakit.
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kailangan nila maghiwalay
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for whatever reason
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Maghihiwalay sila
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as parents sa akin.
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And never ako umabot
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Kasi there's always
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something to blame
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or someone to blame
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for your actions.
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At the end of the day,
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Especially naman,
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na you're putting on
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the effort naman talaga
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to be good parents
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kung kayo pa Ms. Grace,
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handa na ba kayong
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I'm not gonna put my life
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on hold for one person.
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may mga nagpaparamdam na ba?
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What you doing later?
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May mga ganon-ganon na ba?
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specifically entertaining?
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or getting to know?
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Ano yung mga hinahanap mo ngayon
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sa isang partner?
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it's a learning experience
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ang napagdaanan mo
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Anong hinahanap mo ngayon
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sa isang magiging partner?
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Someone who's emotionally mature.
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communicate more.
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express themselves
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keep everything bottled in.
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just communicate with me
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if there's something
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that I'm not doing right
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And if he has goals in life.
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And someone who can
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and I don't have to
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take care of them.
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Someone to take care of you.
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So ikaw Miss Grace,
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anong advice may bibigay mo
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I've been married for,
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and we have a little one.
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Kung magbigay po kayo
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I keep saying this
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but open and honest
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Because a lot of men,
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they don't want to
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argue with the women.
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So they always want,
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they want to keep quiet
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because they want to
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avoid the conflict.
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But if there's something
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Maybe ako yung kaaway nyo.
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Parang ako yung kaaway nyo.
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Pakingin sa akin yun Miss Grace.
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Kung may problema ka,
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Kung may conflict,
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Kinakabahan ako sa'yo.
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Yeah, just be open.
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just communicate.
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kung anong nagyayari.
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I don't want to be like
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guessing, you know?
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what's the best advice
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you could give people,
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Be there for them.
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Family is always first
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because others can wait.
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other friends or jobs,
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But family can't.
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I completely agree.
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bagong learning ko yan
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pag nahawakan mo na
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for the first time.
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And sa lahat mga sumusuporta sa'yo,
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any message for your fans
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they've been with you
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through all the ups and downs.
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Eh, nandiyan pa rin sila para sa'yo.
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What do you want to tell them?
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Thank you for your support
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and not forgetting about me
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I'm not with PK anymore.
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And I'm more active
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I now have a Facebook
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engage with the followers
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So, thank you for your support.
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thank you for being here
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on Louise's Lessons.
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thank you for your learnings
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and thank you for opening up.
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It's not easy to talk about
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Diba yung mga gatong bagay?
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Siyempre, ang gusto ko,
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through each experience
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of an individual,
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there's something that we can learn from.
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So, thank you very much.
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I wish you nothing but the best.
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Thank you so much.
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Doon sa nagpapakiling sa'yo.
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I wish you the best,
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you know, as a mother,
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And thank you for being here
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on Louise's Lessons.
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Thank you for having me.
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Kinakabahan talaga ako
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yung mga tine talaga.
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Maraming maraming salamat
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sa paraan ng Louise's Lessons.
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Maraming salamat sa lahat
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ng 2 million subscribers.
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Thank you, Ms. Grace.
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Thank you very much
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for guesting sa Louise's Lessons.
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At maraming maraming salamat.
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para kay Sir Pambansang Kolokoy,
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syempre to hear both sides.
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willing na willing po kami
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Sana po okay sa inyo
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kahit through Zoom.
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At basta mag-usap din tayo
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we hear all sides,
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Thank you very much once again,
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sila po kayo anytime.
