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Sabi nila kapag nagkaanak ka, ibibigay mo ang lahat sa kanya.

Wala kang hindi gagawin. Para sa kanya, bigay tolo ka.

Kaya nung dumating siya sa buhay naming mag-asawa, hindi kami nag-hold back.

Kaya nung dumating siya sa buhay naming mag-asawa, hindi kami nag-hold back.

Lahat ng di namin naranasan, ipinadanas namin sa kanya.

Lahat ng layaw na aabot nang kaya namin, nilaan namin makita lang siyang masaya.

Pero habang tumatagal, hindi ko itatanggi, kinakabahan kami.

Parang feeling namin, hindi tama.

Wala kami.

Wala siyang kaplano-plano. Yolo lagi, niwalang direksyon ang buhay niya.

Yes, nagtatrabaho kami para may maipamana sa kanya.

Pero may dapat ba kaming ipangamba?

Kung sa tanong na anong plano mo sa future mo, ang sagot niya, bahala na.

Ako si Sonia, aaminin ko,

na-spoil ko yung anak ko.

Paano ko ba ipaparealize sa kanya ang kahalagahan ng Donald Trump goals?

My love, this is not with this generation alone.

Kung baga, itong pangamba ni Sonia ay hindi exclusive.

Once in our lives, we were that teenager.

Na tipong parang, hindi mo alam kung saan yung direksyon.

Our dreams are little.

Kung baga, wala tayong grasp of responsibility.

Kasi we don't think we have any responsibility.

Ang alam lang nating na responsibility,

ito'y pangamba.

Ito'y responsibility.

Kasi we don't think we have any responsibility.

Ang alam lang nating na responsibility before is

paghugas ng plato kung utusan tayo,

pagtulong sa labahin kapag hindi kaya ni mama

o wala kayo washing machine,

pagbilis sa tindahan, nagdadabog pa nga tayo whenever

sasabihin ng nanay natin while in the middle tayo

na watching the cartoon, bilan mo ko nito, bilan mo ko nyan.

Those are the responsibilities na alam natin

back when we were kids.

And wala tayong grasp of reality.

Wala tayong grasp of responsibility.

But I'm not gonna lie.

Yung generation ngayon is quite alarming.

Alarming than we were before when I was a child.

Henerasyon ko ngayon ah,

batang 90s na ito, batang 90s, early 2000.

Meron tayong konting sense of responsibility back then eh.

Pero yung mga bata ngayon,

it's different.

I don't know kung dahil ba ito sa technological advancement

o masyado nang silang exposed sa mga gadgets,

pero they seem to know quite little

when it comes to responsibility.

Lalong-lalo na sa mga anak of today.

Parang hindi nabasihan ang amount ng sahod

kapag tinatag mo ang isang tao na spoiled.

Parang kahit hindi ka naman mapera,

kahit di ka naman mayaman,

may mga bata talagang nasuspoil.

Pero aminin natin,

that fault is ours.

Diba?

Kumbaga dahil naranasan na natin yung hirap,

naranasan natin growing up,

without the things na gusto natin ng mga bata tayo,

we grew up na walang ganun eh.

Kasi before kapag di natin afford,

di natin afford.

Pero ngayon kasi pinipilit natin i-afford

because we want our kids to have the best things

that we never had when we were kids.

That's not bad.

Pero kung nandun ka na sa extreme level

of spoiling your kid,

it's not a bad thing.

It's not a bad thing.

But when it comes to the extreme level

of spoiling your kid

to the point na katulad niyan,

wala na siyang sense of responsibility,

wala siyang appreciation,

ni hindi niya alam kung ano yung value

nang meron siya

at ano yung ginawa para ma-acquire

yung mga gamit na meron siya,

dun na tayo

nagiging

enabler, my love.

So if you are asking me now,

if you have any reason

to be worried, Sonia,

that your kid is growing up

without a plan in the future,

kasi alam niya sa sarili niya,

mommy and daddy will take care of everything.

Ako na magsasabi sa'yo, yes,

there's a lot of things

that you should be alarmed about.

Not just because wala siyang future,

wala siyang plano sa future,

or not just because wala siyang bigger goal,

but the fact that

wala siyang care at all,

yung sagot na bahala na,

that is worse than ewan ko.

Kasi yung ewan ko,

yung pagiging unsure,

yung pagiging uncertain

kung ano yung gusto mo in the future.

Kahit papano,

meron pang hope eh,

na baka right now,

in between lang siya of ideas,

kung ano yung gusto niyang marating in life.

Pero yung sagot na bahala na,

that is an indicator

that a person doesn't even care

or doesn't,

is not being even bothered

by the idea of future.

Ganun na siya ka-complacent.

Ganun na siya ka-comfortable.

So my love,

I think it's about time

that you induce

a sense of responsibility

to your child.

I'm not saying na bawalan niyo na siyang magkaroon

ng mga bagay na gusto niyo siyang magkaroon.

But if that is a teenager,

make that kid earn it.

Ibalik mo siya dun sa

old ways of reward system.

If you did something good,

then you can have it.

If you haven't done anything

that was tasked to you

na ipinapagawa sa'yo,

then you can't have it.

Back then kami,

before kami makapanood ng TV,

sa cartoons na alam naman ng mother namin

na araw-araw naming pinapanood

magkakapatid every 3 p.m.

3 to 5 actually.

Before that,

kailangan wala kaming assignment.

Kailangan na nakahugas na yung plato.

Kailangan nakaligo na kami.

Maraming kondisyones.

So I think it's by time

that you reapply

the old school ways

of inducing discipline

sa anak mo.

Go for their reward system.

If that one is older,

then sabihin mo sa kanya,

you want a new car?

You want a new phone?

Then work for it.

Here, bibigyan kita ng task.

Suswelduhan kita sa task mong yan.

Then yung suweldo mo,

ipunin natin.

Up until mabili mo

yung bagay na gusto mo.

Why?

Because my love,

you will not be forever by his side.

Hindi ka forever magiging

nasa tabi ng anak mo.

At kung wala siyang sense of responsibility,

wala man lang siyang intro

to being skillful,

resourceful,

that kid will never survive.

Even when,

even if you have already built

a fortress para sa batang yan,

that kid will be ran over

by the people who actually

know what they are doing.

Magiging prone lang siya

sa mga tao that will take advantage

of that child.

So if you think you're doing

a favor jan sa bata

just because you are supplying

everything na kailangan niya

without him doing any effort

to achieve it,

you are wrong.

You are giving that child

a disadvantage in life

by knowing nothing.

So Sonia,

if you are listening to me right now,

you have to put your foot down.

Kung alam niyong mag-asawa

kung gaano kahirap

yung pinagdaanan ninyo

to achieve everything

that you have right now in life,

then that child must know.

Kasi if not,

I am telling you,

sa isang tao na walang idea

kung anong ginagawa niya,

walang kahit anong

recollection

or idea man lang

ng buhay niya,

that will be scary

for that child.

That will be

extremely

disadvantageous

on his end.

Again,

you are not doing him a favor.

You are risking his future.

Klaro?

Klaro.