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Imbis na paganda, lalo pang napasama. Do you agree? Type agree in the comment section.
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Kaya nga sa episode natin na ito, kung ikaw ay nawalan ng pera, nawalan ka ng trabaho,
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naloko ka, nascamp ka, or if not may nagtaksil sa iyo.
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I would like to share with you the five stages of grief.
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And how you can go from one stage to the other.
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Ano yung pwedeng tip ko po sa inyo.
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By the way, I made already a first episode, second episode na po ito.
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Yung first episode po, il-identify natin what stage na kayo, or nasaan ka na.
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If you missed that stage, punta na lang kayo sa description or sa comment section po.
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Para makita po natin at mapanood nyo yung first stage.
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Itong second video na ito, pag-uusapan po natin yung process.
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How you can move from one stage to the other.
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Okay, so let's start.
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Review muna ng five.
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First stage, denial stage, anger stage, and then third stage is bargaining stage.
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Fourth stage is depression stage, and fifth stage is acceptance.
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So ngayon, pag-uusapan na natin denial.
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As we all know, pag ikaw po ay nasaktan, or let's say may nangyari masama,
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ang unang stage po natin, shock ka, nashock ka.
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Hindi to tunay na nangyayari.
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So pag na sa denial stage ka, ito yung tip ko po sa inyo.
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Surround yourself with supportive people, with loved ones who really care about you,
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and then who are willing to tell you the truth.
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Kasi yun yung napinakamahirap eh.
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Yung lalo na kung, let's say, nawala ka na ng trabaho.
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Tapos, BFF mo yung si HR.
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Ang hirap sabihin ni HR sa'yo, kahit na sabihin mo professional,
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ang hirap sabihin sa'yo, uy, nawala ka na ng trabaho.
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Ang hirap talaga i-break talagang yung news, di ba?
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Parang naalala ko tuloy yung ano eh.
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May, ano nung uso po yung telegram.
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Yung telegram, di ba, nagpapadala namin sa'yo,
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tapos nang uso po yung singing telegram.
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May tao na talaga magpupunta, tapos hindi lang ibibigay sa'yo,
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babasahin o kakantahin pa yung telegram.
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So, may ka-officemate, tapos may nagpadala kasi birthday niya.
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Tapos nung dumating yung telegram, eh talagang kinantahan siya.
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Singing telegram kasi, happy birthday to you.
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Tapos magkatabi silang cubicle, may telegram din yung katabi.
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Tapos sinabi, eh ano, basahin niyo na lang po.
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Bakit ba basahin? Eh kasi ma'am, regular telegram lang yung sa'yo.
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Hindi singing telegram.
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Hindi, gusto ko kantahin mo.
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Magbabayad ako. Oo.
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Tapos binuksan nung ano, kartero.
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Ma'am, hindi talaga pwedeng ikanta to.
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Hindi talaga pwedeng ikanta to.
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Sige, since mapilit kayo.
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Tina, Tina, like patayin ng nanay mo.
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Sunog ng bahay niyo.
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Garami naman talaga.
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Siyempre naman, pag nashock ka, may state of shock,
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So, ang importante nga, surround yourself with loved ones.
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Who can tell you the truth, that's number one.
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And then, pag pinagdadaanan mo na, nalaman na sa'yo.
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Nalaman mo na wala ka ng trabaho.
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Nalaman mo na talaga wala na yung pera mo.
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Kailangan alagaan mo yung emotions mo.
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Mag-isip ka na on how you can be able to express your thoughts and your concerns
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constructively, on a positive way.
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Okay, that's number one.
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Eh siyempre, pag galit ka na.
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Siyempre, pagkatapos yan, magagalit ka na.
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Ba't ako niloko? Ba't ako tinanggal sa trabaho?
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Ba't naloko yung negosyo ko? May masama ba akong tao?
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Pag galit ka na, siyempre naman, may emotions yan eh.
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You need to find ways on how to be able to express your emotions.
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Without hurting other people.
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Kasi pag nasaktan ka, may tendency na manakit ka ng kapwa eh.
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Because hurting people hurt other people.
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Kaya nga yung mga magnagnanega dyan, yung mga nagbabash dyan sa online.
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Ako, naunawaan ko sila eh.
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Kasi yun nga, punong-punong sila ng hinakit sa kanilang puso.
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Out of the abundance of their heart, their mouth, and the keyboard speaks.
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Kaya nga, if you're going through anger stage,
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galit ka, naingit ka sa ibang tao, sa success na ibang tao,
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consider talking to a counselor
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who will be able to help you to manage your anger.
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Okay lang magalit, pero kailangang matutong i-manage.
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That's number two.
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Kunyari, narealize mo, wala na.
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Talagang nangyayari na.
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So, ang importante, eh kailangan,
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you need to learn how to practice what we call as self-compassion.
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Yung parang, ano ba?
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Hindi naman maawa ka sa sarili mo.
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Ikaw nga, magbigay ka naman ng importansya na alagaan mo yung sarili mo.
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Kailangan, i-remind mo yung sarili mo
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na hindi lahat ng bagay sa buhay mo, control mo.
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Kasi yan po yung pinakam-stressful na pwede mangyari sa inyo.
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If you try to control the things that you cannot control in life,
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you will become more stressed.
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Kaya nga, that's the reason why,
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pag ikaw ay nakipag-bargain na,
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tanungin mo na sa sarili mo,
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ano ba dito ang control ko?
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Ano yung dito ang hindi ko kaya kong controlin?
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Controlin mo nga mga bagay
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at gawa mo ng paraan yung mga ko-control mo
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at yung mga hindi mo kaya,
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i-suko mo yan sa Diyos.
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Okay, that's the third step.
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And then the fourth step is
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Siyempre, bago pa gumanda ang sitwasyon mo,
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Kaya nga, pag ikaw ay dumadaan na sa matinding kalungkutan,
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siyempre, gusto mo na mag-sarili,
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this is not the time for you to only retreat.
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But this is the time for you to reach out.
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Reach out to a support system,
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reach out to a group of friends
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na talagang who can really help you
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to minister to your hurting feelings.
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Kaya nga, alam mo,
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ang suggestion ko sa iyo,
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makipag-usap ka rin sa mga pastor nyo,
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yung mga taong talagang pinagkakatiwalaan nyo.
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mag-journaling ka.
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do things that can really help you
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to go through the times of mourning and depression.
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don't keep it to yourself.
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And the last stage,
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para makamove on tayo
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from depression to the next stage,
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which is acceptance,
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the most important stage po.
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Importante ito ah,
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embrace the healing process.
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May rebuilding yan eh.
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May time of rebuilding yan eh.
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Taon ang binilang mo,
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tapos bigla nalang mawawala.
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during this rebuilding stage,
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ano mang pwede kong bagong gawin?
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Ano yung pwede kong iset na bagong goals?
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Ano yung magandang para sa aking future?
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You cannot change anymore the past,
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but you can sure change your future
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by making the right decision today.
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ang suggestion ko po sa inyo
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is go through these five stages.
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The earlier you go from denial
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from depression to acceptance,
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the better it will be for you.
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yung grief po kasi,
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it's a unique and personal journey.
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Iba-ibang stages ng ibang tao.
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Iba-ibang length.
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Iba-ibang timing.
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Mga iba umiikot at bumabalik.
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That's the reason why
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you should give yourself time,
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patience for the healing process.
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Kung ikaw ay nahihirapan talaga
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sa sitwasyon mo ngayon,
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As in from pray to God,
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and ask for help from other people.
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That's the only way.
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para sa mga tao na sanasabi,
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I want to reach out
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pero wala akong mapuntahan,
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please do reach out to me.
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join our Iponaryong Movement.
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Sa Iponaryong Movement namin
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sa Facebook account.
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we encourage one another,
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we support one another.
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Di ba sa Facebook po namin.
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Doon makikita mo yung mga
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like-minded people
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na mga taong talaga
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at nag-iipon talaga.
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Kaya mga friendships,
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the healing is possible.
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At maraming maraming salamat po
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and don't forget to follow
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and share this channel.
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Tatandaan ang tamang karunungan,
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ang tamang disiplina,
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ang susi sa pagyangan.
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Thank you for watching.
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If you want to suggest a topic
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that you would like me to discuss
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on the next video,
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please do comment below
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para mabasa po namin.
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Thank you very much
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and I'll see you on our next video.
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Thank you for watching!
