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Alam mo, hindi ko alam na nag-ano ka na.
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Retire ka na sa showbiz?
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As in, semi-retire or retired talaga?
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Like, I will do a movie if it's really...
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Like itong sa MMA?
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I'll be really, really picky now with what I do.
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Like TV, definitely, iyo ako na.
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I can't be away from my family.
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Wow! Family man ka na talaga!
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I cannot be away from my family.
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I can't, I can't.
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But I've said that since nung panahon natin
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na pag nagpakasal ako, goodbye na showbiz.
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Sinabi mo ba yun?
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Yeah, ever since because alam ko sarili ko.
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Kailan yung realization na yun na pag nag-settle down talagang...
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I knew that since before kasi kilala ko sarili ko.
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Pero ang perception ko sa'yo noon, syempre 2009,
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eligible bachelor, guwapo ka, maraming nagkakagusto sa'yo.
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Inisip ko, you're the type of guy na parang Leonardo DiCaprio ng Hollywood
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na you will just be in relationships
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pero you're not the type to settle down.
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Yun ang misconception sa'yo dati, no?
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Parang laging mag-relationship.
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Mag-relationship ka lang but you're not the type to settle down.
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Even though I have the perfect marriage to follow.
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My parents have been married 50 years.
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Everyone thought na ganun ako.
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I mean, relationships are great.
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The purpose of the relationship is for maybe magkatuloyan ko.
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You discover things about each other.
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But in all my relationships, doesn't make them wrong, ha?
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Doesn't make them bad.
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It's just, I could never pull the trigger because there was doubt.
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Like, is she the one?
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May be able to get along in all aspects of life.
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Kaya ko ba mag-compromise?
02:37.0
Is the compromise going to come willingly?
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Kasi pag binabalikan ko yung mga relationships mo,
02:41.8
matatagal yung relationships mo.
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Yes, that's what people say.
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They last for years.
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Yes, that's why I don't understand yung whole playboy.
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Yung mga roles mo kasi laging ganun.
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So, with Ellen, when I met her.
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Whirlwind din yun, di ba?
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Yeah, it's just...
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Best foot forward.
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Gano'ng katagal yun? Like, months?
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In two months, three months, you know.
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When you know, you know.
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Kasi, hindi pa nga kami, hiniwalay na ako.
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She just said, ayoko na sa'yo, hiwalay na tayo.
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Sabi ko, why would you break up with me?
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Hindi pa naman tayo.
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And walang best foot forward where I have to show na
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the good side of me only.
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Which is normal in any relationship.
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Most of the times, ganun, you put your best foot forward.
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With her, we showed everything about each other.
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We were both very honest na, I'm okay na not to get married.
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She's also the same.
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She has Elias, I have my son.
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And we're like, yeah, we're happy with our lives.
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Kailan mo nalaman na this is the one?
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I guess we had the talk about marriage.
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And how, yun nga, like I said na, it's not really important for us.
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And the next day, I'm like, oh my God.
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Usually, you talk about marriage and my brain would be like, freaking out.
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But with her, it's like, oh, I'm comfortable with this.
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Even though sinabi ko, is okay na ako, contento na ako, hindi magpakasal.
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And then I told her, I'm gonna marry you.
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Ah, sinabi mo yun sa kanya?
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And I proposed to her.
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So when I asked permission, I asked permission first from my son.
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Gave me the green light.
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He's like, yeah, I'm happy for you.
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Nung kinausap ko naman parents ko, my mom said, we love her, we like her, but why so fast?
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Ang sagot ko sa kanya was, in my 40-something years, when did I come to you talking about marriage?
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And she's like, good point.
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And yeah, the rest is history.
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And it's the best decision I've made in my life.
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Like, I'm really enjoying marriage.
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Kaya ang advice ko nga sa mga bata is get married when you're in your 40s.
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Sa babae, I would say early 30s para magka-baby pa if you wanna have a baby.
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Tapusin mo lahat ng gusto mong gawin.
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Make sure may direction na buhay mo so that ma-enjoy mo ang marriage.
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Because it's hard when you jump into a marriage na you're still looking for food to feed yourself.
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And then now you're responsible for another individual.
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And then you go through those hard times, which I'm not saying is impossible.
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But it can make or break you.
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And in most cases in today's society,
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it breaks couples.
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There's so much temptation.
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So for me, you need to be really stable.
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Kumbaga, setting a strong foundation.
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If you're 40 and you have no direction, then you have no right to get married.
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Because mag-aalaga ka pa ng isa pang tao.
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So for me, the best advice talaga, 40s, you have direction,
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sana naman, stable ka na sa income mo, may naipon ka na.
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I'm enjoying so much time with Elias.
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You know, I can teach him all the sports that I like.
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Kaya pa, I've kept my body in shape.
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So, 40 is not so old.
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And I'm going to be 47 this year.
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Diba, it's just a number.
06:13.3
Paano ka napasok sa showbiz?
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It was just a blessing.
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Actually, matagal na akong niligawan ng showbiz and I always said no.
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Because my mom's rule was, you can do whatever you want, basta nakatapos ka.
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So, priority yun.
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And ako, as you know, diba, paiba-iba yung kulay ko.
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So, pag dumarating ako sa set,
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I'm always an athlete first.
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What made you say yes sa showbiz?
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I didn't want to live a what-if life.
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So, nung nakapag-graduate na ako,
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I was playing semi-professional basketball at the time.
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And I was like, okay, I need to put food on the table.
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What am I going to do?
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I don't want to take any more money from my parents
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because they already gave me a great education.
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So, I want to show them na hindi sayang yung binaya dila.
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So, I want to be my own man.
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And then, lumapit sa akin, I think,
07:03.4
Nag-start ka rin sa Itbulaga?
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Anong year ka nag-start sa Itbulaga?
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Pool watch pa yun. Pool watch.
07:08.1
Four ako umalis ng Itbulaga.
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Anong year ka pumasok ng Itbulaga?
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Tapos, nabasa ko, nag-guest ka sa Entertainment Connect.
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Nag-host ako ng Entertainment Connect.
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Kami nila, direct Joey Reyes.
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I joined as a model.
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Honestly, talagang, anong mundo to?
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I didn't know anything about showbiz industry.
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At super camera shy ako.
07:38.4
Ayokong humarap sa harap ng camera.
07:41.0
And I remember si Marvin Agustin.
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May pinasabi siyang,
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nakakapagpapagabag ang watawat na numawag,
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So, natuwa sila sa akin.
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They invited me back.
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So, constant yung invitation nila.
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I was there every week.
08:01.4
Wala akong alam sa showbiz mo.
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Nagtatagalog ka na nun?
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Marunong ng konti.
08:04.4
Yung kalookan ko pa nun, kalookan.
08:06.4
I didn't know what to say kasi hindi ko alam yung mga intriga.
08:09.4
So, parang, I was really lost.
08:12.4
Until one day, yung issue was kay Vina Morales.
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Eh si Vina, kaibigan ko.
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Kasi si Joji, manager ko, is, was also handling Vina.
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So, nagsalita ako.
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Pinagtanggol ko si Vina.
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So, natuwa sila sa akin.
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Oh, you should be.
08:28.9
You should be like that.
08:29.9
More like that, daw.
08:31.9
In your 20s ka pa nito?
08:33.9
And then, kumatok ang panday.
08:36.9
Panday ni Jericho Rosales?
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And they said, gusto namin na ikaw yung maging main contribida and love triangle.
08:46.9
With heart and Jericho.
08:47.9
So, I was like, what?
08:51.9
Parang, anong gagawin ko?
08:53.9
Then, they said, ang taping is in Bohol for two months.
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Eh, ako si Mr. Travel.
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Sige, subukan ko na nga.
09:02.9
And the rest is history.
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Tuloy-tuloy na yun.
09:04.9
Pinartner na ako kagad with Judy Ann Santos after that.
09:11.9
And then, after Isabela, habang may buhay.
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So, ang bilis nang pangyayari right after you said yes?
09:19.9
Everything was just so fast.
09:20.9
Sunod-sunod na yung projects mo.
09:22.9
Tapos, nagka-work tayo 2008.
09:23.9
Maging senior pa man.
09:27.9
Pagkadaanan lang.
09:28.9
And then, nagkaroon tayo ng with Direk Wen.
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Ang lalaking nagmahal sa akin.
09:34.9
Nung time na yun.
09:35.9
Tuloy-tuloy na yun.
09:36.9
Teleserye ni Bea, yung magka-ribal.
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But showbiz taught me a lot actually.
09:46.9
I was able to discover new things about myself.
09:51.9
You need a lot of patience in this industry.
09:54.9
Managing the income that's coming in.
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Kasi ang daming pumapasok.
09:57.9
Huwag lang puro labas.
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So, I was able to, you know, invest properly.
09:59.9
It taught me discipline.
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Being able to balance my time.
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Because ako, I have so much on my plate.
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Because I still have to do my sports.
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I have my family.
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So, being able to balance your life.
10:05.9
Because once you start a teleserye, that's your priority.
10:06.9
That's your responsibility.
10:07.9
Hindi ka pwedeng unprofessional na hindi ka sisipot sa taping or late ka sa taping.
10:09.9
So, you need to find that right place.
10:10.9
So, I was able to invest properly.
10:11.9
It taught me discipline.
10:12.9
Being able to balance my time.
10:13.9
Because ako, I have so much on my plate.
10:14.9
Because I still have to do my sports.
10:15.9
It taught me discipline.
10:16.9
Because once you start a teleserye, that's your priority.
10:17.9
That's your responsibility.
10:18.9
Hindi ka pwedeng unprofessional na hindi ka sisipot sa taping or late ka sa taping.
10:20.9
So, you need to find that right balance of being able to do your responsibility and the
10:21.9
other things that you want to do.
10:22.9
And that's where a lot of sacrifice comes in.
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Kaya nga sabi ko sa'yo, kanina is pagpasko, yun na lang yung bawi ka sa family.
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So, that's how I was able to balance my life.
10:51.9
Kung may master sa golf, na-master mo na din ang love department.
10:53.9
Madami kang natutunan sa love.
10:55.9
You should never compare relationships but it's nice to go back so that you can better
11:00.2
yourself for a future relationship.
11:03.3
And one thing you have to realize, once a relationship dies, the respect and the love
11:08.0
for that person shouldn't die with it.
11:10.1
You should always continue to do that.
11:13.4
It's sad most cases.
11:15.7
The minute you're so in love, the next minute, hiwalay, siraan na.
11:19.4
Or you become strangers.
11:21.9
Like, as if you never shared anything.
11:25.5
Diba yung pag nagkita na, parang hindi na magkakilala.
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For me, that's really sad.
11:31.2
For me, I never gave up on love.
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You know, I think we're all built to love.
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But it's just really important that you find that person that brings out, number one, the
11:45.6
And number two, the change needs to come, you know, not forcefully.
11:53.3
You just want to change for that person.
11:55.0
You want to adjust for that person.
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And that's what happens with Ellen and I.
11:58.4
We're so similar and we're so different.
12:00.7
But we never spoke about how we have to adjust for another.
12:04.8
What's the best thing about marriage for you?
12:08.4
Honestly, guys, this is, so many people say, marriage, oh my God, matakot ka dyan, are
12:14.1
you sure you want to do that?
12:15.2
I'm really enjoying it.
12:16.9
She's like your tag team now.
12:18.4
There's two of you.
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In everything that I do, she's super supportive.
12:25.6
Even if like, things that I get nervous about, even sa showbiz, she's there, you know?
12:31.5
I find motivation in her, in the new things that I do.
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She's the one that convinced me na, go for it.
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You really like building, go for it.
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So parang meron ka ng best friend, meron ka ng asawa.
12:46.9
The best thing about being a father?
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It can be very painful also.
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It breaks you and it heals you at the same time.
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Yeah, man, it's broken me so many times.
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Especially with my son, Austin.
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But it heals you also.
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It takes so much to break you, but to heal you is just a, like a little thing that people
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don't even look at.
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Whether it's just a, hi papa, or something that small.
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It's the first time Austin's broken.
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It's the first time Austin called you a dad.
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Ano yung feeling?
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Because that's what I've been longing for.
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I never forced it on him.
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He didn't grow up with me.
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So when Austin came into my life, he was 10.
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And then I was able to actually really bond with him, 13, he lived na with me.
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Pero nung tinawag ka na dad?
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Ang isang tao na nagpaalam akong magpapakasal was him.
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I wanted him to be okay with it.
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And sa tuwa ko naman, he was really okay with it.
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And ang sabi nga niya sa akin is, I promised myself to call you dad when I see that you
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found the right person.
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I understand now why you've been so tough on me because you want me to be the best version
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So parang everything just aligned.
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I won't go into detail what, you know, what we went through together that broke me.
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But when he just said, dad, it was over at the end.
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So I was just iyak, iyak bata.
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And like I said, may mga sniper kami dito.
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Ellen's friends were here and they were there by the pool and they videoed it.
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And she passed that to me and it's like one of the most treasured moments that I have
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and it was captured by her.
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But with that said, again, he could break you again.
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Here's a part of you.
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Ibang, ibang love din naman yun.
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Baby pa lang siya.
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Like he's three when I met him and I just had an instant bond.
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With Ilyas, he's just an amazing kid.
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I get so many texts, how do you do it na you love this boy so much?
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Yung mga single parents, single mothers out there.
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And I'm like, it's not hard.
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For me, it's just...
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And that's why siguro, big part also why I fell in love with Ellen because I saw she's
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such a good mother.
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So parang there's no more doubt na how, like, will she be a good mom to our kids?
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Like I see it already, like how she is with Ilyas and I told her that I'm always going
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to be number two.
15:39.5
Ilyas is the priority.
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Ilyas is the priority.
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And I'm okay with that.
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That's how I want things to be.
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I just don't want to have a broken marriage.
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I don't want that.
15:47.5
I want family is the most important thing.
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So I took my time and I'm glad I did.
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And I'm really enjoying the married life.
15:51.5
I always say, I always put a smile on my face.
15:52.5
Everyone asks me also, how's married life?
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For me, it's, it's, it's, it's great.
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It's great if you're with the right person, with the right partner.
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Cause it also can be like your kids, he can make and break you.
16:15.8
You're partner can either bring out the worst in you or the best in you.
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So this is the kind of relationship and marriage where you bring out the best in each other.
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That's when you know you're with the right person.
16:29.4
So what was made you lie low in showbiz?
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It's just, who da sa maa рав becomes lahat.
16:36.7
So that's a part of it.
16:37.9
Who Derek Ramsey is.
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I can't sit on the set
16:42.6
and focus on bringing life to a character
16:48.2
nakakain na ba si Elias?
16:50.0
Okay ba si Ellen?
16:51.8
You know, what are they doing?
16:53.8
Sacrifice trips, birthdays.
16:57.2
It's like, hindi ko malunok yan eh.
16:59.5
And if you do a teleserye,
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no life ka talaga.
17:04.9
when I've really set a strong foundation
17:06.8
to this marriage,
17:08.6
that I want this, you know,
17:11.2
this foundation so that
17:12.1
this marriage cannot be rocked.
17:15.0
So, these are the important years.
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Just to, you know,
17:20.4
enjoy my time with Ellen.
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Don't want to miss time on Elias growing up.
17:25.2
He's grown twice the size
17:27.3
since the day I met him.
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So, when I see that,
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it's like I know I made the right decision.
17:34.3
What's one thing that you always teach your children?
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Ah, funny you say that.
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Kasi, yes, the other day,
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what I said kanina,
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if someone talks to you,
17:44.2
especially if they're older than you,
17:46.5
you should acknowledge them.
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Kasi siya may stage siya na may hiyaan.
17:52.8
respect towards women and his mother,
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that's very, very important to me.
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I will never have a son or a daughter
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who won't respect their mom.
18:05.5
So, hirap ba mag-discipline?
18:09.3
People, when you say you have to discipline a child,
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it's not like screaming at them.
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You just do the communication.
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So, like the other day,
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when I asked the maids to go out of the room,
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I asked Ellen to go out of the room,
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and I sat down with Elias.
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bakit ganyan kayong mga daddy,
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pinaalis nyo kami?
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Ganyan din si Paul.
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Pag kakausapin niya si Sevi,
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kahit na sama ako,
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no, no, no, you leave.
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Because we're willing to be the bad guy.
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Which, later on in life,
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they'll understand.
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kayo lang dalawa?
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Walang mami, walang yaya, wala lang.
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why did you act that way?
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Do you have anything to say?
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Oh, what are you sorry about?
18:53.9
Ang hirap, di ba,
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kung dapat firm ka.
18:56.3
Oh, what are you sorry for my attitude?
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Yung gusto mo nang mag-break,
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pero kailangan tough exterior pa rin.
19:03.4
Pag sagot niya na for your attitude,
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like, okay, hug na.
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And that's how my parents brought me up.
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They never laid a finger on me.
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So, now I'm really just,
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I guess, let's put it this way,
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picky sa gagawin ko.
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So, movie, pwede,
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kasi kalat-kalat ang taping.
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I can focus on that,
19:25.4
and I can focus on the family.
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That's why I have this movie,
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Kampon, this MMFF.
19:32.3
I said yes to that before the pandemic,
19:35.3
the taping days are,
19:36.5
they were far apart.
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And the production naman allowed me
19:41.1
to set it that way
19:42.1
so that balance yung buhay ko.
19:44.3
Alam mo, minabasa kasi ako about parenting.
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You know, there will come a time
19:49.3
when they're old enough,
19:50.3
they will figure out who you are.
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And you have to make sure
19:53.8
that they will not be disappointed
19:55.1
with the kind of person
19:56.3
when they grow up.
19:56.5
And that's how I look at my dad.
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Like, when you ask me about my dad,
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I'm so proud that he's my dad.
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many times na we sit down,
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and I see what he's built.
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It makes me feel really proud.
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So, that's how I look at my parents.
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And I hope my kids
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will feel the same way with me.
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When they grow up.
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They will figure out
20:23.8
who Derek Ramsey is
20:25.2
in his showbiz life,
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Super ako na effect
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when my son said,
20:31.5
why you were tough on me.
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Because you want me,
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to be a better version of myself.
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Ah, talaga hagulgul ako.
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Couldn't hold it in.
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and we're trying now
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to have another baby
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na they will look
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Thank you for watching!
