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Siyempre naman gusto kong maging masaya, masaya.
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Talaga ito lang mga friendship oh.
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Napaka talino talaga ni Betoy.
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Ang inggit ka kasi isang emosyon na kadalasan naguugnay sa pangarap,
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pagpapahalaga, pagkukumpara ng sarili sa iba.
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Nakakaramdam to tayo.
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Pag mayroon tayong mga hindi nakakamit sa buhay na nakakamit ng iba.
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Number one kasi, yun nga, the reason why we have inggit.
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Kasi we compare ourselves with others.
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Alam mo, ito yung narealize ko ah.
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If you always compare yourself with others,
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there are only two negative things that will happen.
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It's either you will become proud dahil mas magaling ka,
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or number two, malulungkot ka.
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They're both negative.
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And then, bakit rin din mga ibang tao na inggit?
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Kultura rin natin eh.
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Yung parang sa totoo lang.
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Ever since we were young,
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I don't know if you'll agree with this statement.
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Nakahambing ka sa kapatid mo.
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Ay, mas magaling kapatid mo.
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Mas matalino kapatid mo.
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Mas masipag kapatid mo.
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Ang daming sense of comparison, that's the reason why.
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Yung parang na-ingrain sa mindset natin,
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that in order for us to become better,
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we have to beat someone else.
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It's a cultural thing.
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Kayo ba ay nakukumpara kayo nung bata kayo?
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Type yes kung nakukumpara kayo.
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And the third reason also kung bakit naiinggit tayo,
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because it's the lack of confidence.
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Kulang sa kumpiyansa.
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Diba yung parang,
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yung pag-aakalan natin sa ating sarili na
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sila kaya nila, pero tayo hindi nating kaya.
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Maabot nila ang pangarap nila,
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pero ang pangarap natin ay hindi na kayang maabot.
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And yun nga, no offense men.
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Ako rin, I was guilty of this.
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The reason why nainggit ako,
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because I feel, I feel that I am a loser.
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Diba? Parang feeling ko na wala pa ako naabot sa buhay,
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sila may naabot na.
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Kaya itong feeling na ito,
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kung ang inggit ay dapat natin tanggalin eh.
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Kasi pag pinabayaan po natin
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ang inggit na mabuhay sa ating katawan,
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alam nyo ano yung mga negative effects niya?
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Number one, stress and anxiety.
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Diba? Yung pagkukumpara sa ibang tao po,
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yung feeling mo talaga,
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yung emotional weakness mo,
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at the same time,
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yung mental mo, emotional mo,
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yung be affected.
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And then, aside from that,
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yung self-esteem will be really, really low.
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And not only that,
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it will also affect relationship.
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Diba? Yung parang relationship,
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sa mga kasamahan mo sa trabaho.
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Kasi parating kang galit.
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May alam ba kayong taong napapansin na parating galit?
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one thing that I've, ano,
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I read a quote na sinabi
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because envy is the thief of joy.
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Ang inggit ay nagnanakaw ng ating kasiyahan sa buhay.
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And last but not the least,
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pag nag-inggit po kayo,
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you'll stay stuck in the situation.
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You feel that you are a loser.
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You feel that you are a nobody.
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if you are going through the process of this right now,
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let me encourage you.
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Why don't we turn our envy into inspiration?
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Palitan natin yung inggit natin sa ibang tao.
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I-challenge natin sa sarili natin.
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hindi, hindi ako ma-inggit.
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So, paano natin gagawin ito?
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if you are going through the process of being envious,
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I want you to do this.
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Get a piece of paper and write this down.
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I want to coach you and guide you.
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How I was able to also realize
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that I'm also in this process.
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Number one, acknowledge.
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Acknowledge that you are envious of others.
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At least alam mo may problema.
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alamin mo kung saan nagsisimula ang inggit.
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Nagsisimula ba yung inggit
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pag may nakikita ka sa iba na wala ka?
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Nagsisimula ba yung inggit
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pag may naririnig kang bago
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na meron sila na wala ka?
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Nagsisimula ba yung inggit
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pag nakikita mong may naa-award?
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Hindi ka nagre-recognize?
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So, ngayon, alam mo na
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kung ano yung punot dulo ng inggit.
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Kailangan mo nang aminin
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na kailangan mo ayusin to.
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How can you change this?
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by turning this negative situation
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in the positive situation.
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Pag sasabihin mo,
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o sige, sila meron.
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pagbubutihan ko rin ito
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para pag nating ng panahon,
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magkakaroon din ako.
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Sila na gawa nila.
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O, anong gagawin ko?
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Pagbubutihan ko rin
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ang aking sarili.
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Kailangan maging positibo ako.
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Kailangan matuto ako,
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para makamit ko rin
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kung anong gusto ko.
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Diba, nagigets nyo?
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It's very important
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you use that as an inspiration,
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not as a demotivation.
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And then, number three,
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para mawala ang inggit,
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ito yung gagawin mo.
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Na-acknowledge mo na.
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Ang kailangan mo gawin is
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stop comparing yourself with others
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and compare yourself with yourself.
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Because it's unfair
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to compare orange with apples.
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You got to compare orange with oranges.
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And orange with oranges
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is referring to you.
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Iko-compare mo yung sarili mo
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from last year to this year.
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Last year, tambay ka.
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This year, may trabaho ka.
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Last year, bumaksak ka.
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Ngayong pasangawa ka.
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Pero huwag mo iko-compare
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sa mga mas matatalino
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dahil hindi ka ganun katalino
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The mere frack from 65
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You did a good job.
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o ngayon, kinikita mo ito.
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Ngayon, kumikita ka na mas malaki.
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Last year, nag-empleado ka ngayon.
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Meron ka ng sideline.
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Last year, nalugi ka.
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Ngayon, kumikita ka na.
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You are already progressing.
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And last but not the least,
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in order for you to feel better,
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I want you to feel better
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Alam mo kung gusto mo talaga
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with less fortunate people
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Ikumpara mo ang iyong sarili
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sa mga taong kapuspalad
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Araw-araw ito na kinakain mo.
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compare ang sarili mo
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sa mga taong walang makain?
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ng maliitang suweldo mo.
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Ikumpara mo sa mga taong
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wala kang trabaho.
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Kinukumpara mo na
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ng negosyo mo ngayon.
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Compare mo sa mga taong
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nalulugi yung negosyo.
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Naingit ka sa mga taong
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na nakakapag-travel sila
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ang gaganda ng bahay nila.
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nasa balig na karamdaman
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Bilang na yung araw nila
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sa mundong ibabaw nila.
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So if you start counting
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the blessings that you
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we'll become thankful
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So I just want to
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encourage you right now
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if you're going through
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Naawa ka sa sarili mo.
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Hanapin mo yung supporta mo
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mula sa kaibigan mo,
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professional na tagapagbayo
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kung kinakailangan.
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find God in your life.
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Strengthen your spiritual life.
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And know that God
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has a plan and a purpose for you.
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His plan and purpose
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is not to harm you
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to give you hope in the future.
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His plan is to make you
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the head, not the tail.
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He wants to make you
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the lender, not the borrower.
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He wants to put you at the top,
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never be at the bottom.
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yourself with others.
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And compare yourself
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with less fortunate people
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And you will start
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If this video really helped you,
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nakatulong po sa inyo,
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may narealize po kayo,
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kung tayo naingit,
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Kung tayo naingit,
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ma-inspire po tayo,
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sa comment section.
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I'm so blessed and thankful.
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Don't forget to like,
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subscribe on this channel.
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tamang kanunungan,
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ang susi sa pagyam.
