Vince Rapisura 2748: Chismis o Constructive? Ang Sikreto sa Epektibong Feedback!
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So quickly, dun po sa hindi nakakilala sa akin, ako ay isang communication coach. I'm based here in Italy.
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I'm married. We have an eight-year-old. Mag-9 na pala si Maya this coming March.
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Ang background ko po ay originally in fashion. Tapos I pivoted into education and communication.
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And kilala ko si Vince from RALSE Volunteering Advocacy for the last 13 years na yata. So ayan. Okay.
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So kung iisipin natin, Vince, feedback. Tanggalin muna natin lahat ng emotions, ng preconceived ideas.
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Ano ba yung ibig sabihin ng feedback?
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Totoo lang, ganito lang siya eh. It's this simple, no? Parang it really is just information about reactions to either a product, okay?
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A person's performance, yun yung pag-usapan natin today. And everything else. And used as a basis for improvement.
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I think ito yung pinaka-importanting part sa definition ng feedback, okay? Used as a basis for improvement.
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So kung iisipin natin,
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lahat naman tayo nagbibigay ng feedback, diba?
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Vince, kailan yung last time na nagbigay ka ng feedback? O baka yung sa Facebook?
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Yan yung biligay mo?
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Actually, madalas kami magbigay ng feedback, mga performance evaluation sa mga staff, no?
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Pero kami, actually, ako, sa totoo lang, I went into therapy for this.
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Doon ko na-realize na, ah, ito pala yung personality ko.
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Nagma-matter sa akin yung recognition.
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At ang ano niya ay, so, para to get into me, hindi ako parang, kung uunahin mo na, kritik-kritik-kritik agad.
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Wala akong masakit.
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Sabi, imotivate ka na.
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Wala akong sinawa.
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At I think, ginagawa ko, ngayon sa selfie, ginagawa.
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Magbibigay ka muna ng ano yung mga naggustuhan mo.
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Kasi, syempre, meron ka pa rin naggustuhan, diba?
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Actually, that's true.
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And we'll look at that mamaya, no?
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Parang, the easiest thing na naalala ko dyan, yung tinatawag na hamburger approach.
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Yun yung, meaning, yung positive muna, and then yung area of improvement, and then you end it na positive note.
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Para, at least, alam mo yun, yung huling feeling ng tao is positive.
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So, that's one approach.
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So, sa totoo lang, lahat naman tayo nagbibigay ng feedback.
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Pag kumakain tayo sa restaurant, hindi mo nagustuhan yung pagkain, feedback, diba?
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And usually, sa ayaw natin at sa gusto, mas mahilig tayo magbigay ng negative feedback.
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Yung positive, punti lang yung mga tao, diba?
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Isipin mo, yung service, usually, I know, hindi ako natuwa, ano ba, balikan ko yan, negative, two stars, one star review.
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Negative feedback.
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Actually, alam mo, masingit ko lang ha.
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Yung si Jonas Gaffood, isang friend ko yan, siya yung franchise holder ng Miss Universe Philippines ngayon.
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At naalala ko, isa sa mga sinabi niya sa akin na paano niya i-train ang kanyang mga girls is,
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pag nakita mo ang isang tao, iisip ka kaagad ng isa o dalawang maganda dyan sa taong yan.
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At isisingit mo sa conversation.
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It could be as simple as, I like your shirt.
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Pero dapat genuinely coming from ano ha, na gusto mo talaga.
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So bago ka pa mag-criticize, criticize, ang una mong titignan, ano yung carry?
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Mas carry naman yung perspective na yun, diba?
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Oo, no, I like that.
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Kasi sa totoo lang, hindi masyado maraming tao ang nagko-compliment ha.
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Parang, alam mo yun, iisipin mo, parang talaga ba gusto ko, usually, naiisip mo,
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oy, gusto ko yung style niya, pero hindi mo sasabihin, diba?
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So that's a very good, that's a very good discipline.
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Iisipin mo, yung i-train mo yung sarili mo na i-compliment.
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So, in the professional setting, sino ba usually yung nagbibigay ng feedback?
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Well, ito, managers, team members, depende sa kultura eh ng company.
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Pag may peer-to-peer review, then team members.
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And then, if you're a service provider, then your customer will also give you feedback.
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Bakit siya importante?
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Kasi sa totoo lang, based on the definition of a feedback,
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it's really the basis for improvement, no?
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And data shows that employees really improve their performance after feedback is given to them.
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Pero kailangan, syempre, depende sa kung paano binigay yung feedback.
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Different types of feedback.
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Yung una, yung pag-uusapan natin today, Vince, is constructive,
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or meansan, yung tinatawag na negative feedback.
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Upward is, I don't know kung ilan nyo nagpa-practice nito,
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may mga companies where the bosses, the managers ask for feedback
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galing sa mga direct reports nila.
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Appreciation and recognition, ito yung sinasabi mo, Vince.
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Sa totoo lang, importante ito para sa ating lahat, okay?
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Some more than others.
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Pero minsan, when somebody tells you, you know what, you did a really good job,
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you know, in a specific project, or even yung right away,
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ano yun eh, malaking bagay yun.
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And minsan, iniisip ng mga tao, only the staff need that.
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Sa totoo lang, hindi.
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Even, you know, even the managers, even the owners, even founders.
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Kailangan natin lahat ng ganyan, yung appreciation.
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Coaching is, of course, when you're inside a coaching relationship,
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or pag may coaching na ginagamit yung managers within the organization,
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that's also feedback.
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And of course, real-time feedback.
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Yung ganyan, as an end user, we normally give feedback.
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So either ganyan.
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And usually nga, pag nag-feedback tayo,
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pag hindi tayo masaya dun sa experience.
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So, constructive feedback.
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Incident, parang ironically, kahit pag-iisipin natin,
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usually, yung sa mga managers or people who have to give feedback,
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parang they feel awkward about this whole approach.
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Pero sa totoo lang, and this is a study conducted by Harvard Business Review,
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actually, negative or constructive feedback is a lot, is very much appreciated.
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Yan yung hinahanap ng mga tao.
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Yan ang gusto nilang marinig.
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Kasi yan yung areas of improvement eh.
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Hindi ibig sabihin yan lang yung gusto nilang marinig.
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Kasi like you said, kung puro negative, that's demotivating.
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Parang wala ka ng tamang ginawa, diba?
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And here's another interesting data, Vince.
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The older you are,
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the more feedback you want.
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Yung iba kasi natatakot din na magbigay ng feedback, Alex,
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dahil nga, baka sabihin sip-sip ako, ganyan, diba?
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So, yan yung ano.
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So, may mga ganyang ano rin, issues.
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Pero I thought it was interesting to highlight this.
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Kasi parang, oh nga, siguro it takes a level of maturity to say,
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Sige, tell me what I need to work on.
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Um, siguro pag mas bata, medyo mas kailangan mo yung,
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medyo mas kailangan soft yung approach, diba?
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And you need more positive reinforcement.
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Tapos, tsaka ka palang magiging ready for the constructive feedback.
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So, ayan, especially in cultures, collectivist cultures, no?
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Kagaya nga ng Pilipinas, na napaka-indirect ng form of communication natin.
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Um, kailangan paligoy-ligoy.
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Minsan, feedback can be associated with, you know, some sort, a level of embarrassment.
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Minsan, confusing.
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Kasi nga, nakakapaligoy-ligoy.
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Nalilito ka na parang hindi mo na alam kung ano yung talagang point ng feedback.
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And in that case, it becomes frustrating, diba?
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I think isa din na magandang gawin, kapag ikaw nagbigay ng feedback,
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hindi lang yung one way na,
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sabi mo, tapos na.
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I think, kailangan din na makinig ka, diba?
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Kasi, you also have to listen.
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Hindi po pwedeng ikaw lang yung salita ng salita, eh, in terms of feedback giving.
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Sa tuno lang, Vince, dapat kasi yung feedback,
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hindi yan tinitreat na parang, okay, seramunan kita, diba?
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Dapat bibigyan mo ng pagkakataon na sumagot yung tao.
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Kasi, kung feeling niya, hindi tama yung observation mo,
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or kung gusto niyang magpaliwanag,
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that person should feel safe enough to say so, no?
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Hindi naman yung sabihin, diba?
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Pero, ganun yun, eh.
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Hindi siya one way na, okay, makinig ka, sabihin ko sa'yo kung anong problema, diba?
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So, constructive feedback.
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Ano ba itsura niyan?
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So, una-una, syempre, objective, okay, and tactful.
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Well, yung tact, hindi naman natin problema yan, eh.
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Mga Pilipino, we're normally extremely polite.
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Super polite pa nga.
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Minsan, magsusorry pa bago mo, magkakaroon ng feedback na bago.
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Sorry ha, pero I have to.
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Clear and actionable.
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Ito yung importante rin.
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Again, minsan, kakasugarcoat mo ng gusto mong sabihin.
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Hindi na tuloy clear kung ano yung gusto mong sabihin.
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And then, yes, it comes from a place of helpfulness and empathy.
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You know, if you know na,
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what you're about to say is for the person's personal growth,
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well, then, makikita mo yun, eh, sa tono nung sinasabi mo.
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And then, there, yeah, given from a growth point of view,
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genuine and sincere.
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Of course, yung authenticity is super important.
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So, kung yun ang constructive feedback,
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ano naman yung hindi constructive feedback?
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Or, you know, what's destructive feedback?
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Hindi yan paraan para gumante or to offend someone personally.
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And this is what a lot of people fear, no?
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Parang feedback, oh my gosh, yan na yung time na gagantihan ako nito.
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And that shouldn't be the case.
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It's not about blaming the other person.
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Hindi yan pagkahataon para sabihin, ah, kasi if you did this, maganda sana yung resulta ng project.
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It's not an excuse to microphone.
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It's not an excuse to micromanage either.
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Hindi pag nagbigay ng feedback, sabihin mo,
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I can say, you didn't perform well from now on,
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ito, parang babantayan na kita sa bawat ano mo.
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Hindi rin yan yun.
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Actually, ang goal ng ano, lalo na in the workplace, no,
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ang goal ng feedbacking is para dumali ang buhay ng bawat isa,
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hindi para saluhin mo at maging independent sila sa iyo, diba?
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So, dapat ganun palagi, yung parang babalikan mo yun, bakit, ano nga ba yung purpose ng feedback?
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So, if you keep that in mind, I think, you'll be okay.
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So, sa totoo lang, the real challenge with feedback is hindi naman the feedback itself,
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it's how you give it, how you communicate.
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Actually, alam mo yung isang classic dyan na naalala ko, ito naman yung mga high school, ganyan,
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yung mga may body odor.
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Yung parang, no, you know, funny kasi the other day, naisip ko yan na yung,
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minsan, pag kunyari, may kausap ka, diba, yung kaibigan mo,
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yung kaibigan mo, she has something either between her teeth or yung pag yung,
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sa amin naman, pag yung lipstick na nasa ngipin, na parang,
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paano mo sasabihin without putting that person on the spot?
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Kasi parang, that's feedback.
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Pero at the same time,
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off ka, kasi ayaw mo naman siya mapahiya.
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Meron pa yung isang funny experience.
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Ito, last year lang ito.
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So, nagpunta ko sa office,
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ang busy-busy, diba?
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Naglagay ako ng, ano,
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naglagay ako ng sunblock,
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pero may foundation,
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pero hindi ko pa na-spread,
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nalimutan ko na siyang spread.
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Hindi ko na nakita,
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yung ano ko sa salobin ko,
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Tapos, sabi nila,
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sir, akala namin,
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akala nila, okay,
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ay, sir, bagong passion ba yan?
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Bakit ganyan yung mukha?
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Nakakainis, diba?
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Yes, pero you know what?
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that's the perfect example.
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I don't know how to approach
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those situations, no?
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it was an interview
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I'm a huge fan of hers,
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and the interviewer,
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yata sa mukha niya,
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and ang sabi niya,
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and she was being interviewed
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with someone else.
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and this was already live,
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I know you will do this
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if it happened to me.
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I just need to tell you
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that you have a pen mark
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that's the perfect way
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alam ko gagawin nito,
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gusto ko sabihin sa iyo
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parang matanggal mo siya.
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that's the perfect way
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an awkward situation
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ano ba yung checklist
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para makapag-deliver tayo
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ng effective feedback?
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Hindi pwedeng mga
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na walang direksyon.
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timing is very important
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kasi hindi pa pwedeng sabihin,
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if you notice something,
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it doesn't have to be
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immediately after,
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pero hindi naman din pwedeng,
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yung performance mo,
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ang layo na nun eh.
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And which is why,
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give the person time
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to act on that feedback.
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Pero you can't do that
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kung six months down the line
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It has to be linked to
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what's expected of that person,
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It can't be something na parang,
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wala ka talagang masabi,
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ng ibang feedback,
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kahit nasa tito lang,
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hindi naman yung part
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Focus on the task.
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This is super important.
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And that's exactly
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you're not attacking the person.
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focus on strategies,
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pag sinabi mo dun sa tao,
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ito yung areas of improvement,
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you want to give that person
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to see how he or she
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can approach things better.
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Huwag mong sasabihin,
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ito yung gawin mo.
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people are more empowered
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pag binigyan mo sila
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paano nila susolusyonan yun?
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yung isa sa mga ginagawa namin
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kapag nag-feedback giving,
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so magbibigay ka na ng,
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ano yung mga nagustuhan mo,
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areas for improvement.
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ang pag-uusapan nyo dun ay,
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ano yung maitutulong ko sa iyo
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to make this improve?
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ano yung gusto mong tulong
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very, very good practice, Vince.
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they feel supported.
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Hindi yung parang,
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alam mo na gagawin,
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good luck to you, diba?
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see you in the next review.
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that's a really good,
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that's a really good approach.
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so, we're on the checklist.
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And finally, of course,
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it has to be actionable
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pag may bibigay ng feedback,
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you want to be realistic then
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with what the person can do
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given the time frame.
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Don't give them yung feedback na,
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parang they have to take
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10 steps to reach that.
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Kasi, pag gano'n,
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it's demotivating.
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ito yung comfort zone na,
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when you give feedback
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that's actionable
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you're just asking the person
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to step a little bit
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out of their comfort zone.
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pwede nila yung gawin.
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Pero, if you're expecting them
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to do so much more,
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parang sinabi mo na,
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it's not realistic,
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it's not effective at all.
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lalo na sa ating mga Pilipino,
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we really have to make
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the implicit explicit.
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don't assume anything.
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lahat ng kailangan mong sabihin,
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to make sure everything
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is out in the open.
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gusto ko yung sinabi mo,
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ano yung sa tingin mo
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po pwedeng gawin?
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what can I do to help?
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that's a very good way
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Dito yung mga examples,
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you tell them in advance,
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kung meron tayong
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may tough conversation
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or may feedback ako
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what's the best way
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ano yung preferred way mo
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kasi may iba-iba tayong
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communication skills.
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Some people receive
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kung sasabihin mo
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I want to do this
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because I want to make sure
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that I'm not offending you,
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that you know that I have
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your best interest in mind.
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a quote that I chose
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sums up everything
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not a performance review.
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and receiving feedback.
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if we keep in mind
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what the feedback
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helping that person
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the rest of the organization,
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it's not going to be
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It's not going to be
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about how we deliver it.
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if we keep this in mind,
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let's normalize it.
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Huwag yung parang,
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once a year lang,
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kinakabahan ka na
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malapit na yung date na yun
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because it feels like
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because right now,
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that's what a lot of
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They give feedback
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ibigay ako ng training
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natin sa Hong Kong.
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So, marami sa kanila
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mga domestic workers,
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syempre may kasama ko
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at sinabi ko sa kanil,
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tinanong ko sa kanila,
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ano yung best way
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yung kasama namin
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ibibigay ko na feedback
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or instruction sa kanya
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At alam mo yung sabi
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syempre hindi ko na maalala
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kung sino yung nagsabi
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sa akin sa kanila,
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pero ang sabi niya,
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alam mo Sir Vince,
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ayaw naman niya talagang
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yung siyang magkamali.
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So, kung mayroon siyang
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sabihin mo sa kanya agad
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para hindi siya magkamali.
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since iba-iba talaga tayo
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ng communication style
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and iba-iba talaga
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of communication.
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what's going to work
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kung mali mo yung premise
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na I'm here to help,
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we're here to help
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mayroon talagang mga tao
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they'll still be offended.
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you did your part.
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ng ating usapan ngayon.
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Tungkol sa feedback giving.
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at papakita ko sa mga...
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So, thank you so much, Vince.
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This has been another
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for this opportunity.
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Para po dun sa mga
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or dun sa mga manunood
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please connect with me.
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and I'm also on YouTube.
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So, kung may mga katanungan
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about communications
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or presentations,
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to drop me a line,
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send me a message,
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and pag-uusapan po
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Maraming, maraming salamat,
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At mag-uusapan tayo
24:23.4
Naku, Valentines,
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pag-ibig na naman
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pag-uusapan natin.
24:28.0
Pag-iibig na naman nga.
24:30.5
Baka may kasunod na yung
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Ang engagement ring.
24:35.5
Nagpag-asala kaya sila
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O baka break na sila.
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And see you next month.
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See you next month.