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I'm Jake Manahan, and my sexuality is I'm straight.
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Asexual for me is just someone who lacks
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or has little to no attraction to other people.
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Sexual attraction.
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The act of sex basically is intimate for me.
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It really helps me express myself and who I am.
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Alam ko na na parang medyo hindi ako normal.
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Like, ever since I was a kid,
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di ba pag-guys nanonood ng sensitive videos?
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Tapos pag napapanood ko siya,
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parang hindi ko alam ano yung nafe-feel,
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parang hindi ko alam ano yung nafe-feel,
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nang sexual people towards it.
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I've learned about it nung senior high,
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and I was like, huh? May ganun?
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I really wanna learn more about
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what made them gravitate towards asexuality.
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Alright, I'm Jake.
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I'm 32, and I study in Mapua.
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I'm 20. I'm studying in LaSalle.
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Since alam ko na sexual ka,
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plus taga-Mapua ka pa,
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yung sub-body count mo,
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Para three per year, di ba?
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Feeling ko hetero ka.
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Nakaka-apat ka na na girlfriend.
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Since you're quite young then,
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you're not the type of person na date to marry.
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Think you're just having fun now.
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I guess you, I assume na
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you swing the other way.
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I assume na you haven't been in a relationship?
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I guess I assume na...
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na you haven't watched porn.
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Never have I ever been turned on.
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Ako, I guess, experience is like
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sometimes I also get turned on with like random things.
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Nakaka-turn on ang smell.
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Hindi ka siya na-feel.
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Tinitigasan lang ako pag naiihina talaga ako.
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Never have I ever had car sex.
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Isang beses lang or medyo marami na rin?
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A few times lang.
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Never have I ever been in love.
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Yeah, I've been in love.
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Define your first love.
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It was a rollercoaster.
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May daming ups, pero may daming down downs.
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First, masasabi kong love siya
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because I really like the person.
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Sobrang talino niya.
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She makes me want to be a better version of myself.
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Parang hindi ako nagsusulat talaga
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pero kasama siya sa school publication namin.
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So, sumali rin ako.
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So, ano lang siya.
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High school, high school love.
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Never have I ever hooked up with someone
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Oo, I haven't been.
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Parang if you're going to do it, you have to.
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You have to do it with someone you know na.
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Getting to know the person is...
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Hindi ko malamang if nandito-turn na na ko hindi.
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Ay, so this is yung photo na pinili ko.
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Yung picture na to kasi.
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I went out by myself.
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I went dun sa Presidential Car Museum.
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Dati kasi I was like car kid.
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That's so straight male of you.
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I think straight males like cars.
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So, that's a stereotype.
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Sa akin, this one.
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It's an awarding.
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It's my photo with my mom and my dad.
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Birthday ni Papa nun.
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So, parang wala naman akong money to buy stuff, gifts for him.
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So, parang yung win na yun na yung parang gift sa kanya.
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Hala, super love ko sila.
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Feeling ko, parang si Vice ganda.
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Nagsabi siya na parang kaya raw siya ba din kasi feeling niya wala siyang mamamahal na tao.
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Na babae, kumpara sa mother niya.
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So, parang feeling ko.
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Baka wala akong nakikita ng taong mas mamahalin ko compared sa father and mother ko.
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Baka asexual ako.
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When did you first realize you were asexual?
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Na-realize ko yung na nag-identify na talaga ako sa asexual.
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Like 12 years old ako.
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Kasi doon ko na-encounter yung term na asexual na.
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Parang ever since hindi na ako nag-shift away from that term.
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Kasi, kaya tinatry kong mag-explore.
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Sir, where did you learn the concept of asexuality?
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Kasi, galing ako sa elementary na super auntie ng people.
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Like, 9 lang kaming grade 6.
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Nung pumunta ako ng high school, parang everyone's trying different things.
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Tapos hindi ko mak-imagine yung sarili ko na ginagawa yun.
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So, parang iniisip kong something wrong with me, ganyan.
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Parang nakakall ako na parang,
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baka bading ka lang, ganyan.
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Baka kasi hindi ka into girls.
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Pero hindi rin ako nakakapili ng ganun to guys.
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Sobrang weirded out ko.
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Kasi hindi ko alam kung ano ba ako.
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So, active ko siyang hinanap.
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Tapos doon ko na-found out kung ano yung term na asexual.
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Sabi ko, ah, baka ako to.
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So, parang like browsing through the internet, gano'n?
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Oo, browsing through the internet.
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Ano yung keywords na ginagawa mo sa Google?
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Parang ano lang, person without lust.
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Person who don't feel,
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who don't like sex.
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People who don't like sex.
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Para sa'yo, do you see sex as a necessity?
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Yeah, I feel like it is a necessity.
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It spices up yung relationship.
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Parang mas nagiging, more intimate ang isang relationship kapag, yun nga, in-involve yung sex.
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If hindi ka ba nakipag-sex sa partner mo, parang hindi kayo magiging, hindi mo masasabing close kayo?
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Parang ganun ba siya?
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More of like, ang tawag doon.
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As I said kanina,
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parang it just really adds to the other aspect of our relationship.
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And it kinda makes it whole for me.
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Pero it is possible naman na kahit walang sex.
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Kahit walang sex?
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Pero, edo hindi na siya necessity if kahit walang?
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Like, I mean like, in general.
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Pero for me, yeah.
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Parang siguro, baka nagpo-project lang ako.
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Kasi hindi ko alam kung kaya ko makapagrelasyon sa ibang tao kung may sex na involved.
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So, iniisip kong para sa'yo is, as someone na sexual, makikita mo ba yung sarili mo sa ganung klaseng na walang sex na involved?
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So, parang ganun.
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Pero, kasi yun nga.
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I haven't really experienced a relationship na wala.
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Pero, I'm curious din talaga malaman if I could, you know, go in a relationship na wala.
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Parang, you can't answer it pa ng concretely kasi hindi mo pa na-try na...
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Yeah, yeah, hindi ko pa na-experience.
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This is a question na, yun nga.
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Medyo na, like, na-confuse ako dati kasi sa tanong na to.
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You're asexual, right?
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Are you also, like, aromantic?
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Sa ngayon, confused pa ako.
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Although, may mga taong asexual na may jowa rin naman talaga.
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May mga asexual na aromantic din.
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Ako, confused pa ako if aromantic ba ako or pandromantic.
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Feeling ko dahil pressured ako na wala ka pa bang jowa pag sa reunion.
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So, parang iniisip ko, baka aromantic ako.
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Tapos, pinipilit ko lang na magkaroon ako ng romantic attraction sa iba.
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Kasi, kailangan kong magkaroon ng relasyon.
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Parang peer pressure.
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Iniisip ko, crush ko ba talaga to?
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O, parang iniisip ko lang na, ay, pwede siyang maging karelasyon ko.
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Medyo stereotypical ako mag-isip sa sexual attraction, syempre.
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Parang, sa akin, sexual attraction is, nai-imagine mo yung tao na,
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Para sa akin, ah.
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Pero, romantic attraction is, nai-imagine mo yung tao sa' mo na makakadate mo.
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Hindi necessary na may physical touch.
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Do you get attracted with, like, physical features of a person?
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Or, like, it's more of, like, the personality lang talaga for you?
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I think I'd be lying.
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Parang, mapapaling ka, syempre, if, like, may taong cute, diba?
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Pero, hindi, hindi ko siyang matawag na romantic attraction.
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Hindi ko rin siyang matawag na sexual attraction.
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Parang, mapapaling ka, syempre, if, like, may taong cute, diba?
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Magpapunta yung attention mo sa kanya.
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Pero, hindi siya yung basis para magiging crush ko siya.
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Parang, I might try to become closer to them as a friend.
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It's from that, where I can realize na po, ay, crush ko siya.
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Kasi, pwede ko siya makita aside from a friend.
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I'll be honest, though, like, medyo same.
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In the sense, nagustuhan ko din talaga makakalala yung person muna.
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Bago ko sabihin na, like, oh, like, you know, gusto kita talaga, gano'n.
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First time mo ba ba encounter yung term na asexual?
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Then, I had a friend.
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Then, I had a friend.
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Kasi, na asexual.
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We talked about sex stuff, gano'n.
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Tahimik lang siya.
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And we were asking why.
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Like, na-off ba siya sa mga person na gano'n?
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Tapos, apparently, we learned na asexual siya.
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Sa tingin mo, parang, how do asexuals live parang para sa'yo?
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Anong perception mo?
09:37.4
Ang una din talaga nag-pop sa isip ko na narinig ko yun sa friend ko.
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Parang, so, like, do you masturbate?
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Do you even watch those kinds of videos?
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Yung porn and stuff?
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was normal sa, like, peers ko.
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Pero ikaw, may idea ka ba why someone could identify as asexual?
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Most really, wala talaga.
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Parang, kapag sinasabi ko, why are you asexual?
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Yung iba, iniisip celibate sila.
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Which is different kasi celibacy is a choice.
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Eh, hindi naman namin choice na maging asexual.
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Mas madali yung buhay kung pwede kami, kung gusto namin mag-sex.
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Medyo sensitive siya.
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May iba na iniisip asexual yung tao kasi
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They might have had a bad experience about sex.
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At least, yung mga gano'n kasi, baka maka-offend siya sa mga taong nakaranas din talaga.
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Kasi, ayun, parang sa'kin ang off niya, ang off niya lang.
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I guess follow up na parang, based from that, na-discriminate ka na ba?
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In terms of discrimination kasi, sa'kin ah, mas ano kami, microaggressions.
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Palagi ka nalang sasabi na asexual ako, parang tingin nila, hindi, celibate.
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Parang, sino nila?
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Nims lang sa nila, parang sa'kin nila, bukod sa hindi nila alam, kahit i-explain mo, hindi sila naniniwala.
10:55.9
Baka ako yung problema doon kasi, nagsisex jokes naman ako.
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Pero at least, para sa'kin kasi, sex is a joke.
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So, naggumagawa ka na yan.
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Feeling ko, like, it's different from like the discrimination other queer people face.
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And they might get discriminated because of their identity.
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Sa amin, mas yung discrimination is hindi nila alam na nag-iexist kami.
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Or nire-rejected kong existent.
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asexual, may dilema kami na parang hindi namin alam kung pasok ba kami sa queer community.
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Hindi rin naman kami makapag-identify talaga sa heterosexuals.
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May iba kasi ka parang LGBTQIA.
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Tapos, imbis siyang A is for asexuals, akala na iba A is for allies.
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Medyo mahirap siya inavigate.
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Pero, hindi naman siya super duper big deal sa'kin.
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What myths or misconceptions about asexuality bother you the most talaga?
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People who are asexuals?
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They shouldn't be like boxed into like asexuality lang.
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Kasi yun nga, from romantic attractions, we have different feelings towards it.
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Ang hirap kasi kapag i-babox mo yung tao, parang turing sa kanila is, sa amin, is parang inanimate object dahil lang hindi kami nakikipag-sex.
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May ibang tao na parang gusto kang kausapin as like challenge.
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Ay, kapag napa-sex ko to, ang galing ko talaga asexual na paano.
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Parang, nii, anong, tingin mo ba nakakakilig yung ganon?
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Parang, hindi siya.
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Yung asexuality kasi parang smash siya sa spectrum.
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Like, there are people who might try having sex but they won't have fun about it.
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Ako personally, I don't see myself naman as someone who would die without sex.
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Kunwari, ikasal ako.
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I would like to have children.
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I think I would have sex.
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Yung nakita ko doon parang, parang siyang paglalaba.
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Hindi mo siya gustong gawin pero kailangan mo lang siyang gawin.
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Would you be able to be?
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In a relationship with someone na hindi kayang mag-engage sa physical activities?
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No, I don't think so.
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For me, it really completes the relationship.
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I don't wanna invalidate ngayon mga people na hindi ganun yung iniisip.
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I feel like sex is really a vulnerable state.
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Where two people are just, yun nga, alone.
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They're bare selves, kung baga.
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And I think that really, yun nga, adds to that deeper connection.
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Kasi diba parang sa iba parang may deal-breakers sa relationship.
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So kung deal-breaker mo is yung sex, I mean, valid naman siya.
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Paano kung ikasal kayo tapos hindi mo na mararanasan yung gusto mong gawin, diba?
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But I do wanna note, I'm willing to compromise with you if ever.
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I mean, we'll see with like, in the future.
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Yeah, if it happens.
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If it happens, it happens.
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Hindi nga, being asexual, what do you imagine an ideal relationship for you would be like?
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An ideal relationship?
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An ideal relationship for me would basically have communication at its very core.
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Inaintindihan niya yung isa't isa on a emotional level.
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Yung nagbibigay kayo ng efforts sa isa't isa para maging masaya without necessarily engaging in sex.
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Mas ano kasi ako, date to marry na person.
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So, I really want to have someone na serious about the relationship.
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Alam mo yun, parang gusto ko rin maranasan yung...
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May kapuyatan ka, naka-text.
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Gusto ka lang kumustahin, gusto kang i-comfort.
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Kasi hindi ko kailangan yung physically intimate activities.
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Gusto ko yung maranasan yung kilig.
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Parang it's more of like a companionship talaga for you.
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It's difficult kasi to explain na iba yung karelasyon sa kaibigan.
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Kasi they're both companions naman, diba?
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Parang if you could, if sex is like where you can get really bare with someone, at least sign.
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You could really be bare with someone din na you can say things without any filter.
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And they'd understand where you're coming from.
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Kasi sa friends, I mean, you still somehow got to level what you're saying with them to not offend you.
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Kasi it's not a commitment naman.
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Relasyon, commitment.
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Commitment talaga.
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Yung sa last ko is, could you ever consider an asexual as a normal person?
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Oh, definitely, yeah.
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Besides yung preference na to not have sex, you're still a person.
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You can't take away someone's being na maging isang tao.
15:23.0
Parang ano lang, being straight doesn't define you.
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Being ace doesn't really define me.
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Parang actually super fun niya para sa akin.
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Kasi di ko siya sinasay out loud talaga na asexual ako.
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Hindi ko ako kinahiya.
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Tinatryhard ko lang kasi na hindi ako ma-define ng asexuality.
15:41.0
There's more to it than what I've learned sa past experience ako with my friends.
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Hindi nila alam kung ano yung asexuality.
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And siya, super active niyan.
15:53.4
Super open-minded about it.
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Hindi ko na-feel na other ako.
15:56.8
Yung sexahan niya hindi siya super duper defining factor ng relationship.
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It's something na we all share naman.
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Kasi hindi rin naman samang defining factor.
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It's a lot of things.
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The idea of like asexuality nga, isn't conformed into like a single box.
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Everyone's unique.
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Everyone is unique.
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Asexuals are not invisible.
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We're not things.
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We're also humans.
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It's just we're humans who wouldn't like to have sex.
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So that's just it.
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Just know about it lang.
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Thank you for watching!
